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Online romance, good or bad?

Lestat

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This basically sums up my thoughts on it:

You have to put this in perspective. In an internet romance where the people have never met, NO ONE develops real feelings over the phone, the feelings you had were not for the person, they were for an image of the person that you create in your head, a fantasy. And reality was FAR different from that fantasy for good reason, you had not met them, you had no idea what they were really like. I don't care how many PMs, txt msgs, and phone calls you had, you never really get to know them. Therefore the feelings you think you had, were more of an illusion than anything. You hadn't shared any good times with them, they didn't really bring you any pleasure to base these feelings on.
 
I just know that the most intense relationship I've ever had started that way- blew me away on every damn level, turned my life upside down, changed my views on love and sex, and changed me for the better. I think it's rare that you find that though, online or in any other way.
 
Raina said:
I just know that the most intense relationship I've ever had started that way- blew me away on every damn level, turned my life upside down, changed my views on love and sex, and changed me for the better. I think it's rare that you find that though, online or in any other way.
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it is definitely rare, that is for certain.
 
Lestat said:
This basically sums up my thoughts on it:

You have to put this in perspective. In an internet romance where the people have never met, NO ONE develops real feelings over the phone, the feelings you had were not for the person, they were for an image of the person that you create in your head, a fantasy. And reality was FAR different from that fantasy for good reason, you had not met them, you had no idea what they were really like. I don't care how many PMs, txt msgs, and phone calls you had, you never really get to know them. Therefore the feelings you think you had, were more of an illusion than anything. You hadn't shared any good times with them, they didn't really bring you any pleasure to base these feelings on.
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While you're right conceptually, that concept in addition to meeting and socializing in person for a period of time is no different than meeting someone in a bar, laundry mat, blind date, book store, foorball game, wedding, etc.

I know there's a list of people that have met here (they've already posted on this thread oddly enough) and have had it work out and others not.

Much like meeting someone anywhere else.

So with that - interent is like real life.
 
velvett said:
While you're right conceptually, that concept in addition to meeting and socializing in person for a period of time is no different than meeting someone in a bar, laundry mat, blind date, book store, foorball game, wedding, etc.

I know there's a list of people that have met here (they've already posted on this thread oddly enough) and have had it work out and others not.

Much like meeting someone anywhere else.

So with that - interent is like real life.
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provided you've represented yourself honestly online.
 
the-short-one said:
provided you've represented yourself honestly online.
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Mmmmmmm no that just like real life too.

Representation online or offline is often faked - ie, married - with a job, etc

The only possible difference I see is when someone actually fakes who they are via photos to gain some sort of attention they are lacking emotionally.
 
velvett said:
While you're right conceptually, that concept in addition to meeting and socializing in person for a period of time is no different than meeting someone in a bar, laundry mat, blind date, book store, foorball game, wedding, etc.

I know there's a list of people that have met here (they've already posted on this thread oddly enough) and have had it work out and others not.

Much like meeting someone anywhere else.

So with that - interent is like real life.
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I guess where the difference to me is, when you meet someone at a bar, you actually meet them first. You can then go home and start to form all the pre conceived notions that you want, but you've met them and probably interacted with them, so what you conjure up in your head is probably a lot closer to what reality is.

With the online thing, you end up falling in lust with words on a screen, a voice on the phone, or txt on your phone. Its completely different than actually interacting with someone, feeling a vibe, a mood, watching body language. etc.

I have met a few people from online, I've used match.com, and before that I talked to someone I met through yahoo and developed an e-relationship. Even said I love you before we met. What a HUGE mistake that was (in my defense I was only 21!). But then she flys out here from new york, and she is a nice person, but its just weird, not weird because I didn't know her, we had spent hours on the phone talking, but weird because the idea I had in my head was my own, based on a tiny amount of very limited interaction, and as you can imagine it was pretty much false.

When I did match.com a couple years ago, I would email ONCE, then talk on the phone once, maybe twice, to try to nail down plans, and then move straight to meeting them. Not a full on date, usually just coffee or something quick and simple, just to get that initial face to face meet up out of the way and see what they really truly looked like and how they carried themselves.

Its very easy to get carried a way and get excited about someone you've never met. There isn't much NOT to like at this point, because you basically invent anything that is missing.

I'm not saying it never would work, Lumberg and Smurfy are a great example of it actually working. But I have heard some many very similar stories of online romance gone bad. And its usually apparent within the first few moments of meeting. That tells me that had you seen this person at the bar, you likely wouldn't have exchanged more than a sentence or two before moving on. You're brain would never have had the chance to play tricks on you.
 
Lestat said:
I guess where the difference to me is, when you meet someone at a bar, you actually meet them first. You can then go home and start to form all the pre conceived notions that you want, but you've met them and probably interacted with them, so what you conjure up in your head is probably a lot closer to what reality is.

