I'm so excited ... a toy!!

[Puddles]

Re: Hey BD...

Whatever u do...DO NOT i repeat DO NOT go near Jubei's wang as some of Elites Whores have said he has a 2 inch wanker!!! BAWhahahahaha

You mean Jubei's been hookin up on the boards and not telling us all the details and not posting up pics?


Jubei...shame on you! C'mon and give up the details!

 

[natedog]

I used to think marriage would be all good and my future wife would never want to cheat on me because of my dashing good looks. Now I'm not so sure....

ROFL. Trust me, looks ain't enough. My ex cheated on me with very average-looking, short, skinny dudes. All she had ever dated before (and including) me were good-looking (so I'm told...), tall, muscular dudes. She even admitted, "yeah, they (2) were not-so-hot and had little dicks, but they listened to me." Lesson learned the hard way .

And...trolling for some poor dude's wife (or egging her on) on an internet chat board is pretty pathetic. Just remember it when you're 40-something, pulling your hair out, wondering who your wife is fucking and why. If you think it couldn't happen to you, then it probably will.

 

[jubei]

DSN found a cum soaked condum handing out of his ass last weekend and he claimed to have "blacked out". I guess this is the incident he is alluding to however how would he know it was me if he blacked out? Just admit it DSN you liked it and now your mad cause I'm playing hard to get.

 

[Burning Desire]

It went like this:

OK ... maybe it's just me ... but ...

He came home late ... about 30 minutes ...

ME: "why are you home late?"
HIM: "what difference does it make, I always get home late"
ME: "You ready?"
HIM: "You're kididng, right?"
ME: "No, go take a walk in my bedroom" candles lit! I'm ready!
HIM: (he laughs) "Your serious"
ME: "Whatever, we don't have to if you don't want to"

I'm not going to force him into it ... always when HE wants it, never for ME! Even when I'm too tired I give it up!

I tried to help myself ... guess I'll have to try again without my toy (he's around) ....

He then proceeded to complain how I wasn't on my computer ... and that I was actually watching TV ... I said, "Ya! Waiting for you" ... I was sitting on the couch and I could just feel the wetness dripping from me! (I took that Stamina Rx for Women)

I told him, "Stop bugging me, why don't you just go down your shed"

He said, "OK, I will!" (he wanted to do this since he got in, guess he felt obligated to sit with me a few or something)

This... my friends, is just a brief glimpse of every day/night for me!

Guess he'd rather be in his shed (it's pretty big in there ~ 12x16 ... tv, beer fridge ~~ he can smoke in there, since there is NO smoking in the house.)

Can only try so much before you really stop caring!!

Whatever ....

Life goes on ....

bd

 

[Puddles]

Maybe he likes to feel like he's the one in control? Some poeople need to feel like they've got control over certain situations.

When he walked in and you immediately asked why he was late, he probably also felt like he was confronted with a situation and his natural reaction was to defend himself. A nice kiss hello, how was your day and dinner waiting for him would have set an entirely different tone when he walked through the door too.

If you've both gotten into certain habbits...him going to the shed to smoke and drink for the night...you on the computer or whatever...it's gonna take a LOT to break those habbits and they won't be done overnight. Just like the two of you have grown apart...that didn't happen overnight either. Some gentler approaches could be used instead of being so agressive if that's what he needs.

 

[jubei]

I think the reason I tend to do well with women besides my incredible good looks and abnormally large penis is because I tread my women very well. What happened to BD would never happen with me. I always try and make my girl feel wanted and special and I have always gotten back twice what I put in.

No wonder you want to cheat on him, he sounds like fucking Al bundy. What a jerk off. The sad part is I don't think he would care if you did cheat on him, other than the fact that it makes him look bad. I really feel for you. Good thing puddles is around or I would just give up on marriage all together.

