know your role

[SoreArms]

How many times have you heard some one complain that "she just laid there like a dead fish"? Well, how about doing some directing there Spielberg, tell her/him what you want them to do. "Move this leg here and that leg there", "turn around face the head board", etc.....

Or how many of you have fucked a person that no matter how much you tried to hint and/or tell them to stay a certain way it was just no use becasue they just felt they where in charge?

This is where people need to figure out if they are sexually dominant, submissive or an in betweener that can tolerate/enjoy both.

If you're sexually submissive find a dominant partner, if you're a dom find a sudmissive partner. If you're in between, find some one that likes the same. True doms don't like being submissive and true submissives don't like being doms.

Don't let the terms scare you, this isn't just about weird S&M and bondage shit, it goes for all people who have sex, male or female (I made up the in between term btw).

If you like to take charge, find a partner that likes to take oders and lets you put them in whatever position you'd like (as long as they are comfortable of course). If you're not comfortable giving those orders then find someone that will, sex should never be boring if the right balance is achieved. If you're the kind of person that likes your partner to tell you what to do, or have no idea what to do aside from the usual, then find a sexually dominant partner. If you like doing both, giving and taking orders, then find some one that does/likes the same. A submissive person will be misserable having to give you orders and a dom will have little tolerance to taking them. An in betweener will be OK with either for a while, but eventually they will have a need for the other side of the role and thats where things will fall apart, that's why it's best for them to find another in betweener.

Being male does not automatically give you the sexually dominant role and being female does not have to make you the sexually submissive one. Some guys have no idea what the fuck they are doing or how to tell a partner what they would like to do or have done. Some women know exactly what gets them off and know how to tell their partner what to do and how to do it. Figure out your role and find a sex partner that complements that, you will enjoy your sex life much more after that.

Personally, as a dom I find nothing more frustrating than a chick that thinks it's only fair that she get to tie me up and blind fold me too.

 

[*MissFit*]

I know my role

 

[Sassy69]

Your role is what *I* say!

 

[onebigab]

Say my name bitch.

 

[SVT-TROY]

I had sex with this girl about a year ago. She wouldn't do it doggy, she wouldn't ride it, she wouldn't put her legs up. It wasn't fun for either one of us and I'm sure she thought I sucked in bed. I didn't see her for a while after that. I ran in to her again two months ago, we fucked and this time she did everything I asked her to do and two hours later, her legs were a shakin'. She called me every day and wanted to hook up on my days off of work. That proves your point. I hooked up with her a couple more times but now she won't talk to me because one night I told her I was sick and couldn't hang out with her, but then she found out that I went to my buddy's house to jam instead. I know.

 

[Pamela]

Personally, as a dom I find nothing more frustrating than a chick that thinks it's only fair that she get to tie me up and blind fold me too.

Why wouldn't you do this?

 

[SoreArms]

Why wouldn't you do this?

It's not my role.

I've tried it before and would be willing to try it again if some one I really cared about really wanted to (like my last GF), but it is not something I get much pleasure from. Most of the chicks that ask are chicks that I've dom'd a couple of times and somehow feel that it's only fair that they get to dom me too. Fair? True submisives are pleased and pleasured by the mear fact that a sexually dominant person is in control, that is their form of fairness. That is what I seek.

Also, being sexually submissive does not mean that you need to be submissive or subserviant in real life. As a matter of fact, I prefer women to be submisive sexually, but somewhat dominant/strong else where, like shrewd career women that would fuck you over to reach their goals.

 

[Pamela]

It's not my role.

I've tried it before and would be willing to try it again if some one I really cared about really wanted to (like my last GF), but it is not something I get much pleasure from. Most of the chicks that ask are chicks that I've dom'd a couple of times and somehow feel that it's only fair that they get to dom me too. Fair? True submisives are pleased and pleasured by the mear fact that a sexually dominant person is in control, that is their form of fairness. That is what I seek.

Also, being sexually submissive does not mean that you need to be submissive or subserviant in real life. As a matter of fact, I prefer women to be submisive sexually, but somewhat dominant/strong else where, like shrewd career women that would fuck you over to reach their goals.

Are you into chain and whips?

 

[*MissFit*]

I dunno i like to be dominated.. I mite struggle, but it's fun when a guy tries

 

[hamstershaver]

my role is to get it over as soon as possible