Think I know a 31 yr old closet gay man

[Hiatussin]

Should I tell him I suspect so?
I heard people told him before and he denied.

He´s 31, takes great effort to look good, has low bf and lifts and runs, eats well. Never been in a serious relationship. hundreds of one night stands with ugly women. Even says he prefers ugly ones, less hassle. Has bouts of depression and is generally cynical.

He´s got two masters degrees. has still to work a day in his life, although he made some money off books he translated for fun and language practice.

He has a massive, color tattoo of a japanese woman in traditional ceremonial jap clothing on his back. Never speaks about women. loves to dress up fancy. He´s heavily influenced by and obsessed with conservative, masculine, militant politics and philosophy. He regularly hates on homosexuals.

I used his comp once and the internet address bar suggested a memorised website that´s a gay profile dating site in his native language (which noone else I know speaks) based in his town. I did not tell him I saw this.

Anything I should do?

I appreciate and respect him a lot.

 

[KillahBee]

Are you asking b/c you think you could "free" him by telling him?

I don't really see the need to tell him. What is the reason behind telling him that you believe he is gay??

 

[nycgirl]

I never understood why people feel the need to tell someone that they know or suspect they are gay.

 

[Smurfy]

No you shouldnt tell him. That makes no sense.

 

[Hiatussin]

I guess there is no purpose in telling him I think I know

He obviously prefers his way.

 

[jackangel]

agreed, it makes no sense

unless you want to fuck with him (no pun intended)

which is possible, since you're really a bad person

 

[BrothaBill]

I dont see where he is at all gay in that

 

[nycgirl]

I dont see where he is at all gay in that

He's probably really neat.

 

[AAP]

Sounds like you want a date.

Otherwise what has his sexuality got to do with YOU? Other than proving that you are a snoop about his affairs.

 

[Spartacus]

I never understood why people feel the need to tell someone that they know or suspect they are gay.

when they continue to masquerade that they aren't
I don't give a rat's ass if you are
it's the falseness that bothers me
and I'm speaking of a past co-worker
I don't tell fag jokes either so it's not as if he would be uncomfortable

 

[nycgirl]

when they continue to masquarade that they aren't
I don't give a rat's ass if you are
it's the falseness that bothers me
and I'm speaking of a past co-worker
I don't tell fag jokes either so it's not as if he would be uncomfortable

"Masquerade" ??

We complain when they (homosexuals) are open with their sexuality (Why can't they just stay in the closet??). We shake our heads when two people of the same sex kiss in public. We complain when they "masquerade" their sexuality as if they are lying to us and themselves. We complain when they do "straight" activies (like an alleged gay male being into millitary history) as if they are suppose to do "gay activities" (what are they? I have no clue)

Why do "we" (i.e. nosey straight people) give a shit?

 

[Spartacus]

I don't complain about that shit
lying bothers me

 

[Hiatussin]

agreed, it makes no sense

unless you want to fuck with him (no pun intended)

which is possible, since you're really a bad person

I don´t, I do feel kinda sorry for him

 

[Hiatussin]

Sounds like you want a date.

Otherwise what has his sexuality got to do with YOU? Other than proving that you are a snoop about his affairs.

I don´t snoop around in his affairs. We lived in the same house (with others) for a while and are friends and I used his comp

 

[Daeo]

So...ahh, what's the point. Would you feel better if you called him out, or would you feel better if you were the center of the gossip mill...

 

[EnderJE]

"Masquerade" ??

We complain when they (homosexuals) are open with their sexuality (Why can't they just stay in the closet??). We shake our heads when two people of the same sex kiss in public. We complain when they "masquerade" their sexuality as if they are lying to us and themselves. We complain when they do "straight" activies (like an alleged gay male being into millitary history) as if they are suppose to do "gay activities" (what are they? I have no clue)

Why do "we" (i.e. nosey straight people) give a shit?

Sigh...who let this chick near a computer?

 

[biteme]

I don't complain about that shit
lying bothers me

THen I guess every person in the world bothers you. LOL Ask me a question that's none of your buisness and I'll lie to you as well.

 

[velvett]

Would you tell an obese person you suspect they were fat?

 

[EnderJE]

Would you tell an obese person you suspect they were fat?

I have. They don't appreciate it.

 

[velvett]

I have. They don't appreciate it.

My point taken.

 

[musclemom]

Should I tell him I suspect so?
I heard people told him before and he denied.

...

Anything I should do?

I appreciate and respect him a lot.

1. NOBODY is truly, PURELY straight. We all fall along a continuum.

2. IMO, someone finding gay porn erotic has nothing to do with "gayness." Think of it this way, if a guy is watching porn is it ever PURELY lesbian porn??? Why are facials and cum shots so big in porn ... c'mon. Who wants to watch a porn star with a teeny weenie?

3. His sexuality is really none of your business. If he needs therapy to address his depression only he can make that decision. If he's not interested in being involved with "attractive" women that's not really your problem unless he's trying to get you to play wingman and sending some nasty hookups your way.

4. If you respect and/or like him and/or care for him, would you feel any differently about him knowing he's gay? or not, for that matter? What's the difference, would you interact with him differently, respect him any less???

