wondering if any woman here can help out

[garryb]

i guess the guys are welcome to help out too , but figured there wouldnt be too many surfing in the womans fitness thread. lol

anyways...

long story short, my wife used to be super crazy about sex(2-3 times a day ,7 days a week) . we have since had our beautiful little girl who is now almost 3 and our fare share of relationship ups and downs . now im lucky if i get sex 1-2 times a week if that in a month some times. she thinks here body has never recovered fully from having a baby and what not.

so...... my question is , is or has there been any other women who have gone through the same thing ? if so what did you do or what supps did you take to help?should she go to the doctors to see about hormone levels? any help would be awsome.





thanks

garryb

 

[RottenWillow]

i guess the guys are welcome to help out too , but figured there wouldnt be too many surfing in the womans fitness thread. lol

anyways...

long story short, my wife used to be super crazy about sex(2-3 times a day ,7 days a week) . we have since had our beautiful little girl who is now almost 3 and our fare share of relationship ups and downs . now im lucky if i get sex 1-2 times a week if that in a month some times. she thinks here body has never recovered fully from having a baby and what not.

so...... my question is , is or has there been any other women who have gone through the same thing ? if so what did you do or what supps did you take to help?should she go to the doctors to see about hormone levels? any help would be awsome.

thanks

garryb

Assuming your relationship isn't currently in one of those "downs" you mentioned, self image could be the issue.

And yes a visit to to the doc certainly couldn't hurt. That could at least rule out a physiological source.

 

[kate1]

Parenting a 3 yrs old will definitely do it. Was just on WebMd and came across this article/slide show - info here should help you:

Sex-Drive Killers Slideshow: Low Libido Causes From Stress to Medications

 

[musclemom]

I hate these kinds of threads. There's no simple answer because the truth is for women sex is WAY more than just a physical drive. Emotions, stress, overall health, levels of tiredness, hormone levels, hormonal BC, etc., etc., etc., all factor in.

I once heard a male sex researcher actually say that basically, for a man, sex is from the neck down, for a woman, from the neck up, a fact which men don't get (or they don't want to hear, or they don't want to listen or they won't try to understand). 99% of the time the problem is there is no problem. She's just gone from fulfilling all of your emotional needs (men manifest much of their emotional intimacy through sex) to now also catering to the most emotionally demanding animal there is: A human child. There's only so much a person can give. Guess what, in the battle between who gets her time and attention, child wins, hands down.

You want more sex, if she doesn't work, give her regular breaks from the kid to have pure grownup time by herself, not catering to your needs or the house chores. If she does work, make sure the household chores are split down the middle and that she isn't solely responsible for all the kid related stuff, in addition to some free time. If caring for children and a house was so great then rich people wouldn't have nannys, maids and butlers.

But forget 21 times a week, sorry, get real; that's called honeymoon, which is now over. Shoot for quality over quantity.

 

[garryb]

I hate these kinds of threads. There's no simple answer because the truth is for women sex is WAY more than just a physical drive. Emotions, stress, overall health, levels of tiredness, hormone levels, hormonal BC, etc., etc., etc., all factor in.

I once heard a male sex researcher actually say that basically, for a man, sex is from the neck down, for a woman, from the neck up, a fact which men don't get (or they don't want to hear, or they don't want to listen or they won't try to understand). 99% of the time the problem is there is no problem. She's just gone from fulfilling all of your emotional needs (men manifest much of their emotional intimacy through sex) to now also catering to the most emotionally demanding animal there is: A human child. There's only so much a person can give. Guess what, in the battle between who gets her time and attention, child wins, hands down.

You want more sex, if she doesn't work, give her regular breaks from the kid to have pure grownup time by herself, not catering to your needs or the house chores. If she does work, make sure the household chores are split down the middle and that she isn't solely responsible for all the kid related stuff, in addition to some free time. If caring for children and a house was so great then rich people wouldn't have nannys, maids and butlers.

