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What's the hardest thing you have had to endure in life?
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Damn, sorry to hear that...
Death of my father and getting out of a sick twisted relationship....
Scotsman
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Won't mention the hardest thing but here are some other ones that were pretty bad.
Watching my favorite person in the world die of cancer and getting so bad he forgot who I was.
Having six friends die in the span of a year.
Having my dad misdiagnosed with ALS, then finding out he has irreversible nerve damage that's also degenerative.
Cheers,
Scotsman
Watching my favorite person in the world die of cancer and getting so bad he forgot who I was.
Having six friends die in the span of a year.
Having my dad misdiagnosed with ALS, then finding out he has irreversible nerve damage that's also degenerative.
Cheers,
Scotsman
calveless wonder
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my everlasting internal struggle with myself.... (being my own worst enemy)
some past serious betrayals from friends/coworkers/women. codependent relationships, business/financial failures
it's hard to isolate one thing. but overall the *extreme* ups and downs and the untimelyness of alot of the downs. my life has gone from epically awesome to incredibly miserable and vice versa in very short time spans several times in my life
some past serious betrayals from friends/coworkers/women. codependent relationships, business/financial failures
it's hard to isolate one thing. but overall the *extreme* ups and downs and the untimelyness of alot of the downs. my life has gone from epically awesome to incredibly miserable and vice versa in very short time spans several times in my life
jaimejame78
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The sudden death of my father when I was a teenager. Having yo deal with people who are so up and down with their moods (bi-polar/chronically depressed family members) that they take all there crap out on you. My son being diagnosed with nystagmus and then later diagnosed with Asperger's syndrom. All I can do is take one day at a time and hope tomorrow gets better. 
For me is divorce...I'm struggling to deal with it especially not being with my kids all the time. Sucks they have to deal with this when they are older. Time heals all wounds I guess. It's been 2 years going through this shit and I don't think it's ever going to get better...
fvck, that's all I got.
ponyfitness
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Opening my Christmas presents on Boxing Day in a detox centre we had taken my mother to on Christmas Eve night. Among other alcoholic related incidents.
Scotsman
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Just keep your chin up bro. Think of the positives, you will have more time to spend with them, the divorce will come to a conclusion(even though I'm sure it seems otherwise), You'll be able to help them deal with it. Just make sure you stay strong for them and for yourself. Take heart in the fact that there is a light at the end of the tunnel even if you can't see it yet.
Cheers,
Scotsman
Thanks bro...I don't want to take anti-depressants...i like having emotion them fucking things make me a zombie. Having my kids is my anti-depressant and something to look forward to..It's the love part that is killing me...I can't move past it..
canadianhitman
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A serious bout of depression that damn near ruined me about 12 years ago.
canadianhitman
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And I agree with Woot...unless you absolutely HAVE too, stay the hell away from antidepressants. I beat my depression, which was pretty bad, without any pills; a lot can be accomplished with lifestyle changes / new and exciting challenges.
OMG
Why would anyone choose to have a "natural" childbirth?
Scotsman
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We put the fun in dysfunctional family.
Seriously man try and get out and do stuff that you like. Hit the gym, go for a drive up in the hills, find a rig and laugh at the guys pulling a wet string.... Just don't sit and stew man that's the worst thing you can do.
I know it doesn't seem that way sometimes but things can always get worse.
Cheers,
Scotsman
Look at yourself from the outside in, bro. You're on top of the world. Lots of guys here would trade to have your life. Enjoy it, we only get one.
No answer - my father died right in front of me last May but I saw it coming for months so I was mentally prepared.
Its okay to be sad, you've been through a lot. take it a day at a time, moment by moment. everyone has different ways of coping, and it takes time to heal.
I like scotsman's advice to get out there and do stuff. Sometimes helping other people can help too, like volunteering.
My grandfather who raised me passed away a year ago (I cried for days)
Almost getting a divorce more than once because of bullshit (on my part mostly)
Being kidnapped back home
Growing up in a very tough neighborhood (survival of the fittest)
Dysfunctional relationships
Deaths of family members
Some family members dying from Cancer
Taking my wife to the emergency room, more than once
Leaving my family behind and coming to Canada in search of a better life
Wrongly accused...long time ago
I'm pretty sure there's more, but that's what I can come up with now.
Almost getting a divorce more than once because of bullshit (on my part mostly)
Being kidnapped back home
Growing up in a very tough neighborhood (survival of the fittest)
Dysfunctional relationships
Deaths of family members
Some family members dying from Cancer
Taking my wife to the emergency room, more than once
Leaving my family behind and coming to Canada in search of a better life
Wrongly accused...long time ago
I'm pretty sure there's more, but that's what I can come up with now.
u can only pick 1 bro
shit i got a large menu to pick from as well.. im have to think
well it wasnt natural because i did have drugs. but they wouldnt give me an epidural for medical reasons.