I thought Europe was progressive, even permissive.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Here's how I'd break it down:

There's a chance he's straight and a little fucked in the head about sex. Some grow up that way. There's also a decent chance he's gay, or perhaps this-

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexual

 

[rnch]

dude.............mind your own goddamn business already.

 

[wootoom]

hiatussin more gay talk man. whats up? i think u should confront him with ur tool

 

[Hiatussin]

1. NOBODY is truly, PURELY straight. We all fall along a continuum.

true. not very relevant

2. IMO, someone finding gay porn erotic has nothing to do with "gayness." Think of it this way, if a guy is watching porn is it ever PURELY lesbian porn??? Why are facials and cum shots so big in porn ... c'mon. Who wants to watch a porn star with a teeny weenie?

It was not gay porn. It was a gay dating site, in his language, based in his town, coming up as a suggestion on the address bar.

4. If you respect and/or like him and/or care for him, would you feel any differently about him knowing he's gay? or not, for that matter? What's the difference, would you interact with him differently, respect him any less???

No I would not. I´m actually fairly sure and I still like him.

I thought Europe was progressive, even permissive.

I am not Europe.

 

[hotzie]

just tell him that you want to fuck him and save yourself some embarrasement



btw i hope if you do tell him he knocks your teeth out for being a dumbass

 

[starfish]

dude.............mind your own goddamn business already.

I agree. If he is gay, maybe he has reasons for keepingit private, especially in the work place. Not because he is "ashamed' but because people can't be nice....I have a gay brother and I've seen many sides of the coming out thing with his friends....people can be just plain nasty with how they act, fag comments etc.


Maybe he is bisexual....anyway. Who cares.

 

[big4life]

Should I tell him I suspect so?
I heard people told him before and he denied.

He´s 31, takes great effort to look good, has low bf and lifts and runs, eats well. Never been in a serious relationship. hundreds of one night stands with ugly women. Even says he prefers ugly ones, less hassle. Has bouts of depression and is generally cynical.

He´s got two masters degrees. has still to work a day in his life, although he made some money off books he translated for fun and language practice.

Anything I should do?

I appreciate and respect him a lot.

You do realize that you just described 98.7% of the men on elite, except for the dating ugly women part, they only go after 9's or 10's.

 

[biteme]

1. NOBODY is truly, PURELY straight. We all fall along a continuum.

I agree with you usually, but not here. I have 0% gayness in my blood.

 

[biteme]

Although I do like it when certain men touch me out of affection and genuine care. Definitely no sexual feelings though.

 

[string_bean00]

Although I do like it when certain men touch me out of affection and genuine care. Definitely no sexual feelings though.

Which men?

 

[seizer]

I don´t snoop around in his affairs. We lived in the same house (with others) for a while and are friends and I used his comp

Well FUCK, why didnt you speak up sooner, that changes EVERYthing..

 

[biteme]

Which men?

There's a 72 year old man (very religious) great guy. Always touches me when we talk. I don't mind because I know why he does it. He genuinely cares

 

[Sub-Zero]

you shouldnt tell him, you should show him

 

[Sub-Zero]

There's a 72 year old man (very religious) great guy. Always touches me when we talk. I don't mind because I know why he does it. He genuinely cares

if hes a preist then i know why he touches you too

 

[tiger88]

lol

dont out him

 

[seizer]

you shouldnt tell him, you should show him

lllo

 

[wootoom]

is tool time in here

 

[justyxxxx]

He regularly hates on homosexuals.

I used his comp once and the internet address bar suggested a memorised website that´s a gay profile dating site in his native language (which noone else I know speaks) based in his town. I did not tell him I saw this.

If he regularly hates on homosexuals and yet he visits gay dating sites, I'd take the subtle route and the next time he "hates on homosexuals", I'd say - you know, I read that they once did a study on anti-gay and ok-with-gays men and the study involved erections and watching gay porn. The anti-gay men came out with the biggest hard-ons. And then - say you're ok with gays and ask him a direct question - such as - what's your opinion about that study?

Then, keep it up - such as What do you think about Willie Nelson's new cowboy song about gay cowboys? Think there's any truth to all these cowboys secretly fondling each other?

Then go further - I hear that anal sex feels really good - my girl really likes it. Just seeing how she reacts, I could see how gays really get into it.

Then - you know, I was talking to an older straight friend of mine - and he told me that back in the day - guys use to do circle jerks all the time - do you think there's some homosexual tendencies to that?

That's what I'd do . . . But then again, I like fucking with some people.

 

[AAP]

He regularly hates on homosexuals.

I used his comp once and the internet address bar suggested a memorised website that´s a gay profile dating site in his native language (which noone else I know speaks) based in his town. I did not tell him I saw this.

Anything I should do?

Just out him for what he is. A conservative Republican. They can't stay off gay websites. No other group out there is more obsessed with gayness than conservative Repubs.

 

[Mr. dB]

What do you stand to gain from this? Respect the man's privacy.

 

[EnderJE]

I agree with you usually, but not here. I have 0% gayness in my blood.

Yeah. BTW, do these curtains go with this bedspread?









































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