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Inside a swingers club

milo hobgoblin

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Okay all... I went to a VERY nice swingers club with my girlfriend and thought Id write a post for anyone who is curious what an "on premise" club is like.

First off... the "club" is actually a mansion with a huge dance floor, bar monstrous living/seating room and "play rooms" in the back. You pay a yearly membership fee and a per couple cost for each visit. They dont server alcahol so you have to bring your won which thye serve at the bar. The provide mixers. They also include a gourmet buffet.. amazing food.

The average age is NOT 50+ like some people "think" The average age appeared to be 35 with a few people in their 20's a few in their 40's and a few in their 50's.

Some of the older women were actually VERY hot (total MILFs) most had big boobs or boob jobs and most of the younger girls were really cute (personally Im 33 but I like women in ther 30's). All the hottest women were in theor 30's most worked out... very few smokers and they ALL spent the latyer part of the evening fucking. The women had to be the horniest bunch I have ever seen... definitely the aggressors here.

My girlfriend and I work out 4-5 days a week and run 1-2 days a week, we both look very good with our clothes off so we got a lot of attention... BUT make no mistake Women RULE the roost in swingers clubs... its all about them and they know it... this was our first time to an on premise club and the regulars can tell. We have been with other women in regular clubs (taken them home etc..) but not to a full blown on premise club

Another common mistake is for poeple to think the guys are sleazy... most of them were very respectful especially to my girlfriend. Its not too different from meeting couples anywhere else you chat, get comfortable and if there is mutual attraction you go play..... Im not sure if its because of where we live but EVERYONE was dressed very nicely. Very clean cut.

The people that ran the place were some of the nicest people Ive met... VERY open minded. People all through the club talk about sex so openly no guilt, no jealousy... no nothing. Just there to have fun. No one gets jealous if your checking out thier lady (or their man for the women). Its expected... and its almost a compliment if someone is hitting on your spouse. I cant even begin to tell you what a turn on it is to see another couple eyeing your woman and knowing exactly what they are thinking.

Guys if your in good shape... oh you'll feel good in here... A swingers club is definitely the place to show it all off. I felt pretty comfortable right away and after a couple of hours I took all my clothes off (my girl kept her bikini bottoms on) and every woman I walked by stared me down... felt REAL good for the ole ego. hehe

I cant explain it but if your arent a jealous person... if feels incredibly comfortable. Its as if all the old rules about monogamy and relationships are just gone... its a purely sexual expereince, its all you san see, think and feel.

its like a drug. The longer you are their the more you stop looking for peoples physical flaws and start looking and seeing whats attractive about them. No one is going to judge or critisize you. They are just there to enjoy each other.

The place is kept extremely clean... they provide condoms and lube everywhere.. towels. Even at the end of the night the restrooms still looked like were just cleaned.

The back rooms are open beds and cubbys... some swings, a iron cross for bondage... and people fucking everywhere... All you can hear in the back is women moaning and cumming. Some very good women on women action too. Lots of threesomes, foursomes and moresomes (heheheh)

By 2am everyone looked pretty tired.

Im sure there are some pretty sleazy clubs out there... maybe Im just a lucky bastard to live 20 minutes from what has to be the best swingers club there is.... my GF and I are definitely going back... as often as we can I hope :-)))))))))))))))))))))000
 
lol

Nope... I wouldnt have been opposed to it... but it was our first time there and we pretty much agreed to take it easy and feel the place out.

We will probably go again next Sat night and we've pretty much agreed anything goes... so Im hoping for a little Dp action... yummy... my own porno...

I love being a kinky bastard... :-)

you only live once make the best of it.
 
sounds really cool. still dont know if i could handle watching someone bang my girl.. nor could i see how someone could watch ME bang THEIR girl
 
I agree with Scottie, I'm into the 3-some thing with my girl and another chick, but the idea of looking over and seeing my girl look at some guy the way she looks at me while he's fucking her creeps me out. Its making me feel uncomfrotable thinking about it. I guess its selfish to think she wouldn't care if I'm banging another chick, but its just the way I feel right now, it might change.
 
Interesting post Milo, how did you go about finding the club? How did you know it was going to be "non-sleazy"?

Like I said in the other post, we'd probably visit a club if the opportunity came along -- not to hook up, but more for the atmosphere and to appease our voyeuristic/exhibitionist side. It'd be interesting to be a fly on the wall for one evening...

Did you find people pushy? Were people pretty straightforward -- like "hey you look nice, wanna fuck?" or was it more reserved then that?
 
Hmmm

no it was much more reserved than that...

its hard to explain...

first off I knew it wasnt sleazy because they have to do a phone interview with you before you can even make reservations and we spent quite a while talking about the club and the rules... they have a pretty strict dress code when you show up (most people end up nekkid or semi nekkid later in the evening)

The other big issue is no single men or women allowed... the single guys apparently cause some problems.

You have to keep this in mind... most people who enter into this lifestyle are very secure in their relationships and with themselves... in itself this leads to a crowd who is more mature and more open minded.

The women are a little more forward than the men... but as far as hooking up its kinda happens on its own... everyone is there for the same thing but its more of an overall feeling that everyone appears to have.

and as far as "some other guy fucking your girl"

think of it this way... do you think your girl is hot? Do you like watching porn? just imagine a porno with your woman (or man) as the star...

beleive me its not for the faint of heart or close minded and its certainly not for the jealous or insecure but its sure as hell if fun.
 
Interesting take and description.

I think, if anything, another girl might be OK for the fact that both of us could enjoy a girl ... not anything we'd actively pursue though. For us, it's probably more fun to just fantasize about it or go the "soft" route rather than full-on. Our marriage and family is the most important thing to us and we wouldn't jeaporadize that.

