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What's the nicest way to tell woman to lose few extra pounds?
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needtogetaas
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hmmm not badprincesa said:
needtogetaas
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Offer to cook for her for a wile.perkele said:
*The_West*
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well if she is serious about powerlifting, it is unlikely that she wants to be slim. if she is happy and healthy, whats the problem?perkele said:
riverrock
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Go on a day out and dinner after and take loads of photos! She'll get such a shock at her appearance in the photos, she'kll start dieting straight away. Make sure they're blown up and framed. Pretend you're so proud to have the photo on the wall, but she'll be mad and will vow to give you a photo for both of you to be proud to hang up.
Tell her to compete in a lower weight class. She'll have to lose fat, not muscle. omg genius!
Also, send naked pics of her in the k message you give me. tia
Also, send naked pics of her in the k message you give me. tia
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lolgonelifting said:
Telling someone they need to lose weight is like telling a smoker they need to quit smoking. People get angry because you're insulting their intelligence in stating the obvious. Let's face it, people know if they are overweight, just like people know cigarette smoking is bad for them.
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ahh i see, so its for your benefit, not hers?perkele said:
is she your girlfriend?
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how long have you been seeing her, and was she like this when you started seeing her?perkele said:
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pick your spots when to give diet tips, for me since I'm i saty super lean usually just ask me.
musclemom said:
This is correct. Women are very body conscious but most of the time dont have a workable plan or are afraid to take that first step. I would think the best thing is to integrate her into your workouts, which means "dumbing down" your workouts to her level until she gets in better shape, or adding more workouts that you do with her simply to get her going.
*The_West* said:
She was even heavier. Her weight went down little bit when she started powerlifting again after an eight year break, and after having few kids.
I've known her a long long time. Recently she got divorced and then she started drooling after me. She's one of the nicest person ever so I gave her a chance even though physically I was not attacted to her.
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Start serving her dinner in a slop bucket on the back porch
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I pissed mine off slightly the other day and low and behold today she says shes going to the gym with me tomorrow. I win!
Big_BK said:
She's going to the gym to cheat on you.
The problem is, some people really fucking hate exercise. I'm married to someone who is like that. If it's not for sex or to collect a paycheck he hates getting sweaty, exerting himself, or doing anything physical. He likes some types of cardio (biking) but where we live it's not practical year round and you actually have to drive the bikes out of the area immediately around our home, we're in a valley, surrounding by brutal hills. We tried getting a stationary bike, it bored him after a few weeks. People who are non exercisers are very frustrating.superdave said:
I believe if people want to work out, they will find a way and the self motivators are the only ones who lose weight and stick with it. If they want to lose weight and are at a loss they'll say "I'd like to drop some pounds/lose some weight, I'm working out, what do you think I'm doing wrong?" or "I'd love to work out but don't know where to start." Women come on the board all the time to the women's forum and say that.
Some powerlifting chicks, in particular, have their own reasons for not wanting to lose weight. Some women LIKE being big (in addition to being strong) and if that means carrying some extra pounds so be it.
Perk, take it as I'm saying it, respect the woman enough to say to her, "I think you're a wonderful person and would hate to do anything to ruin our friendship but I respect you far to much to lead you on in any way, you're just not the physical type I go for." If she asks what you mean, then tell her you go for slimmer ladies. That way you're being dead honest, the decision as to whether to lose weight or not is entirely up to her and she can also decide how she feels about how much you value appearance. She might think you're too shallow and will just back off. Either way, problem solved.perkele said:
It's been my experience that trying to sugar coat honesty backfires in the end.
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musclemom said:
+1
The person knows stuffing their face with caek is bad for them, & that they're overweight, no need to scream in their face repeatedly "FAT BITCH! EARTHQUAKE! AAAHHHH!!!" ad nauseum. I would however offer to undergo lifestyle changes together e.g. "fancy going for a walk with me?", "Want me to cook meals for a while?" "Do the shopping" etc., that way, any semi rational woman would know you're trying to tactfully lend a hand.
