When your friends' parents start dying off

[fistfullofsteel]

It's really scary because you think your parents could be next and your death is coming up after that. One of my close friend's father died of a heart attack, another close friend's mother died in car accident and now one of my childhood close friend's mother has breast cancer. Hopefully she will turn out ok, but for some reason when something like this happens I feel death getting alot closer. Anybody else feel like this or am I a paranoid android? Maybe it's cause I'm losing that feeling of security of having everybody I've known for along time around. I mean losing the feeling of knowing that they are still there if you want to talk to them.

 

[Gambino]

part of growing older i reckon
i've been lucky, 3 outta 4 grandparents still alive, parents kicking strong
i knew 2 outta 4 great-gps
full rack of cousins and aunts

but i know it won't last forever

 

[rnch]

dealing with the mortality of our parents is one more step in our maturing process...not a pleasant step, granted.....

 

[Mr. dB]

i knew 2 outta 4 great-gps

Most people have eight of those...

 

[Mr. dB]

Both of my grandfathers were dead long before I was born, although one of my great-grandfathers only died a few years before, having outlived his son. Grandmothers died when I was a kid. Mom died 12 years ago, but my dad's still alive, I saw him today.

In a period of eighteen months, I lost my mom, a cat, and my brother. I think I was most upset about the cat.

 

[biteme]

It's really scary because you think your parents could be next and your death is coming up after that. One of my close friend's father died of a heart attack, another close friend's mother died in car accident and now one of my childhood close friend's mother has breast cancer. Hopefully she will turn out ok, but for some reason when something like this happens I feel death getting alot closer. Anybody else feel like this or am I a paranoid android? Maybe it's cause I'm losing that feeling of security of having everybody I've known for along time around. I mean losing the feeling of knowing that they are still there if you want to talk to them.

You're gonna die soon.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

You're gonna die soon.

you first, i insist. i have to stick around to see the ny football giants win at least 5 more superbowls and watch games at the new giants stadium after it's completed and see the completion of the new wtc. i can't forget about the countless threads Frisky will post that i need to read about how she took out a bus full of senior citizens and then plowed her car into a van full of nuns and trying to explain to everybody that it wasn't really her fault.

 

[DocHoliday]

Most people have eight of those...

I knew 3 of my 4 great grand parents, I knew 4 of 4 grand parents, and they are all gone now... dB, what do you mean most have 8 of those?

 

[stilleto]

some people's parents have already died off...

 

[rnch]

the longer my dad's been gone, the smarter he becomes.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

worrying a lot kills you quicker

 

[bignate73]

just had a client of mine lose her mom yesterday, her sister last year. you don't know what to say in that case, plus her husband has prostate cancer. really tough. makes you think.

then my bro calls me up today saying my mom has been acting weird. risky behavior, not caring about the consequences etc. it sucks.

 

[heatherrae]

I know exactly how you feel. I had both my mom and grandfather die within a 2 week period in December, and I really feel much more in touch with my own mortality now.

 

[Razorguns]

it basically means time to start fulfilling your goals in life while they're still alive.

 

[bignate73]

it basically means time to start fulfilling your goals in life while they're still alive.

that coupled with the immediate things going on with me, really push me.

 

[Sub-Zero]

im not mature enough for this thread but my deepest sympathys to anyone who has to deal with loss, and best wishes to those family members who have recently lost lovedones

 

[bignate73]

death knows no age. best bet is hit the ground running. you only have one time around here.

 

[Mr. dB]

I knew 3 of my 4 great grand parents, I knew 4 of 4 grand parents, and they are all gone now... dB, what do you mean most have 8 of those?

Didn't each of your grandparents have two parents?

 

[jenscats5]

I lost both my parents before I turned 30.....

 

[digger]

I used to tell Mrs. Digger that I envied her having both parents still alive (they had her young), but she pointed out that it meant more time to dread losing them. I'm a glass-half-full kind of guy, she's a glass-half-empty kind of gal.

 

[jnevin]

I think about it sometimes. The worst part is I live 2000 miles away from my family. I don't get to talk to anyone that much, all my cousins are grown and going to college, my grandmothers are old and their health is failing, my mom and dad aren't getting any younger, etc.

It's kind of helped me though. I just took a job where I'll be making a little less, but should have a ton more time in a few months. I'll get to visit the fam, do some sheet for myself.