You guys/girls ever have any regrets? (Read: opposite sex)

[hanselthecaretaker]

It could be anything; not learning to do something, not hooking up with someone, etc.

There is a catch though, when it comes to women for instance:

(College)I met a chick last summer who I know showed interest in me(I caught her looking at my butt, would always look for me when I came to the store she worked at, and I got her #; I called her a couple times, and she called me once.

However, this one time late at night, I returned an earlier call I got from her probably between 12-1am. I was a little drunk(highly buzzed), and I think she knew it. I tried to get her to come over and she most likely interpretted it as a booty call, even though I told her we had people over and were just chillin playin cards. I played it like I was just teasing her, and said goodnight like it was no biggie, but I think I did some trust/comfort level damage with that one.

After that, I tried calling her two or three times total and she didn't answer; I didn't leave a message at all. I knew what was up. I tried talking to her at her work when I saw her about getting together and just got the "I'm busy" reply, which she was, working/taking classes; but I still knew in the back of my mind I fucked things up. I tried to have her sit down and talk with me, but no go. Asked her why she never answered her phone and she said she "lost it".
So I backed off, and just treated her as a friendly acquaintence talking occasionally, and haven't brought up anything about "hooking up" since last fall.
She displayed the same type of behavior as before when I knew she was interested in me, (aways turning her head looking for me when I walked/drove by).
I know since I've met other girls since then I shouldn't care less about this missed chance, but the fact that I never had this one when I know I could have kinda irks me. The fact that she probably thinks I'm someone I'm not(just another guy looking for random sex) also bugs me, and that there's no easy way to tell her now.
She is graduating at the end of the summer, and part of me wants her to just get out of town now so I never have to see her again; the other part wants to tell her whats up, even if nothing happens.
I hate bringing up the past.
I think the bottom line is that I want to know what the hell she is thinking/feeling, but how can I drag this out of a girl who I've put on edge once already?

The weird thing is I don't care about having sex with her nearly as much now as just knowing what she is thinking/feeling.

I just felt like getting my thoughts out.

 

[jerseyart]

So why not just tell her?

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

So why not just tell her?

Right, I guess I'll never know otherwise, but getting a straight answer out of her will prove to be challenging in itself.

 

[jerseyart]

Dude, unless she is a toal bitch she should be willing to at least sit down and talk with you over a cup of coffee. Just tell her the truth. Good luck orb

And to answer your question yes, there is one regret.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

to tell her whats up, even if nothing happens.

 

[vinylgroover]

I could have banged so many more women when i was younger, but just couldn't be bothered.

It's a shame, because i would have got it out of my system earlier and should have been married by now. Instead i'm making up for those lost years now.

 

[Davs]

I am trying to help you --

You sound like an idiot. Just because a girl checks you out doesn't mean you get to score. You probably sounded like an arrogant bastard to her when you called her. Women hate that shit. You probably called her up thinking, "I know you think I'm hot, how awesome am I". I am telling you she probably wants to see you get your ass kicked for that.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

I am trying to help you --

You sound like an idiot. Just because a girl checks you out doesn't mean you get to score. You probably sounded like an arrogant bastard to her when you called her. Women hate that shit. You probably called her up thinking, "I know you think I'm hot, how awesome am I". I am telling you she probably wants to see you get your ass kicked for that.

Dude, what the hell is your problem? You misinterpreted my post, and it seems as though you are trying to take out some of your own frustrations on me. I don't know who you think I am, but you are too quick to judge(negatively, I might add); people hate that shit.

Actually, I think I will ask her if she thinks I'm an arrogant asshole and listen to what she has to say.

I also once long ago asked her if I upset her about anything and sounding surprised, she said no. If I ever made her feel bad of course I would want to make it up to her; but women rarely admit to someone they barely know that that person made them feel bad. And if she was trying to forget about me, how jealous would I have to be to go and open an old wound, so to speak? That is part of the reason I am reluctant to talk to her about it, as I am having a hard time reading her, to see if she would be receptive to talking about it. As I said, I don't like bringing up the past if it involved bad feelings.

 

[awittyusername]

Bro, forget about her. If you are at college there are tons of hot chics around.

My regrets....

I regret every F-N longterm relationship I had. (only 4) In everyone I did what I thought I was supposed to. Treat them great, buy them what they want, help them goto school, get a car, etc (basically be a bitch) In every case I was treat like a chump. The first 2 girls dumped me for someone better looking and more $. So, I improved myself greatly (got ripped and rich) But, the last 2 still treated me like a chump. But, because I was the man (in my small area) they wouldnt let me go. (through guilt, threats etc when I tryed to break up) They didn't love me but, it just took them alot longer to find a comparable guy to get with before they would let me go.

I know not to be a nice guy to pick up chicks but I would like to be nice to a girl I want to be with. Oh, fuck It. I figured I missed out on banging 27 girls while I was in these relationships.

 

[Davs]

HA, you got the numer? 27?

I do that too.

Ayways, Hansel, I dont' mean to sound rude. It just seems like a lost cause. Who knows why. I wouldn't ask her though. That'll rule it out in my opinion, make her feel nervous. Maybea thats OK if she isreally drunk in a dark dance club/bar/party. Otherwise, I say try to get to be buddies with her and thatsyour bst chance.

Also, you know I am frustrated right now? Congratuflations you are learning alot of shit aren't you? You must be the happist person ever to have lived to be enlightened like that. People act frustrarted when they are frustrated, yes.