If she'd still kick up about it get rid of her. Fuck, not even married yet letting herself go & losing the rag at any effort to assist.
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I honestly didn't know there were chicks who were into powerlifting. That's kinda scary. I'd choose my words very carefully. Definitely stay away from things like . . .
"You're just too much woman for one man to handle."
"I'd like to see less of you."
or, when she's climbing on top of you for seks,
"Hey, one at a time!"
"You're just too much woman for one man to handle."
"I'd like to see less of you."
or, when she's climbing on top of you for seks,
"Hey, one at a time!"
perkele said:
Wow, that just makes you sound like an arrogant and condescending fuck.
Why don't you do her a favor and dump her; if someone feels that they are in the position to "give someone a chance" to be with them they certainly must have a wide variety of women at their feet to choose from, no?
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Tell her that her ass is getting soft.
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musclemom said:
Plus 100
I don't see how any other approach could work.
Men are very visual creatures and the fact that you saw past the fact that she is not your physical type in the hopes of getting to know her (because you already knew you liked her as a person) to see if you could get *over that* says a lot about your level of maturity and a lot about your strength of character. There are very few men who would remotely entertain this notion. So in that aspect she is a lucky woman. However, having said that, this doesn't mean that she will necessarily be willing to change her external appearance merely to make herself more attractive to you.
Good luck, let us know how it works out.
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velvett said:
Velvett I think you took that the wrong way.
Men are VERY visual creatures so you can't be angry with a man for this point of view. Actually I feel that he should be commended for this approach. Not a lot of men would even go on a date with a woman unless he wanted to jump her bones from the word go, let alone have a relationship to see if his attraction could grow.
Women are the ones who warm slowly. Men decide sometimes in a nanosecond (based on a woman's physical appearance alone) whether or not they would even give a female the time of day regardless of what a stellar human being she is.
You can't be upset with Perkele for being honest.
velvett said:
I agree with this. If I were a woman and a man said that to me, I'd head butt him. lol
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the_alcatraz said:
I disagree.
Men are visual and for the most part superficial in this regard. A man needs to have all of his senses aroused before he will want to pursue emotional intimacy with a woman whereas women need to have their emotional needs stimulated/met before they will want to become physical - herein lies one of the biggest sources of frustration and miscommunication between the sexes. Strangely enough we both want the same thing. Problem is we (by design) approach from completely opposite angles.
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I'm a straight talker these days. Life is too short to be PC about everything and this is a perfect case. If I'm with a girl who I feel needs to lose a couple of pounds then I say it. I say I would find you more attractive if you lost a couple of pounds. If she can't handle it then she can let me know. At this point I make a decision if her weight is that much of a factor, if so I move on. You only get one life and it is really short, why waste it being confused?
With that said you must be reasonable here, life isn't perfect so ask yourself how perfect does she need to be. What actually matters.
With that said you must be reasonable here, life isn't perfect so ask yourself how perfect does she need to be. What actually matters.
BIKINIMOM said:
Saying that men are superficial is like saying all blondes are dumb or men who dress well are gay.
I was attracted to my wife's intelligence and views on life before I even noticed how beautiful she was. When I started dating my wife, she was overweight in every regard, and I broke off my relationship with a gorgeous swimmer with the perfect body. Looks don't mean much to me when compared to intelligence, outlook on life, and the ability to have fun. I'd want to be able to sit and have an intelligent meaningful conversation with my wife when we're gray and too old for sex, not ignore each other.
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the_alcatraz said:
well put.
(with that said, I do love having sex with 22 year old hammers!)
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the_alcatraz said:
You sir, are the exception to the rule. Most men don't *get this* until they are much older and even then, they still end up chasing the "empty-headed" or "empty-hearted" bitches because "they are hot" disregarding for the most part the women who have everythig to offer them EXCEPT being "hot."