Wow, brave!
sue me your karma jew
legal fees will cost u 2 mill via the karma store
9 lbs 13 oz.
jnevin
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Damn man.
That's no small potatoes lol
jaimejame78
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It's ok to be depressed or sad, never feel guilty for feeling that way. Learning how to deal with it is hard, but possible. I have tried antidepressants in the past. They just mask the real problem for a while and make you an unemotional zombie. But later those problems rear their ugly heads and eventually you have to deal with them. Nipping it in the bud now will save you from more pain later.
running out of lube for my fleshlight
jaimejame78
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i hope the crocs in aussieland tear you limb from limb
and then kanagaroos run a train on your mangled corpse
16 years ago TODAY my grandmother passed away. I was 13 years old, and it hit me hard. She was due to be released right before Christmas from the rehabilitation center/ Nursing home and everything was going great. December 1st her asshole husband died and December 2nd she slipped into a come. December 3rd she was gone, forever.
I carried guilt, shame, sadness, loss, confusion, and regret with me for many many years. Some of it I still do.
I carried guilt, shame, sadness, loss, confusion, and regret with me for many many years. Some of it I still do.
Death of my father.
lol Smurf I also had no epi (or no working epi) with a 9lb 7oz baby
still not sure what happened
JDid23
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man reading through this is making me pretty depressed.
fortunately, i haven't had too many hardships i have had to endure and i am grateful for that, but it's probably losing both of my grandfathers or trying to help my brother get by with his severe ADHD.... i had never experienced death before and when i was 12 or 13, my parents came up to visit me at sleepaway camp and told me that my grandpa died. I cried my eyes out for hours. I never wrote him a letter from camp before he died, and it bothered the hell outa me. My brother means the world to me, and his ADHD has restricted him from living the type of life a normal kid lives. Even though i do my best to help him and his confidence, it seems nothing can help him "feel normal"
fortunately, i haven't had too many hardships i have had to endure and i am grateful for that, but it's probably losing both of my grandfathers or trying to help my brother get by with his severe ADHD.... i had never experienced death before and when i was 12 or 13, my parents came up to visit me at sleepaway camp and told me that my grandpa died. I cried my eyes out for hours. I never wrote him a letter from camp before he died, and it bothered the hell outa me. My brother means the world to me, and his ADHD has restricted him from living the type of life a normal kid lives. Even though i do my best to help him and his confidence, it seems nothing can help him "feel normal"
jnevin
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CW is your little bro.
Arent you still in high schoo? by the time you are 30 you will be able to reply to the original post on this thread, guaranteed.
c-sharp minor
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Prolly finding my ex's body in the next room after she hung herself.
There's other shit I've gone through, but that's hands down been the most traumatic for me.
Sorry to hear about your divorce man. Sucks to deal with, especially when kids are involved.
There's other shit I've gone through, but that's hands down been the most traumatic for me.
Sorry to hear about your divorce man. Sucks to deal with, especially when kids are involved.
The Unbearable Hotness of Being. The girl can't help it.
c-sharp minor
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Thanks man. It's a pretty shitty thing to deal with, but everything does get easier with time.
My own parents split up for 3 years when I was a kid. They ended up getting back together eventually but it was like the end of the world when I was a little tyke. Best thing you can do for your kids is to be there for them as much as possible.
evilknievil250r
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I agree...kind of depressing thread but im glad i read it cuz i know im not the only one who went through some rough times but here we go....i got a couple...they were equally hard to endure...
Finding my mom dead on lunch break when i was a teen
finding out my girlfriend of 10 years was bangin my brother behind my back
or bein addicted to h and coke for years and losing everything leadin me to live on the streets
Pretty rough shit like im sure others have been through but coming out a better person and moving on shows wat kinda person u are and makes u stronger..
Finding my mom dead on lunch break when i was a teen
finding out my girlfriend of 10 years was bangin my brother behind my back
or bein addicted to h and coke for years and losing everything leadin me to live on the streets
Pretty rough shit like im sure others have been through but coming out a better person and moving on shows wat kinda person u are and makes u stronger..
javaguru
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What doesn't kill you makes you stronger and why would you give a shit about what anyone on this bored thinks of you?
c-sharp minor
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Very true man.
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Nah, running out of lube for the fleshlight was way more enduring.
Save a couple of people who I consider real friends, I DON'T care what people think. My not posting the worst parts of my life here has nothing to do with caring what they think....it's just none of their damned business.
This...
the truly bad stuff I don't talk about to pretty much anyone let alone a fuckin message board.
