Saturated fat isn't actually all that bad--your body needs some for hormone production. I eat butter and cream, and I'm cutting. I make my own mayo, too.
Personally, (and I eat out all the time), I try to balance out my eating over a week or so. If I have a heavy carbs day, I lighten up the next day or 2. Some with fats and total calories, but not with protein.
I never order sauce on the side. It's a pain, sometimes the sauce is essential to the dish, and I find I usually eat more when I dip than when I just eat the portion.
If you don't marinate most commerical chicken, it's too dry to grill. With luck it's been marinated in olive oil, which is a healthy fat.
With sandwiches, order whole wheat and then double stack the meat onto one half. Order it dry.
Burt, all this aside, maybe it's just your prose style, but you're coming off as hysterical about food and your body in your posts. I completely understand the need to rant, but honey, ALL your posts have been on the frantic side.
Please tell me that you're just high spirited, cuz being FUAF (f**ked up about food) is a sorry state.