Truth be told, my own husband admitted after seeing a pic of me 20 years ago, there is NO WAY he would have given me the time of day....
It hurt my feelings a little bit because I married him when he had nothing (the only woman to do this with the exception of his first wife who he married right out of the service). But he was honest. Not to mention that he has taken care of me many times when I am sick so I DO KNOW he loves me for me....
Still you must admit that MOST MEN are not this way.
Generally, they are more superficial when it comes to physical beauty and there is no need to get upset with them for that. It is part of their biology, just as it is a woman's biology to be attracted to the man who will be able to provide for her and her offspring best.
Men value beauty and women value security - all else stems from this.
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BIKINIMOM said:You sir, are the exception to the rule. Most men don't *get this* until they are much older and even then, they still end up chasing the "empty-headed" or "empty-hearted" bitches because "they are hot" disregarding for the most part the women who have everythig to offer them EXCEPT being "hot."
Truth be told, my own husband admitted after seeing a pic of me 20 years ago, there is NO WAY he would have given me the time of day....
It hurt my feelings a little bit because I married him when he had nothing (the only woman to do this with the exception of his first wife who he married right out of the service). But he was honest. Not to mention that he has taken care of me many times when I am sick so I DO KNOW he loves me for me....
Still you must admit that MOST MEN are not this way.
Generally, they are more superficial when it comes to physical beauty and there is no need to get upset with them for that. It is part of their biology, just as it is a woman's biology to be attracted to the man who will be able to provide for her and her offspring best.
Men value beauty and women value security - all else stems from this.
Well I value money and loyalty. Beauty I buy. Security I carry. I also watch a lot of mob movies.
How do they tell ladies to lose weight?
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Megalomaniac said:
Simple... by not giving her the time of day.
you make very strong points and I agree with you on ALMOST everything that you said. However, I know a lot of decent men who share my mindset and values. I'm not one-of-a-kind nor am I special. I'm just a decent man. There are a lot of them out there. This post is by no means to defend men and present them in good light, but rather to step-over any / all stereotypes regarding males thinking with a prominent organ south of the equator. Yes, some of them do that, many of them do that, but there are decent men out there. I also realise that you have far more experience in life than I do, by virtue of your age and misfortunes, but life has taught me that sometimes you just need to trust people, no matter how messed up it may seem and no matter how betrayed you might feel, you can't go around and not trust people or believe everyone is the enemy. I was like that for a long time. I think I kinda went off topic a little, but that is a subject that I know a little about. My appologies if I bored any of you with my ranting lol.
Anyways, my position on the topic of this thread is that women are an important part of everyone, they have given us birth, they have raised us, they have fed us, and I have nothing but respect for them, especially the single mothers out there who are trying to make it.
I second my saying. If I were a woman and a man says the above mentioned statement that I commented on to me, I'd headbutt the living daylights out of him. He doesn't know what it takes to be a woman, through childbirth, responsibility, struggling with values and perception of society...etc...
I'll shut up now.
Anyways, my position on the topic of this thread is that women are an important part of everyone, they have given us birth, they have raised us, they have fed us, and I have nothing but respect for them, especially the single mothers out there who are trying to make it.
I second my saying. If I were a woman and a man says the above mentioned statement that I commented on to me, I'd headbutt the living daylights out of him. He doesn't know what it takes to be a woman, through childbirth, responsibility, struggling with values and perception of society...etc...
I'll shut up now.
BIKINIMOM said:You sir, are the exception to the rule. Most men don't *get this* until they are much older and even then, they still end up chasing the "empty-headed" or "empty-hearted" bitches because "they are hot" disregarding for the most part the women who have everythig to offer them EXCEPT being "hot."
Truth be told, my own husband admitted after seeing a pic of me 20 years ago, there is NO WAY he would have given me the time of day....
It hurt my feelings a little bit because I married him when he had nothing (the only woman to do this with the exception of his first wife who he married right out of the service). But he was honest. Not to mention that he has taken care of me many times when I am sick so I DO KNOW he loves me for me....