 

[Temple]

Is he happy with what he does for a living??? That sounds a whole lot like my hubby when he had a job that he hated. I was home all day with a toddler and before we knew it we might as well have been living on seperate coasts the way that we treated each other. We bristled at the slightest thing and were totally entrenched in the position that it was ALL the other person's fault. I'm not saying it is all you - he bears half the responsibility. I do believe that one person can, with enough persistence, change the direction of a relationship.

Mrs. Puddles offers some good advice. I would like to add that it maybe if you took sex totally out of the equation for awhile and focused on simply connecting. That is basically what she is suggesting. When he growls at you it is only natural to growl back but if you don't eventually he will have a real tough time being pissy with someone who is always nice to him.

It took a good while and a career change for us to turn things around. There were times when we would have sex maybe once a month - now it is almost daily. The funny thing is that the career change actually involved more hours for him but he was happy and challenged by what he was doing. With enough patience and the right approach I think that we can all create our own realities. It sounds like you have made the decision that you will stay in the relationship for the kids so you might as well do everything in your power to make it a good one.

 

[natedog]

Very well said, MrsPuddlesFL.

Burning Desire, I applaud your effort. I certainly don't have all of the answers, especially without his side of the story, but, I can assure you that cheating is NOT an answer and won't help either you or your marriage in the end.

I would suggest talking as a means of exploring what's wrong (I think we're all in agreement that something is wrong here), rather than jumping right to the sex. It sounds like the two of you are so indifferent to each other that you don't even fight about what's wrong anymore! You ought to have enough history together by now to withstand a little brutal honesty about what's going on in your relationship.

I'll guarantee you that if the two of you split up, he'll be kicking himself in the ass for the rest of his life for not taking you up on your offer tonight. My ex made a similar overture shortly before we split (come home, she's naked on the couch, looking at me expectantly), and I rolled my eyes at her and went in and turned on my computer. To this day (almost 6 years later), I wonder, "what if...").

Oh, by the way...blowjobs are great ice-breakers. If you were trying to make up with a friend you'd grown apart from, would you A) invite her over to cook dinner for you, or B) invite her over to eat a nice dinner that you cooked? ...He may eye you suspiciously, and ask what you want or whatever. Just assure him that you only want his attention. I guarantee that you'll have it .

I know it probably sounds like I'm saying you have to do all the work...but it sounds like you would really rather get everything you need from your marriage, so I'm offering my suggestions. Hell, if it meant I could have my marriage back and happy, I'D probably suck some dick, lol (tic). Looking again, especially knowing what can go wrong, sucks.

I think the reason I tend to do well with women besides my incredible good looks and abnormally large penis is because I tread my women very well. What happened to BD would never happen with me. I always try and make my girl feel wanted and special and I have always gotten back twice what I put in.

No wonder you want to cheat on him, he sounds like fucking Al bundy. What a jerk off. The sad part is I don't think he would care if you did cheat on him, other than the fact that it makes him look bad. I really feel for you. Good thing puddles is around or I would just give up on marriage all together.

You, my friend, have obviously never been married. It's not something that can be explained...

 

[jubei]

QUOTE]You, my friend, have obviously never been married. It's not something that can be explained.[/QUOTE]

You are correct I have never been married, and the thought of it is getting me a little worried. I have been in a long relationship, well for over 2 years I consider that a long time at my age. Also I am not niave or think marriage is all fun and no work. In my last major relationship that lasted over 2 years there were problems but we always let each other know we cared and never treated each other with the indifference I saw in BD's post.

 

[TheDarkSideNinja]

BD

If i were married and my woman came home 30 mins late and didn't have a valid excuse i would def be on the phone with that awesome show "Cheaters" they bring out the best in relationships!!!

Now it sounds like you are in a tough situation. Puddles always gives good advice so this is nothing new lol but i would say fight back. When he wants the pooty-tang don't give it up. Just do what he does. If he walks to the shed when u want some cock then you hop on the comp when he wants the putty cat maybe thatll set em str8. Or the other option i would say is to sit down and talk to him but no matter which way you look at it just like Puddles said those habbits will def. be hard to break. Good Luck!!!