With the online thing, you end up falling in lust with words on a screen, a voice on the phone, or txt on your phone. Its completely different than actually interacting with someone, feeling a vibe, a mood, watching body language. etc.

I have met a few people from online, I've used match.com, and before that I talked to someone I met through yahoo and developed an e-relationship. Even said I love you before we met. What a HUGE mistake that was (in my defense I was only 21!). But then she flys out here from new york, and she is a nice person, but its just weird, not weird because I didn't know her, we had spent hours on the phone talking, but weird because the idea I had in my head was my own, based on a tiny amount of very limited interaction, and as you can imagine it was pretty much false.

When I did match.com a couple years ago, I would email ONCE, then talk on the phone once, maybe twice, to try to nail down plans, and then move straight to meeting them. Not a full on date, usually just coffee or something quick and simple, just to get that initial face to face meet up out of the way and see what they really truly looked like and how they carried themselves.

Its very easy to get carried a way and get excited about someone you've never met. There isn't much NOT to like at this point, because you basically invent anything that is missing.

I'm not saying it never would work, Lumberg and Smurfy are a great example of it actually working. But I have heard some many very similar stories of online romance gone bad. And its usually apparent within the first few moments of meeting. That tells me that had you seen this person at the bar, you likely wouldn't have exchanged more than a sentence or two before moving on. You're brain would never have had the chance to play tricks on you.
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maybe this is why I prefer a good book to the movie version. I prefer my imagination, and am always dissapointed with the lack of depth in the movie.
 
the-short-one said:
maybe this is why I prefer a good book to the movie version. I prefer my imagination, and am always dissapointed with the lack of depth in the movie.
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I too prefer a good book to the movie, but I like the book because it contains MORE detail, and leaves LESS to my imagination.

Take a movie like Jurrasic park, the book was amazing, full of detail, the movie was a shitty shortened watered down version.
 
Lestat said:
I guess where the difference to me is, when you meet someone at a bar, you actually meet them first. You can then go home and start to form all the pre conceived notions that you want, but you've met them and probably interacted with them, so what you conjure up in your head is probably a lot closer to what reality is.

With the online thing, you end up falling in lust with words on a screen, a voice on the phone, or txt on your phone. Its completely different than actually interacting with someone, feeling a vibe, a mood, watching body language. etc.

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Its very easy to get carried a way and get excited about someone you've never met. There isn't much NOT to like at this point, because you basically invent anything that is missing.

But I have heard some many very similar stories of online romance gone bad. And its usually apparent within the first few moments of meeting. That tells me that had you seen this person at the bar, you likely wouldn't have exchanged more than a sentence or two before moving on. You're brain would never have had the chance to play tricks on you.
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Ah, yes I do agree with that and yet at the same time first appearance can be deceiving.

Oddly enough in retrospect I have no idea what attacked me to the few men I've dated in my life once the relationship died - I think back on their image and it actually can turn my stomach.

So yah real life, internet life - that brain can sure create an alternate reality that sure does feel good, for the moment.

It's much like reading a book and then it comes out as a movie and it's just not what you expected.
 
the-short-one said:
maybe this is why I prefer a good book to the movie version. I prefer my imagination, and am always dissapointed with the lack of depth in the movie.
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OMG!

I had no idea that you posted that until I hit submit and was returned to the thread.

See... GREAT MINDS...
 
velvett said:
Ah, yes I do agree with that and yet at the same time first appearance can be deceiving.

Oddly enough in retrospect I have no idea what attacked me to the few men I've dated in my life once the relationship died - I think back on their image and it actually can turn my stomach.

So yah real life, internet life - that brain can sure create an alternate reality that sure does feel good, for the moment.

It's much like reading a book and then it comes out as a movie and it's just not what you expected.
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good analogy :)
 
don't overthink things, I am sure you have pushed away your perfect someone b/c of some trivial matter you saw in your first meeting in lieu of a basketcase girlfriend. It offers an opportunity examine the core of a person before you meet. If you have strict superficial standards, clothing, dress, body etc... Those are all transient and we all get old so you would be doomed to never having a longterm relationship based on those standards, those can be easily changed or 'bitched about until they change". People get sick, women get pregnant.... Those are purely trivial
I have never ever considered having an online relationship and it just evolved, bad arguments and all.
But, I have also done the face to face dealio and it's just easy too dump someone or move on or just say fuck it. I have met thousands of nice women and never moved past certain stages mainly being committment phobic.
The ability to argue and still be connected has help progress past the difficult periods that all new relationships go through.
There are times when you don't want ANYTHING to do with the person, it's easier to login though and discuss your controversy in a rational manner.

