Staying monogamous - serious question

[plornive]

Is it uniquely fulfilling to be with one person exclusively? How do you stop yourself from straying? Why do you do it?

This is not meant as an anti-monogamy post. I am interested in your replies.

 

[sweetnes11]

I have been married 23 years, I have never cheated.

 

[Mr. Black]

I've only cheated once, way back with an ex-gf. I was in another country at the time so it didn't count (pretty sure thats the rule). Regardless my ex was a fucking bitch anyways so I am glad that I did. Here's my philosophy, in order to be true to your gf/wife, simply do not put yourself in a position that could lead to cheating. Also, keep your sex life kinky and don't get fat.

 

[Deterass]

I have been married 23 years, I have never cheated.

Damn,how old r u sweetness?

 

[sweetnes11]

young . was young bride

 

[Longhorn85]

Is it uniquely fulfilling to be with one person exclusively? How do you stop yourself from straying? Why do you do it?

This is not meant as an anti-monogamy post. I am interested in your replies.

It is not 100% fulfilling sexually to be in a monogamous relationship anymore than it would be 100% satisfying to drive a nice sports car. You would still look at other nice cars and think that they would be nice to have.

You realize that what you've got is pretty damn great and also realize all of the benefits of having a great wife are more than worthwile: A good mother to your children, the benefits your children have from having two loving parents (man & woman), economic stability, lifelong companionship, a warm home, great meals, someone welcoming you home from work every night, unconditional love, cared for when sick, shared experiences and memories, shared faith, etc.

Of course the sex is important, and if you're blessed, it's great too.

 

[Deterass]

young . was young bride

It wouldn't be cheating if u sent me some hot pics.

 

[Gymgurl]

Re: Re: Staying monogamous - serious question

It is not 100% fulfilling sexually to be in a monogamous relationship anymore than it would be 100% satisfying to drive a nice sports car. You would still look at other nice cars and think that they would be nice to have.

You realize that what you've got is pretty damn great and also realize all of the benefits of having a great wife are more than worthwile: A good mother to your children, the benefits your children have from having two loving parents (man & woman), economic stability, lifelong companionship, a warm home, great meals, someone welcoming you home from work every night, unconditional love, cared for when sick, shared experiences and memories, shared faith, etc.

Of course the sex is important, and if you're blessed, it's great too.

Damn......you would make a fine hubby and who ever has you in lucky!!

 

[GoldenDelicious]

staying monogamous is easy...just do what most couples do and both gain 50 pounds...80 if youre greek/italian (anectdotal evidence....family...uuuurrrggh)

 

[gab9681]

It can be tempting to stray sometimes. But for me I just look at the pros and cons. I have been married for about a year and a half now, but my wife and I have been together for 5 years. I am still a young guy (22 years old) and I still hit the bars with friends and I see hot babes all the time. Do I wonder how they would be in bed, sure, occassionally, after all, I am only human. But would I ever pursue one of them? Hell no. I have 5 years put into my relationship with my wife. We have formed a life together. I can't even imagine what my life would be like without her. She has become such a big part of it, I would loose a big part of myself if I lost her. So I never risk it. I would be totally fucking retarded to screw up what I have with her.

-G