I see anti depressants getting some serious negative comments in here...
having gone through severe acute PTSD, anti anxiety meds and an SSRI were the only thing that allowed me to talk, at all, I couldn't move until I was doped up enuff to NOT care. Therapy for it actually got me past it, but without the meds I wouldn't have been able to even participate.....btw, war didnt cause the PTSD, and I won't discuss that either.
kx250rider
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#1, leaving my ex-GF in 2006... Lived together for 9 years, and I really cared for her, but it was a very unhealthy relationship. She was also my first, and I was her first that lasted longer than a summer. BUT, it was the best thing I ever did. We're now friends, and I'm now happily married, in a GREAT relationship, and I wish I had known how to get out 8 years earlier.
#2, live through 1988... January, did a dumb thing; lied on a credit application and got arrested after a perfect record, perfect grades, and perfect family history. March, my mother's health worsened (she was a smoker, and in a wheelchair since '85 when I was 17), and she fell into a coma in the County Hospital. June, house foreclosed because I couldn't make the payments anymore with my mother in the hospital, and me a total wreck unable to keep things together. July, house exploded & Burned down, just after I was able to sell it in time not to lose it to the bank. I had rented it back on July 1 from the buyers, and then the fire happened. Lost 90% of my stuff, no insurance. September, my mother died in the County Hospital after 6 months in & out of a coma. Christmas, lost my best friend after I did something foolish with his girlfriend (totally unplanned, and I didn't do anything physical, but I was very stupid and deserved to lose the friend). During the year 1988, I got totally out of being fit, and lost 55 lbs in 6 months. But the moral of the story is I never gave up, and today, I wouldn't trade my life for anyone's. Best wife in the world, no serious money problems (and that's not easy to say, with the economy the way it is), and I have worked hard enough to be in better physical shape than ever in my life, and I'm 42.
Why did I rate leaving my ex-GF as #1 when my #2 was so bad? Simple. I had the guts to do it at my own will when I left my ex, but I had no choice or way to change most of the 1988 events. Anyone can get lucky or unlucky, but it takes guts to take action that hurts really bad, only on the hope that you're going to get a gain from it later on.
Charles
#2, live through 1988... January, did a dumb thing; lied on a credit application and got arrested after a perfect record, perfect grades, and perfect family history. March, my mother's health worsened (she was a smoker, and in a wheelchair since '85 when I was 17), and she fell into a coma in the County Hospital. June, house foreclosed because I couldn't make the payments anymore with my mother in the hospital, and me a total wreck unable to keep things together. July, house exploded & Burned down, just after I was able to sell it in time not to lose it to the bank. I had rented it back on July 1 from the buyers, and then the fire happened. Lost 90% of my stuff, no insurance. September, my mother died in the County Hospital after 6 months in & out of a coma. Christmas, lost my best friend after I did something foolish with his girlfriend (totally unplanned, and I didn't do anything physical, but I was very stupid and deserved to lose the friend). During the year 1988, I got totally out of being fit, and lost 55 lbs in 6 months. But the moral of the story is I never gave up, and today, I wouldn't trade my life for anyone's. Best wife in the world, no serious money problems (and that's not easy to say, with the economy the way it is), and I have worked hard enough to be in better physical shape than ever in my life, and I'm 42.
Why did I rate leaving my ex-GF as #1 when my #2 was so bad? Simple. I had the guts to do it at my own will when I left my ex, but I had no choice or way to change most of the 1988 events. Anyone can get lucky or unlucky, but it takes guts to take action that hurts really bad, only on the hope that you're going to get a gain from it later on.
Charles
This is fuckin depressing.
Several years ago I had a long time GF/fiancé just take off on me.
After dating for years and preparing to buy a house and get married after she graduated she tells me the day before Christmas eve that she is leaving, her family pulls up and helps her pack every thing while I'm at work and is gone by the time I get home.
I have no Family and I always thought of hers as mine so it was devastating that they would do that to me.
I was given no explanation, she was as cold as ice to me ans I sat in an almost empty apt. by myself through the holidays with an engagement ring staring at me on the counter, nobody from her family even called to see if I was ok.
This was at a point in my life where pretty much all of my close life long friends had all gotten married and moved off and I was lied to about a job that had me making half of what I making, effectively making me fall deeper and deeper into debt and eventually I was forced to file for bankruptcy.
To this day I still have no idea why she did that to me(I treated her very well and she was happy).
After dating for years and preparing to buy a house and get married after she graduated she tells me the day before Christmas eve that she is leaving, her family pulls up and helps her pack every thing while I'm at work and is gone by the time I get home.
I have no Family and I always thought of hers as mine so it was devastating that they would do that to me.
I was given no explanation, she was as cold as ice to me ans I sat in an almost empty apt. by myself through the holidays with an engagement ring staring at me on the counter, nobody from her family even called to see if I was ok.
This was at a point in my life where pretty much all of my close life long friends had all gotten married and moved off and I was lied to about a job that had me making half of what I making, effectively making me fall deeper and deeper into debt and eventually I was forced to file for bankruptcy.