There are people who will never form longlasting relationships given their personality triats but the internet is an advantage and not a disadvantage.
I am a bit sick of the culture of US women and so it was a hugely refreshing change to meet an Aussie girl that is so similar and fun to be with online and in real life
 
It's worked for me many times. I'm too cheap to pay for a membership now, so I have to go out and find dates. I'm ready to settle down I think, so I'm focusing on that now.
 
Lestat said:
This basically sums up my thoughts on it:

You have to put this in perspective. In an internet romance where the people have never met, NO ONE develops real feelings over the phone, the feelings you had were not for the person, they were for an image of the person that you create in your head, a fantasy. And reality was FAR different from that fantasy for good reason, you had not met them, you had no idea what they were really like. I don't care how many PMs, txt msgs, and phone calls you had, you never really get to know them. Therefore the feelings you think you had, were more of an illusion than anything. You hadn't shared any good times with them, they didn't really bring you any pleasure to base these feelings on.
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its either A or Z there is no inbetween... first impressions stick.
 
Erzulie said:
its either A or Z there is no inbetween... first impressions stick.
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but how do you get a first impression when you've never met someone?
 
Lestat said:
but how do you get a first impression when you've never met someone?
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The name of the game.. just like any other place you meet someone. Either you click or you don't. Its not all that complicated unless the two parties make it out to be that way. Be upfront and honest the entire time and things will be ok.

I make a call on the first impression always... i've met drop dead handsome guys, have sat there and talked to them and turned them down for a guy with half the looks and body due to the way they struck me. Even though you meet on the internet.. you can be who you want people to believe you are. But in person you can't deny who you are. its touch and go.. Sure you can learn to love someone, but if its the internet, long distance.. etc.. your chances of having that happen are slim. The time you spend together is so little that getting to know each other is a slow process.
 
Erzulie said:
The name of the game.. just like any other place you meet someone. Either you click or you don't. Its not all that complicated unless the two parties make it out to be that way. Be upfront and honest the entire time and things will be ok.

I make a call on the first impression always... i've met drop dead handsome guys, have sat there and talked to them and turned them down for a guy with half the looks and body due to the way they struck me. Even though you meet on the internet.. you can be who you want people to believe you are. But in person you can't deny who you are. its touch and go.. Sure you can learn to love someone, but if its the internet, long distance.. etc.. your chances of having that happen are slim. The time you spend together is so little that getting to know each other is a slow process.
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I don't think that first impressions on the internet are valid, that is my point.
 
Lestat said:
....the feelings you had were not for the person, they were for an image of the person that you create in your head, a fantasy. And reality was FAR different from that fantasy for good reason, you had not met them, you had no idea what they were really like. I don't care how many PMs, txt msgs, and phone calls you had, you never really get to know them.
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In my experience, this has always been true.
 
nycgirl said:
Your mentor probably has some excellent advice on this topic.
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lol.


awittyusername said:
Agreed

North American White chicks are the worst.

You have any Black or Latina chicks close to you?
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Well I am dating the next best thing.....a chick with low self esteem and always eager to please her man in fear that he may leave her. :D
 
Too much potential for dissappointment.

On the other hand I know three couples who met on steroid message boards and got married, all three of which involved one party moving at least half way across the country, and they seem to be happy.

I'm pretty sure it's not for me though. I don't want to be accused of a truth in advertising violation.
 
Lestat said:
I don't think that first impressions on the internet are valid, that is my point.
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correct.. but you get a feel for someone better when you actually meet them, talk to them.. get the body language and the eye contact. All things the web cannot offer you.
 
Erzulie said:
correct.. but you get a feel for someone better when you actually meet them, talk to them.. get the body language and the eye contact. All things the web cannot offer you.
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that's what I'm saying.

and my point is, its best not to get worked up into a tissy until you actually meet.
 
as long as it moves offline and into real life, so you can truly fuck things up.

otherwise, it's just not the impressive failure it has the potential to be.

and that's a shame.
 
Lestat said:
that's what I'm saying.

and my point is, its best not to get worked up into a tissy until you actually meet.
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werd! no matter what the situation involving a relationship I don't get myself in a tissy... I think well ahead and refuse to allow myself to be jaded or hurt by anyone. Its good and bad.. but it saves me from all the crap that comes along with breakups. I have never actually allowed my heart to be broken, and hopefull I never will. Prolly will happen sooner or later though.
 
jackangel said:
also, the real question is: which of you would be willing to date others in this thread?

and who?
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I :heart: U
 
jackangel said:
also, the real question is: which of you would be willing to date others in this thread?

and who?
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I don't know anyone well enough on this thread to say whether or not I'd date them.