Still you must admit that MOST MEN are not this way.
Generally, they are more superficial when it comes to physical beauty and there is no need to get upset with them for that. It is part of their biology, just as it is a woman's biology to be attracted to the man who will be able to provide for her and her offspring best.
Men value beauty and women value security - all else stems from this.
nimbus said:
nimbus oversimplifying things lol ^^
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good thinking jnev. you're a genius!jnevin said:
jnevin said:
that's messed up....but I know you're joking so I'll lmao
nimbus said:
say what? Is that some Guru reply? lol
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If someone is smoking near her, run across the room and do a (somehow) slow motion dive and "Nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnooooooooooooooooooo!!!" scream and tackle her out of the way to safety. When the wtf look comes, just say, "Pfft! You saw what happened when the Hindenburg caught fire." And then raise your eyebrows and nod toward her torso.
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wtf?
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perkele said:
Damn...that's beefy. I'm totaly with you bro.
nimbus said:
she's underweight not overweight lmao
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this is funny, but not many fatties can actually moonwalk.nimbus said:
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although that would be pretty cool to see.*The_West* said:
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wow i just quoted myself. twice. how gay.*The_West* said:
Right before you have sex with her, say you want to tie her up. After she's all tied up at all corners of the bed, in walks "Dr. Feldman the Liposuction Dr." Honey, this is an intervention...
Then hit her in the head with a bat, so she doesn't feel any pain.
Then hit her in the head with a bat, so she doesn't feel any pain.
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1. Get a CD of tuba music loaded up in the stereo.
2. Use the remote to unpause it every time she starts walking around your pad.
It was funny on Family Guy.
2. Use the remote to unpause it every time she starts walking around your pad.
It was funny on Family Guy.
Nicest way?
"You're fat. please?"
"You're fat. please?"
BIKINIMOM said:
Who's angry?
Why be involved with someone that is not your type and expect them to change so you can stand to look at them and be aroused?
I don't see the logic in that.
If she wasn't buzzing up around him after being divorced - he'd not give her the time of day beyond the friendship that already existed between them.
He should cut her loose and find another girl that suits his needs.
I am at most expressing my opinion - no one has to argree with me or take my advice.
BIKINIMOM said:
He's not into thick chicks and she is one, he said himself that he's giving her a chance because she's showing interest in him, he knows her and she's a nice person.
This men are visual hoopla doesn't apply when the man chooses to be involved with someone that he already knows he is not attracted to.
It's insanity.
Imagine a man telling you that you have to gain 50lbs and dye your hair blond because he can't get aroused looking at you otherwise and then belittles your looks because of his own choices.
My critism is not with what someone likes or dislikes it is for an individual to knowingly make a choice that they don't like and then expects someone else to take responsibilty in fixing it for them.
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perkele said:
+1
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perkele said:
i agree...but i dont think you should say that the weight is why you're backing off..
her weight is her issue..don't make it about you.. if you like her..stick around.. if not.. end it nicely.. but no need to tell her about your opinion of her weight..
if you really accepted her, heart and all, you'd make it work.. the fact that ur not attracted to her despite all that she offers just means she's not the girl for you whether + or -20lbs.
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velvett said:Who's angry?
Why be involved with someone that is not your type and expect them to change so you can stand to look at them and be aroused?
I don't see the logic in that.
If she wasn't buzzing up around him after being divorced - he'd not give her the time of day beyond the friendship that already existed between them.
He should cut her loose and find another girl that suits his needs.
I am at most expressing my opinion - no one has to argree with me or take my advice.
You sounded annoyed. LOL one might even say miffed.
But yes, you are correct. If she isn't *it girl* for him, then he really should let her go.
'Course how many times did it happen to us that we REALLY thought we were attracted to someone, then we got to know them and we got turned off?
We are always entitled to change our minds.
SpyWizard said:
lol thats some coldass shiznit bro just sayin
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