But forget 21 times a week, sorry, get real; that's called honeymoon, which is now over. Shoot for quality over quantity.

wow...hate men? or just a bad day?

my wife wants to have more sex ,its just not me wanting sex from her. she the one who brought up taking supps and or getting checked out, not me. do i want more sex...hell ya. but im not gonna press the issue. she owns here own buissness ,has a 3 yr old and not to mention all our pets and what not. i know shes got alot on her plate ,and i do my best to help her out and give her any and all support i can.

your post did nothing to help out nor did it give any advice, but only showed that you either hate men, or had a bad day and took your shit out on a forum.



garryb

 

[musclemom]

wow...hate men? or just a bad day?

my wife wants to have more sex ,its just not me wanting sex from her. she the one who brought up taking supps and or getting checked out, not me. do i want more sex...hell ya. but im not gonna press the issue. she owns here own buissness ,has a 3 yr old and not to mention all our pets and what not. i know shes got alot on her plate ,and i do my best to help her out and give her any and all support i can.

your post did nothing to help out nor did it give any advice, but only showed that you either hate men, or had a bad day and took your shit out on a forum.

garryb

Just from that tiny bit of information you've given she's exhausted and stressed out. No supplement is going make up for the fact she's burning the candle at both ends. And I'm sorry if you don't like my response but I was just being honest, nothing more ... as I said in my previous post, men don't like to hear it. They feel it comes off as man hating or bitter.

The short answer is you can't shoot an otherwise stressed out or exhausted woman up with the "female equivalent" of test and have her get insta-horny. We don't work that way. You shoot enough test into a man, I don't care if he's been operating on 2 hours of sleep for the past month, he'll still wanna do it. Male and female libido is COMPLETELY different. If her health and hormones are in good shape, which can only be determined by a full physical and endocrine panel, then then the best practical thing that can be done is for you to take a realistic look at your life as a couple and see what you can do to lighten her load, emotionally and physically. If she doesn't feel good about her body then give her a membership to a gym and tell her you'll watch the baby while she goes, be slick and throw in a couple of sessions with a personal trainer to get her on track. If your finances don't stretch that far then have her join up here for training and diet advice and Fitday so she can log her food and we'll get her on the right track.

If her personal physical resources are strained then she won't have much desire for sex, because nature wired women that way, not because I'm a bitch for telling you so

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Nothing kills my sex drive like being completly stressed out and I am a horny chick most of the time. I would talk to her more about what she thinks it is that has lowered her desire see if there is anyway to lighten the load for her not saying you have to do it but you know here hiring more staff for her business that sort of thing. Try to figure out together what could make her happier cause a happy woman is a horny woman.

 

[PhoenixS]

Yep it's probably not so much a hormonal thing, but stress and being tired.

 

[goin on 4T]

I disagree give her some PT-141 and she can't resist her need for sex! BTW I know what you are saying MM. But PT-141 is some crazy stuff which makes the need for sex in men and woman unstopable.
Oh and yes she needs a freaking vacation and you need to pamper her more, give her some alone time where you have the 3 year old and she gets to relax, and spend more time listening to her feelings and don't open your mouth with any suggestions of how to fix her issues, I used to do that all the time (that is a big sex killer), they just want you to listen, hear their feelings and know you love them.

Just from that tiny bit of information you've given she's exhausted and stressed out. No supplement is going make up for the fact she's burning the candle at both ends. And I'm sorry if you don't like my response but I was just being honest, nothing more ... as I said in my previous post, men don't like to hear it. They feel it comes off as man hating or bitter.

The short answer is you can't shoot an otherwise stressed out or exhausted woman up with the "female equivalent" of test and have her get insta-horny. We don't work that way. You shoot enough test into a man, I don't care if he's been operating on 2 hours of sleep for the past month, he'll still wanna do it. Male and female libido is COMPLETELY different. If her health and hormones are in good shape, which can only be determined by a full physical and endocrine panel, then then the best practical thing that can be done is for you to take a realistic look at your life as a couple and see what you can do to lighten her load, emotionally and physically. If she doesn't feel good about her body then give her a membership to a gym and tell her you'll watch the baby while she goes, be slick and throw in a couple of sessions with a personal trainer to get her on track. If your finances don't stretch that far then have her join up here for training and diet advice and Fitday so she can log her food and we'll get her on the right track.

If her personal physical resources are strained then she won't have much desire for sex, because nature wired women that way, not because I'm a bitch for telling you so

 

[bk_in_houston]

Musclemom's right. Women have a totally different sex drive than men. For women, it's more about the emotional aspect and I believe women to be much more complex psychologically. Once kids are in the picture, it's pretty much downhill. Sorry. Perhaps this is why men cheat. I think women and men have different needs.