I'd bone Frisky though.
 
bro, you're missing the point. i don't mean jump right into dating steadily or some shit.

i mean, are you attracted enough to anyone here (physically/mentally/etc) to give her a try?

if you've seen them post, and seen their pictures, that's easily more than enough to answer such a question.
 
jackangel said:
bro, you're missing the point. i don't mean jump right into dating steadily or some shit.

i mean, are you attracted enough to anyone here (physically/mentally/etc) to give her a try?

if you've seen them post, and seen their pictures, that's easily more than enough to answer such a question.
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Sure, there are a few ladies I'd give dating a try with. Like, we'd meet for a drink or coffee, maybe with friends too, just to feel it out.

That would happen long before I started masturbating with them over the phone, saying I love you, planning trips to see them, etc.
 
Lestat said:
Sure, there are a few ladies I'd give dating a try with. Like, we'd meet for a drink or coffee, maybe with friends too, just to feel it out.

That would happen long before I started masturbating with them over the phone, saying I love you, planning trips to see them, etc.
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dood you offered me phone sex just last week... you don't even know me ;)
 
I had one e-chat/phone lover. It was a ball for over a year.

She got off on being a love slave. She would follow the most outrageous
commands via online, phone or webcam, including public displays.
She was a orgasm freak and simply could not get enough ... a student at TCU in Texas.

There was no future in it and we both knew from day one. However, it was a blast.
 
Lestat said:
This basically sums up my thoughts on it:

You have to put this in perspective. In an internet romance where the people have never met, NO ONE develops real feelings over the phone, the feelings you had were not for the person, they were for an image of the person that you create in your head, a fantasy. And reality was FAR different from that fantasy for good reason, you had not met them, you had no idea what they were really like. I don't care how many PMs, txt msgs, and phone calls you had, you never really get to know them. Therefore the feelings you think you had, were more of an illusion than anything. You hadn't shared any good times with them, they didn't really bring you any pleasure to base these feelings on.
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Not entirely true ..

Although there are online relationships which develop purely for fun and are based on a great deal of fantasy or even lies, there are also online relationships which become very lasting, open, honest and very meaningful to both individuals. The annonymity of the internet can allow you to completely open-up and discuss things with a complete stranger that you wouldn't even mention to a family member. This openness can help you get past all the obstacles that we all expereince out in the real dating world and can turn a genuine friendship into something a whole lot more and very quickly.

As long as you have a good head on your shoulders and take precautions, there is no harm in meeting someone new ... even if they are only represented by a few characters strung together on a forum or chat screen.
 
There is really is no romance yet..your in love with someone you really don't know...they may suprise you in the end...in a bad way
 
velvett said:
Mmmmmmm no that just like real life too.

Representation online or offline is often faked - ie, married - with a job, etc

The only possible difference I see is when someone actually fakes who they are via photos to gain some sort of attention they are lacking emotionally.
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I agree, the internet only makes it easier to fake your appearance. People lie everyday about "who they are", their success and accomplishments at clubs. I've always felt it takes at least two months of intense dating to see "behind the curtain."
 
I think it all depends on the person. There are people out there who meet on line and also marry.
then there are people who are complete idiots who are just fucken off messing with peoples emotions and heads.
 
JavaGuru said:
I agree, the internet only makes it easier to fake your appearance. People lie everyday about "who they are", their success and accomplishments at clubs. I've always felt it takes at least two months of intense dating to see "behind the curtain."
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Thats almost the title of my new book about scandalous women...

"Behind the Beef Curtain"
 
Angel said:
I think it all depends on the person. There are people out there who meet on line and also marry.
then there are people who are complete idiots who are just fucken off messing with peoples emotions and heads.
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Just like people who meet in "the real world."
 
Lestat said:
This basically sums up my thoughts on it:

You have to put this in perspective. In an internet romance where the people have never met, NO ONE develops real feelings over the phone, the feelings you had were not for the person, they were for an image of the person that you create in your head, a fantasy. And reality was FAR different from that fantasy for good reason, you had not met them, you had no idea what they were really like. I don't care how many PMs, txt msgs, and phone calls you had, you never really get to know them. Therefore the feelings you think you had, were more of an illusion than anything. You hadn't shared any good times with them, they didn't really bring you any pleasure to base these feelings on.
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it can be very dangerous in my opinion
 
they can work just as easily as a real one. I think the ones that start off as friendship for a good long while work the best, lots of online shit is just rushed into the whole "feelings" department.

That being said I think its gotta be private too, like AIM based or somethign, if its comming from some online community where everyone knows each others business then its doomed.
 
