What would you think if someone did this?

[-SD-]

What would you think of a couple that used to be engaged but arent together anymore, just good friends now, decided to have a child together with little to no commitment of the father? Its her idea and kind of just an arrangement to give the woman a child since she is "sort of getting old" and stuff. The father could be involved in the childs life of course.
Is this sort of thing fucked up or just another thing in todays world?

 

[chris302001]

What would you think of a couple that used to be engaged but arent together anymore, just good friends now, decided to have a child together with little to no commitment of the father? Its her idea and kind of just an arrangement to give the woman a child since she is "sort of getting old" and stuff. The father could be involved in the childs life of course.
Is this sort of thing fucked up or just another thing in todays world?

 

[-SD-]

what teh fuck rob, I said it was *intentional* not a mistake lolo

 

[PICK3]

you and your butt buddy can't have babies orbly

 

[chris302001]

what teh fuck rob, I said it was *intentional* not a mistake lolo

lol i had to get there before puds did

 

[miplank]

sounds strange

 

[-SD-]

lol i had to get there before puds did

lol forgot about his trials and tribulations.
Ive had to "handle my business" twice before though.

 

[*ebony*]

i wouldn't do that. if this potential father is not ready to be a father he should never father any kids.

and if i ever thought enough of a guy to have my baby with, it would be with the expectation that he would be actively involved my baby's life.

i'd be certain that's not what this woman is expecting, because resentment can turn really ugly really fast.

 

[grubd]

If it is intentional and the couple wants to have a baby together than marriage would be the first step I suppose.

 

[inkspot]

Is this sort of thing fucked up or just another thing in todays world?

Unfortunately I think it is a trend that's here to stay. Women want children but not the baggage that comes with a relationship. Sad really, all those children being raised without a father. The boys I think will be affected most.

 

[RottenWillow]

Unfortunately I think it is a trend that's here to stay. Women want children but not the baggage that comes with a relationship. Sad really, all those children being raised without a father. The boys I think will be affected most.

totally agree

 

[mustang_00]

wasn't that the plot to ross and rachel on friends???

 

[SouthernLord]

It's a tarp bro!!!!! Don't do it.

 

[Smurfy]

dont do it

 

[BlueBird]

It's a tarp bro!!!!! Don't do it.

It's a trap, too. In fact, it's a tarp over a trap of a bed of nails in a pit.

 

[the_alcatraz]

Everyone wants to have kids. Most adults are still kids themselves and don't even understand what it means to be responsible and they want to have kids. How can you take care of a child when you can't take care of yourself? Also, a kid raised by a signle mother is not exactly the ideal upbringing. Yes, I know they turn out fine, but what ever happened to good old fashioned family values?

 

[SouthernLord]

It's a trap, too. In fact, it's a tarp over a trap of a bed of nails in a pit.

 

[nydj66]

Unless the woman is independently wealthy, I think she is being obnxiously selfish and the whole situation is totally fucked.

Raising a child is unimagineably hard work. It should not be entered into lightly and for her to purposely bring a child into a single-parent situation shows an enmormous lack of maturity on her part.

 

[ortiz34]

sounds like every couple with kids nowadays

 

[digimon7068]

that's fucked up for lots of reasons. . .the traditional family unit has a purpose. . .people can deny it and pretend it's not real and that it doesn't exist. . .sure, there's literally TONS of psychiatrists and other such mental health professionals that will tell you that it's not true and it doesn't matter.

me? meh. . .i have a hard time taking advice from the same fucking assholes that stand to benefit the most from fucked up products of non-traditional homes.

that makes as much sense as taking tobacco advice from philip morris. . .actually. . .they're (forced to be) responsible enough to point out that their products cause cancer.

 

[trex74]

What would you think of a couple that used to be engaged but arent together anymore, just good friends now, decided to have a child together with little to no commitment of the father? Its her idea and kind of just an arrangement to give the woman a child since she is "sort of getting old" and stuff. The father could be involved in the childs life of course.
Is this sort of thing fucked up or just another thing in todays world?

I think it's a bad idea, and selfish on her part. Not every woman is entitled to have children just because she's getting old. She should get a pet, they don't care if there's no dad. Kids do care, and it hurts them when dad is not "committed".

 

[cindylou]

its a horrible example to her future son or daughter.

 

[chewyxrage]

horrible idea bro

Don't do it.

 

[Ezekiel]

unless the woman is independently wealthy, i think she is being obnxiously selfish and the whole situation is totally fucked.

Raising a child is unimagineably hard work. It should not be entered into lightly and for her to purposely bring a child into a single-parent situation shows an enmormous lack of maturity on her part.

+1

 

[-SD-]

Im not doing it just wanted the general opinion of this sort of thing since we are in a "new age" or "new millenium" or whatever the fuck people are saying.

 

[inkspot]

Unless the woman is independently wealthy, I think she is being obnxiously selfish and the whole situation is totally fucked.

Raising a child is unimagineably hard work. It should not be entered into lightly and for her to purposely bring a child into a single-parent situation shows an enmormous lack of maturity on her part.

I think you have that backwards. An independent women would be the selfish one. Having money doesn't make the issue any different. Fatherless children.

 

[nimbus]

sounds totally legit bro, don't be a pussy!!

 

[puddlemonkey]

Everyone wants to have kids.

 

[nydj66]

I think you have that backwards. An independent women would be the selfish one. Having money doesn't make the issue any different. Fatherless children.

I agree that it selfish to to purposely bring a fatherless child into the world. However, at least an independently wealthy woman could spend the time it takes to raise the child and maybe afford help with other chores.

A typical woman trying to raise a child and support the two of them simply cannot do it without a lot of assistance. Both financial and otherwise.

 

[trex74]

I agree that it selfish to to purposely bring a fatherless child into the world. However, at least an independently wealthy woman could spend the time it takes to raise the child and maybe afford help with other chores.

A typical woman trying to raise a child and support the two of them simply cannot do it without a lot of assistance. Both financial and otherwise.

That's true, and it would help if she was around a lot...But speaking as someone raised by a single mother, it still doesn't make up for a lack of a father. A mom can give a woman's perspective on growing up, but i think a child needs both perspectives-male AND female.

 

[nydj66]

That's true, and it would help if she was around a lot...But speaking as someone raised by a single mother, it still doesn't make up for a lack of a father. A mom can give a woman's perspective on growing up, but i think a child needs both perspectives-male AND female.

Feel free to call me daddy.

 

[trex74]

Feel free to call me daddy.

Haw Haw...nice