To this day I still have no idea why she did that to me(I treated her very well and she was happy).
JDid23
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no doubt dude... which is why reading this makes it that much more depressing lol
I was very ill in 2008 and no one knew the reason after hundreds of medical tests.
I thought I was going to die but my body fought hard during the 1.3 yrs of pain. Had to stop exercising for about 12 months which made me gain some fat but now I am back into the gym getting fit again.
I thought I was going to die but my body fought hard during the 1.3 yrs of pain. Had to stop exercising for about 12 months which made me gain some fat but now I am back into the gym getting fit again.
bant? lol
seems pretty harsh
I would of thought that you would be happy. Could you imagine if you got married, had kids, and then this happened?
The part that I find hard is when I take anything too seriously. I've always liked to believe that I can always turn myself around and see the bright / funny side of things. This was especially tough when during divorce proceedings or during funerals. Not impossible, but very tough (at least for me).
What???
I said that it's hard to not take life seriously during a divorce or during a funeral.
and the ankle bitters.
calveless wonder
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I remember when that happened....that was horrible bro. felt so terrible for you
was glad to see you doing well in life when you popped back up on the board recently
javaguru
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It is easier to vent to anonymous people you don't know and probably will never see face to face.
javaguru
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That was intentional monkey...
javaguru
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Wait, you follow the Palestinian/Israeli conflict and consider this depressing.
We need some "pick me up music" up in this thread...
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javaguru
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oooh look at me I have a geigh ass I phone: My 13 year old nephew has a geigh ass Iphone too and posts stupid shit all over the internets. I wasn't making a political statement I was commenting that the petty issues of random individuals are pretty inconsequential compared to generational hatred and conflict. Just sayin'.Just focus on the upbeat positive music.
Just focus on the upbeat positive music.
Generational hatred becomes a trend.
If one man dies, it's a tragedy.
If half a million die, it's a statistic.
It was a joke loljavaguru said:
Just focus on the upbeat positive music.
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javaguru
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I have no solution...I don't think there is a solution. It's a sad fact people can't live together because of their traditions. My freshman year in college my roomie was a jew that had a best friend that is Palestinian....it can work. Btw, his mom was a stereotypical Jewish mom...funny as hell. I think trying to stop killing each other would be a start but what do I know. I'm over the fact my family lands were stolen to create Poland after WWI. I could have been rich as fuck...
javaguru
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lollolloll..sorry ....
javaguru
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lol...a tough times thread is about to rile up the peeps.
War and divorce were the two worst experiences of my life...next.
digimon7068
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virtually every tribulation of my 45 (so far) years has been of my own making. . .and none of them were too earth-shattering. . .i've been very lucky so far. . .i have some demons that my prick father bestowed upon me, that i struggle with everyday, but my life is really pretty blessed.
the most challenging thing was probably all the stuff that my wife and i had to go through to get our first kids (the twins). . .my junk didn't get along with her junk and things just didn't work out without medical intervention. . .damned expensive, not covered by insurance, medical intervention. . .but the monetary expense was really nothing in the grand scheme of things and paled in comparison to the emotional toll that the whole thing had on my wife. . .she desparately wanted kids. . .our "own" kids. . .and each month that went by without success, while all of our friends and families were just popping them out left and right, was very hard on her. . .and seeing her in that kind of "pain" was very hard on me. . .i walked around pissed off. . .a lot. . .but, then it worked out and we got the twins. . .then a few years later, my son came along au naturale. . .and everything was right again in the world.
i'm not wealthy, but i really do have the world by the ass.
the most challenging thing was probably all the stuff that my wife and i had to go through to get our first kids (the twins). . .my junk didn't get along with her junk and things just didn't work out without medical intervention. . .damned expensive, not covered by insurance, medical intervention. . .but the monetary expense was really nothing in the grand scheme of things and paled in comparison to the emotional toll that the whole thing had on my wife. . .she desparately wanted kids. . .our "own" kids. . .and each month that went by without success, while all of our friends and families were just popping them out left and right, was very hard on her. . .and seeing her in that kind of "pain" was very hard on me. . .i walked around pissed off. . .a lot. . .but, then it worked out and we got the twins. . .then a few years later, my son came along au naturale. . .and everything was right again in the world.
i'm not wealthy, but i really do have the world by the ass.
Knocking up a 17 year old cheerleader. when i was 29 lol. was very hard to convince her to get rid of it and since she was under 18 she had to go to court and get permission from a judge. I would say im the luckiest guy in the world for getting out of that one.
Either that or marine corps basic.
Either that or marine corps basic.
Sure - a lot of stuff I talk about here no one other than family knows about. But if it's in the past I don't need to vent. Some things don't need to be rehashed, ever.
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