Lestat said:
This basically sums up my thoughts on it:

You have to put this in perspective. In an internet romance where the people have never met, NO ONE develops real feelings over the phone, the feelings you had were not for the person, they were for an image of the person that you create in your head, a fantasy. And reality was FAR different from that fantasy for good reason, you had not met them, you had no idea what they were really like. I don't care how many PMs, txt msgs, and phone calls you had, you never really get to know them. Therefore the feelings you think you had, were more of an illusion than anything. You hadn't shared any good times with them, they didn't really bring you any pleasure to base these feelings on.
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That's only somewhat true. If they turn out to be totally different than what they represented themselves to be, then the feelings you had were based on false info. On the other hand, you really do have feelings for them when you spend that much time on the phone and when you meet if they meet the expectations you had, it only intensifies the feelings.
 
biteme said:
That's only somewhat true. If they turn out to be totally different than what they represented themselves to be, then the feelings you had were based on false info. On the other hand, you really do have feelings for them when you spend that much time on the phone and when you meet if they meet the expectations you had, it only intensifies the feelings.
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that is a very rare occurance it seems.
 
I'm lucky to be a people person with game. so 95% of my dates r from real life. :)

i sound like a dork online. it's reverse for me.
 
Lestat said:
that is a very rare occurance it seems.
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Probably so. I just want to bang about 4/5 of the girls from elite. LOL . I won't tell.
 
Lestat said:
This basically sums up my thoughts on it:

You have to put this in perspective. In an internet romance where the people have never met, NO ONE develops real feelings over the phone, the feelings you had were not for the person, they were for an image of the person that you create in your head, a fantasy. And reality was FAR different from that fantasy for good reason, you had not met them, you had no idea what they were really like. I don't care how many PMs, txt msgs, and phone calls you had, you never really get to know them. Therefore the feelings you think you had, were more of an illusion than anything. You hadn't shared any good times with them, they didn't really bring you any pleasure to base these feelings on.
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You can apply this to EF meet ups also!


RADAR
 
RADAR said:
You can apply this to EF meet ups also!


RADAR
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I don't see how.

Do you develop an emotional attachment to someone leading up to an EF meetup? Do you expect a deep connection and the possibility of physical affection?

If so, I hope you aren't meeting up with any of the good bros on EF, besides tiger88, no one swings that way.

But seriously, I've met many EF people, and to me it was no different then meeting someone new in a classroom, or at work (many people at work I've heard of before I actually meet them for the first time). This thread is about online ROMANCE in case you missed that.
 
Lestat said:
I don't see how.

Do you develop an emotional attachment to someone leading up to an EF meetup? Do you expect a deep connection and the possibility of physical affection?

If so, I hope you aren't meeting up with any of the good bros on EF, besides tiger88, no one swings that way.

But seriously, I've met many EF people, and to me it was no different then i see your pointmeeting someone new in a classroom, or at work (many people at work I've heard of before I actually meet them for the first time). This thread is about online ROMANCE in case you missed that.
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I see your point ,nope not about romance just more issues that can happen.

RADAR
 
Lestat said:
I don't think that first impressions on the internet are valid, that is my point.
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Well, after over a year of dating both online and offline, this is my take on it:

Online is simply for finding women and learning a few details about them, but no relationship can truly begin until you meet them, face to face. In this regard online dating is similar to bars in that you are simply there for finding someone, but bars have the advantage in that you get to meet them immediately upon finding them. But an online romance, without physical interactivity, is just too empty and shallow to be the real thing. It's just being pen pals at that point.

Unfortunately, IMHO, both bars and online seem to be packed with relationship rejects and washouts, not to mention desperate goth plumpers. I have had much better luck at places like the grocery store, Borders, hiking spots, etc. :rolleyes:
 
I have been so surprised so many times by internet dates, for good AND, yes, for bad. But one of the rules of any relationship is: availability. And that goes for romantic status, geographic location, work hours... If you're in NY and looking for a date, don't go to the Chicago room.

Also, don't talk endlessly over the internet. Call and set up a date. Don't spend too much time on the unreality of the internet. And I will tell you: chances are that you will find someone very interesting. I did. 5 years now.
 
if u understand that im uncouth, against the grain and rough around the edges then youll get what you bargained for. Im also lazy and unmotivated.lol
 
GoldenDelicious said:
ill go one step further, lestat

romance doesnt exist. its just chemicals. eat chocolate instead, so much less fuss ;)
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chicks actually get pissed when I 'splain the oxytocin thing. said it reduces people to machines, blah blah blah.

women. feh.
 
biteme said:
So maybe when she met him, she changed her mind. People do that you know.
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And that absolves her from any further responsibilities? Gives her the right to switch off all empathy and accountability?
 
