Moderation is the key to life.
Fruit is great in moderation, especially high fiber and low GI ones like apples, strawberries, etc..
A calorie is not a calorie. Energy balance is important but you have someone eat 300g of carbs of shit food versus someone who eats the same 300g of carbs from low GI, whole food sources and you will see a different physique. Somewhere in the middle is the right answer for most of us. Get your high GI stuff in post workout and try to eat lower GI carbs the rest of the time.
Anyone claiming the definitive answer on cardio is a liar as there are far too many variables to consider what is "best". Cardio is generally better for fat loss when you're glycogen depleted, first thing in the morning is the easist way to achieve this. However you can do it after your workout as well, or even in the evening if you cut off your carb intake long before your cardio session. Like cutting off carbs at 3pm and doing cardio at 9pm or later.
Best AS for bulk depends on how your body handles the AS. Test is not always best for everyone, especially if you're sensitive to estrogen sides. You can bulk with any AS if you supply the calories, even anavar, primo, winny, etc... Think about it. If you work your ass of in the gym and get your diet right you will gain muscle anyways, add in any kind of AS and you're gonna have help.
Best AS for cutting. See above answer. The object of an AS for cutting is to preserve muscle mass during a caloric deficit. Any AS can do this whether it be dbol, fina, test or anadrol. There are some AS that are better at promoting muscle gains on fewer calories(fina, ox) but then again if this is your goal I'd say you aren't really cutting.
Yes you need a post workout shake no later than an hour after your workout. The sooner the better is the rule, but skipping this window of opportunity is really a bad idea. This is the safest time to ingest carbs as well as an important time to get quick digesting protein to stop catabolism.
Oats aren't perfect but for a carb I'd say they are one of the best in general. High fiber, low GI, very satiating, etc.. Overall I'd say beans(red kidney and black) are probably a better choice for a perfect carb source due to high fiber and protein content but a breakfast food they are not. Also things like barley are very good as well.
Milk is fine if you can handle the lactose. If not then you'd be better off skipping it and trying soy or nothing at all. Personally I can handle skim milk and don't cut it out of my diet, though I don't attempt to drink a gallon of it a day. I generally only use it in my oatmeal in the mornings and then use it in recipes and such.
Controlled splurging/refeeding is an important diet tool for most of us. Unless you're a professional athlete dieting down to extreme bodyfat levels I don't see why you'd want to skip at least a cheat meal. In fact if you are a natural dieter(no AS) then I think it is even more important because you need to keep your metabolism stoked to keep that hard earned muscle from being catabolized. If you follow the basic rules of a refeed then I think that it will help more than hinder, especially in the long run. However it is definately possible to go overboard if you do everything you can to break the rules.
Fats are key, EFA's in general that is. CLA, Omega-3, flax, olive, etc... Of course energy balance still must be considered as even good oils can be stored as fat if calories in general are too high.
Peanuts are better than a lot of other fats though almonds, macademias, walnuts, pecans etc... are a much better choice.
Just remember that there aren't always hard and fast rules to everything. Sometimes the answer isn't as simple as true or false as they are bound by conditions. Who cares what the exact best time to do cardio is? Cardio at the worst time is better than no cardio at all. Who cares if cardio option 1 is .0454% more effective than option 2 if the 2nd option is your only choice? It's still a hell of a lot better than sitting on your ass eating potato chips and contemplating which option is better.
I will tell you that the more I study and experiment the more I gave up on the calorie is a calorie theory. I ate more calories over the past 2 weeks than I every have attempted while "dieting", yet I actually ended up lighter on the scale after 2 weeks. This was eating an amount well over what I "thought" was my maintenance level. By controlling my macronutrient ratios and timing, combined with some keys supplements, I was able to eat far more than I ever thought possible, and at times I ate far less than perfect. I'm still dieting right now but I now have insight in how I will add muscle next winter without packing on much, if any fat.
The best way to answer these questions is with personal experience. Who cares what all of us think about milk if you can get down to 5% bodyfat drinking 5 glasses a day. Who are we to tell you that it's bad for cutting? Who cares what a study proves to be true if it isn't true for you? You don't have to buck the trend at all times and rebel, but sometimes you have to tread water on your own a bit to see what is possible. It may be that some of these myths hold true for you, and you may find that some of them are outright wrong for you personally.