I know it wouldn't cause problems for us because we're extremely honest with one another and committed to our relationship so I'm sure we could take it for what it was -- fun and nothing else; but on the other hand, both of us could easily go without it, so why bother? We *love* making love to one another and it's always extremely fulfilling. Watching other couples or public sex (with eachother) could be fun though.

I've done the 3some thing in previous relationships and MMF didn't do it for me ... I *really* didn't like seeing another guy bone my girl (but it was too late to stop and we didn't talk enough before any of it happened) and ultimately the relationship ended when it became a huge emotional tangle.
 
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Well, everyone is different... and just going to the club even if you dont participate is a big turn on... my girl and I have had some amazing sex since then.

My GF is bisexual and really enjoys women so for her is as much a need issue as it is a pleasure issue. But in any case all of it stems from trust and communication..

without those two things none of this would be possible no matter how stable the relationship
 
It sounds like you guys have it together -- I respect the fact that you've put energy into identifying the needs of your relationship. Like you said, everyone's a little different... We're a pretty sexually tolerant couple, and we both love getting attention when we go out, so who knows where the road will travel?

So, you guys are just kind of easing into the lifestyle right now? (sounds like you did some experimenting before hitting this point in your relationship though) Do you think you'll become regulars at the club?

Also, you'd feel *no* pangs of jealousy at all watching another guy with your girl? (and let me preface that by saying I don't think all jealousy is bad.) (Nor am I saying it's a bad thing if you aren't jealous, just asking.)

Has inviting other women into your bed caused any problems for you as a couple? If so, how did you get over them?
 
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actually the first time it did cause a little problem for her... she got a little bugged when she saw me inside another girl for the first time.... just take things at your own pace... you may get in there see all the sex and get turned on by seeing her flirt a little... like I said before.... everything changes once you step through those doors... feelings you may think you will have never happen.

Its kind of like when you go to Vegas and get really crazy. You know how the old saying goes "what happens in Vegas stay in Vegas"... well its kind of the same thing... you just have to trust ech other and feel secure that no matter how wild you get in there... that its reserved for those situations only. That outside of that lifestyle and more importantly EMOTIONALLY you still belong only to each other. I cant stress how important that is.

Its something you talk about and try and decide if its for you. Anytime you do anything unconventional in a relationship its going to be difficult

remember this... when we venture into these arenas we are going against 30+ years (or however old you are) of social conditioning about whats right and wrong when it come to sex.

What matters is what makes the two of you happy. Try not to consider what people think the "norm" is..

The people at that club were some of the most laid back, happy bunch Ive been around DEFINITELY better than regular night clubs. Lots of laughing and just hanging out.

and sex of any kind turns me on so... no I dont get jealous. Im a kinky bastard

Hell, its not like either of us were virgins before we met... :-)
 
Heh-heh, very cool. Good points to boot. If we ever visit SD, I may shoot you an e-mail to get pointed in the right direction ...
 
fuck bro, i couldnt hang there i freak the fuck out if some dude oogles my chick at the mall, ... but more power to you and your lady.
 
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I think a lot of guys "think" they would freak... but its kind of strange... you dont really feel that way.. all you can see is sex sex sex. Its a huge turn on.

Again, everyone is diffeerent as to what they can and cant handle in terms of relationships. After two marriages and an ungodly number of relationships Ive become pretty secure with myself and with women.
 
Ive had a similar experience at a swing club here in S.Florida.

Me and my girl had talked about going to a swinging club back when we first met and were only fucking.. After a couple years of being exclusive and living together we took the next step and checked out the nicer swing club in Ft. Lauderdale.

We already go to the nude beach and get hit on all the time by other swinging couples.. Its funny, some couples walk around nekked except for a bunch of business cards with their names and pictures that they give out to other couples..

The women are definately in control in the swing club.. It was always the women that came up to see if we wanted to play.

I wasnt jealous watching my girl get fucked by another guy.. because at the same time I had one girl rubbing my chest and another riding my dick.. all the while Im watching my girl and the rest of the orgy in the mirror on the ceiling.

My trip to a swing club was great.. Got to have sex with an asian women (check that off the list), a spanish woman, and a white woman.. and of course my girlfriend too (spanish woman).. somehow when we got home we were still horny and had great sex for awhile after that.
 
"The longer you are their the more you stop looking for peoples physical flaws and start looking and seeing whats attractive about them. No one is going to judge or critisize you. They are just there to enjoy each other"

that`s good, Great explanation of everything in your first post.
 
Re: Hmmm

Milo Hobgoblin said:

You have to keep this in mind... most people who enter into this lifestyle are very secure in their relationships

I thought I read somewhere recently that wife swappers have much higher divorce rates than non-swinging couples?
 
eh only way in hell I would do something lke that(aybe) is if a girl "friend" of mine pretend to be together jst so we can go have soe fun lol...no way in hell would I with a girl I was supposedly in love with
 
Austin316 said:
eh only way in hell I would do something lke that(aybe) is if a girl "friend" of mine pretend to be together jst so we can go have soe fun lol...

Thats agreat idea...
 
I wish we had some of these places in Montréal but all the clubs I know and we have a bunch of them (5 at least) are all 40yr old average and more. A 35 yr old couple will look very young there so imagine me and my GF, both 24. Sucks cause we'd like to give it a serious try...
 
I,D TRIED IT. I GOT INTO A SWINGING CLUB HERE IN MEXICO AND I DIDN,T GOTTA HAVE A GIRL TO GET INTO IT BECAUSE THERE ARE MANY WOMEN IN THERE WHO SELECT THE STALLIONS THAT THEY LIKE. IT WAS KIND OF FUN.
 
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