Mr. dB said:
And that absolves her from any further responsibilities? Gives her the right to switch off all empathy and accountability?
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Dude - plain and simple:

he got played pretty damn good. knowing a lot of situation (from both sides), it's clear that he was not a complete fool to expect a warm welcome based on the things she told him and how she acted to him. BUT, anyone with a brain on EF can tell that she has some SERIOUS issues that go well beyond innocent attention whoring. He should have been emotionally intelligent enough to use this as a basis for interpreting any and all interactions they had.

she is a girl with problems most of us will never understand. knowing her very well, I don't believe she ever intentionally hurt anyone. it's almost like dealing with a bipolar person (which she is not). THIS DOES NOT EXCUSE HER FROM ANYTHING. she is confused between reality and the facade she puts on OH SO WELL. she can't tell the difference and this shows in her actions. it's sad.

and that's that.
 
I'm still trying desperately to give a shit about that one...

And on the topic of romance, online or not, don't waste your time. We are made of chemicals, not magical imaginary spirits. We're all going right back into the fuckin dirt that we came from.
 
jack_schitt said:
I'm still trying desperately to give a shit about that one...

And on the topic of romance, online or not, don't waste your time. We are made of chemicals, not magical imaginary spirits. We're all going right back into the fuckin dirt that we came from.
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Is that the line you used to score that chick you posted the naked pics of?
 
We should draw a line of conversation between "meeting online" and meeting in a reasonable time over "developing feelings" online having never met someone. There is nothing wrong with the former but the latter is asking for a let down. I met my current GF online and we met after less than two weeks of chatting and the rest is history.
 
KillahBee said:
Dude - plain and simple:

he got played pretty damn good. knowing a lot of situation (from both sides), it's clear that he was not a complete fool to expect a warm welcome based on the things she told him and how she acted to him. BUT, anyone with a brain on EF can tell that she has some SERIOUS issues that go well beyond innocent attention whoring. He should have been emotionally intelligent enough to use this as a basis for interpreting any and all interactions they had.

she is a girl with problems most of us will never understand. knowing her very well, I don't believe she ever intentionally hurt anyone. it's almost like dealing with a bipolar person (which she is not). THIS DOES NOT EXCUSE HER FROM ANYTHING. she is confused between reality and the facade she puts on OH SO WELL. she can't tell the difference and this shows in her actions. it's sad.

and that's that.
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Some day, you two will be married and grow old together and have little babies together. I am totally calling it now
 
BrothaBill said:
Some day, you two will be married and grow old together and have little babies together. I am totally calling it now
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Agreed!

I just think the distance thing would be a problem. KB is definately an east coast guy, and kak seems to be pretty happy in LA.

Anyways...I wish the two crazy kids luck!!!@@!
 
In light of recent events, I've decided to share my one online try at dating. If nothing else, you can laugh at my expense.

About 6 months after my divorce, I decided to check out an online dating site. This was in 2000. Posted my pics, wrote my little bio, etc, etc. A man contacted me and sent his picture. He was decent looking and we hit it off online via our emails. This progressed to IM's which progressed to phone calls. This probably happened over a month’s time. I liked him. He liked me. We decided to meet.

At the time, I owned a little boutique and needed to hit the convention in Vegas for a buying show. It was the perfect opportunity to meet up and check each other out. I was only about 4 hours away from Vegas at the time, so I drove - and promised to pick him up at the airport.

I waited in the main concourse for his flight to come in - on the upper level above baggage claim. A good vantage point, because I could see him before he saw me. He called me when he got off the plane and told me he was wearing a red button down shirt. Cool.

I watched for the shirt. Couldn't find it. Looked some more, and BAM! There it was waddling into baggage claim. The guy was easily 350 pounds and maybe 5'8. The biggest fat ass I have ever seen. WTF?? omg.

I didn't go down right away, because I was mortified. I prayed it wasn't him. I waited, trying to decide what to do. All kinds of thoughts ran through my head, the first being that I should just walk away and leave him there. He looked around for me and took out his phone to call. My phone rang and he asked where I was. I took a deep breath and went down to meet him. It was horrible.

I drove to the hotel and we talked on the way. He was really excited to see me and kept saying so. All I could think about was how disgusting this guy looked. NOTHING like his picture. I immediately felt guilty realizing how shallow I was acting, and did my best to be cheerful. I had booked my room, and though he had done the same. Nope. He thought he was staying with me. All excited, he was. Big smile on his face. I asked the woman at the desk for a second room and I paid for both of them. He looked crestfallen. I felt guilty.

I didn't ignore him or avoid him. I did my business stuff and spent the rest of the time with him. No, I didn’t sleep with him. I would rather have eaten a barrel of cat shit. I did get to know him, and he turned out to be a sniveling, whining fat man who thought the world had screwed him out of everything. He was cheap - I wound up buying all of our dinners at nice restaurants because I didn't want to eat at McDonalds. His restaurant of choice.

By the end of the weekend, I didn't feel guilty anymore because I didn't like him on the outside or the inside. I told him I was sorry, but that I didn't want to see him again. I drove him to the airport and said goodbye. No kiss.

I took my profile down when I got home - thus ending my online dating. Luckily, I met someone close to home and we're still together. Whew.

Worst weekend in Vegas, ever. You may laugh. My mother did.
 
the-short-one said:
In light of recent events, I've decided to share my one online try at dating. If nothing else, you can laugh at my expense.

About 6 months after my divorce, I decided to check out an online dating site. This was in 2000. Posted my pics, wrote my little bio, etc, etc. A man contacted me and sent his picture. He was decent looking and we hit it off online via our emails. This progressed to IM's which progressed to phone calls. This probably happened over a month’s time. I liked him. He liked me. We decided to meet.

At the time, I owned a little boutique and needed to hit the convention in Vegas for a buying show. It was the perfect opportunity to meet up and check each other out. I was only about 4 hours away from Vegas at the time, so I drove - and promised to pick him up at the airport.

I waited in the main concourse for his flight to come in - on the upper level above baggage claim. A good vantage point, because I could see him before he saw me. He called me when he got off the plane and told me he was wearing a red button down shirt. Cool.

I watched for the shirt. Couldn't find it. Looked some more, and BAM! There it was waddling into baggage claim. The guy was easily 350 pounds and maybe 5'8. The biggest fat ass I have ever seen. WTF?? omg.

I didn't go down right away, because I was mortified. I prayed it wasn't him. I waited, trying to decide what to do. All kinds of thoughts ran through my head, the first being that I should just walk away and leave him there. He looked around for me and took out his phone to call. My phone rang and he asked where I was. I took a deep breath and went down to meet him. It was horrible.

I drove to the hotel and we talked on the way. He was really excited to see me and kept saying so. All I could think about was how disgusting this guy looked. NOTHING like his picture. I immediately felt guilty realizing how shallow I was acting, and did my best to be cheerful. I had booked my room, and though he had done the same. Nope. He thought he was staying with me. All excited, he was. Big smile on his face. I asked the woman at the desk for a second room and I paid for both of them. He looked crestfallen. I felt guilty.

I didn't ignore him or avoid him. I did my business stuff and spent the rest of the time with him. No, I didn’t sleep with him. I would rather have eaten a barrel of cat shit. I did get to know him, and he turned out to be a sniveling, whining fat man who thought the world had screwed him out of everything. He was cheap - I wound up buying all of our dinners at nice restaurants because I didn't want to eat at McDonalds. His restaurant of choice.

By the end of the weekend, I didn't feel guilty anymore because I didn't like him on the outside or the inside. I told him I was sorry, but that I didn't want to see him again. I drove him to the airport and said goodbye. No kiss.

I took my profile down when I got home - thus ending my online dating. Luckily, I met someone close to home and we're still together. Whew.

Worst weekend in Vegas, ever. You may laugh. My mother did.
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We all have had this nightmare. That's why I set a deadline of a week for a face to face meeting, that way nobody wastes too much time. Wasting months developing a relationship without a meeting is ridiculous.
 
the-short-one said:
In light of recent events, I've decided to share my one online try at dating. If nothing else, you can laugh at my expense.

About 6 months after my divorce, I decided to check out an online dating site. This was in 2000. Posted my pics, wrote my little bio, etc, etc. A man contacted me and sent his picture. He was decent looking and we hit it off online via our emails. This progressed to IM's which progressed to phone calls. This probably happened over a month’s time. I liked him. He liked me. We decided to meet.

At the time, I owned a little boutique and needed to hit the convention in Vegas for a buying show. It was the perfect opportunity to meet up and check each other out. I was only about 4 hours away from Vegas at the time, so I drove - and promised to pick him up at the airport.

I waited in the main concourse for his flight to come in - on the upper level above baggage claim. A good vantage point, because I could see him before he saw me. He called me when he got off the plane and told me he was wearing a red button down shirt. Cool.

I watched for the shirt. Couldn't find it. Looked some more, and BAM! There it was waddling into baggage claim. The guy was easily 350 pounds and maybe 5'8. The biggest fat ass I have ever seen. WTF?? omg.

I didn't go down right away, because I was mortified. I prayed it wasn't him. I waited, trying to decide what to do. All kinds of thoughts ran through my head, the first being that I should just walk away and leave him there. He looked around for me and took out his phone to call. My phone rang and he asked where I was. I took a deep breath and went down to meet him. It was horrible.

I drove to the hotel and we talked on the way. He was really excited to see me and kept saying so. All I could think about was how disgusting this guy looked. NOTHING like his picture. I immediately felt guilty realizing how shallow I was acting, and did my best to be cheerful. I had booked my room, and though he had done the same. Nope. He thought he was staying with me. All excited, he was. Big smile on his face. I asked the woman at the desk for a second room and I paid for both of them. He looked crestfallen. I felt guilty.

I didn't ignore him or avoid him. I did my business stuff and spent the rest of the time with him. No, I didn’t sleep with him. I would rather have eaten a barrel of cat shit. I did get to know him, and he turned out to be a sniveling, whining fat man who thought the world had screwed him out of everything. He was cheap - I wound up buying all of our dinners at nice restaurants because I didn't want to eat at McDonalds. His restaurant of choice.

By the end of the weekend, I didn't feel guilty anymore because I didn't like him on the outside or the inside. I told him I was sorry, but that I didn't want to see him again. I drove him to the airport and said goodbye. No kiss.

I took my profile down when I got home - thus ending my online dating. Luckily, I met someone close to home and we're still together. Whew.

Worst weekend in Vegas, ever. You may laugh. My mother did.
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I won't laugh because you handled that better than most. I commend you for your congeniality.
I have had pretty decent luck dating online. I have met five women from online and meeting the 6th in about 30 minutes. I moved here from Atlanta in '98 to be with someone I met on AOL. We are still roommates although we are broken up, obviously. Not that it matters but I've been intimate with all of them except the one tonight. Still socialable with 3 of them; one one-night-stand; a 3 month thing last summer with another; and two friends w/bennies. The one night stand was an AOL chick that was much bigger than I thought.....but I still wore that booty out and made her call me Daddy (true story)
 
Dial_tone said:
I won't laugh because you handled that better than most. I commend you for your congeniality.
I have had pretty decent luck dating online. I have met five women from online and meeting the 6th in about 30 minutes. I moved here from Atlanta in '98 to be with someone I met on AOL. We are still roommates although we are broken up, obviously. Not that it matters but I've been intimate with all of them except the one tonight. Still socialable with 3 of them; one one-night-stand; a 3 month thing last summer with another; and two friends w/bennies. The one night stand was an AOL chick that was much bigger than I thought.....but I still wore that booty out and made her call me Daddy (true story)
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and I wouldn't expect anything less from you, bootyman. :heart:
 
the-short-one said:
In light of recent events, I've decided to share my one online try at dating. If nothing else, you can laugh at my expense.

About 6 months after my divorce, I decided to check out an online dating site. This was in 2000. Posted my pics, wrote my little bio, etc, etc. A man contacted me and sent his picture. He was decent looking and we hit it off online via our emails. This progressed to IM's which progressed to phone calls. This probably happened over a month’s time. I liked him. He liked me. We decided to meet.

At the time, I owned a little boutique and needed to hit the convention in Vegas for a buying show. It was the perfect opportunity to meet up and check each other out. I was only about 4 hours away from Vegas at the time, so I drove - and promised to pick him up at the airport.

I waited in the main concourse for his flight to come in - on the upper level above baggage claim. A good vantage point, because I could see him before he saw me. He called me when he got off the plane and told me he was wearing a red button down shirt. Cool.

I watched for the shirt. Couldn't find it. Looked some more, and BAM! There it was waddling into baggage claim. The guy was easily 350 pounds and maybe 5'8. The biggest fat ass I have ever seen. WTF?? omg.

I didn't go down right away, because I was mortified. I prayed it wasn't him. I waited, trying to decide what to do. All kinds of thoughts ran through my head, the first being that I should just walk away and leave him there. He looked around for me and took out his phone to call. My phone rang and he asked where I was. I took a deep breath and went down to meet him. It was horrible.

I drove to the hotel and we talked on the way. He was really excited to see me and kept saying so. All I could think about was how disgusting this guy looked. NOTHING like his picture. I immediately felt guilty realizing how shallow I was acting, and did my best to be cheerful. I had booked my room, and though he had done the same. Nope. He thought he was staying with me. All excited, he was. Big smile on his face. I asked the woman at the desk for a second room and I paid for both of them. He looked crestfallen. I felt guilty.

I didn't ignore him or avoid him. I did my business stuff and spent the rest of the time with him. No, I didn’t sleep with him. I would rather have eaten a barrel of cat shit. I did get to know him, and he turned out to be a sniveling, whining fat man who thought the world had screwed him out of everything. He was cheap - I wound up buying all of our dinners at nice restaurants because I didn't want to eat at McDonalds. His restaurant of choice.

By the end of the weekend, I didn't feel guilty anymore because I didn't like him on the outside or the inside. I told him I was sorry, but that I didn't want to see him again. I drove him to the airport and said goodbye. No kiss.

I took my profile down when I got home - thus ending my online dating. Luckily, I met someone close to home and we're still together. Whew.

Worst weekend in Vegas, ever. You may laugh. My mother did.
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Sorry things didn't work out, but you acted very classy.

It must have been a long lonely flight back to Australia for Goldendelicious. :(
 
Lot's of success on online dating here.
 
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