I think I'm about to me single

[Mike LI]

Alright Bros, I looks like me and my girl may be splitting up after about 4years, we live togather and she is a great girl but we have been having some problems for a while now and the relationship just isn't work out as well as it should be and just not progressing. I have just been kinda freaked out about being so committed at only 24 and have had a desire to kinda be on my own and do my own thing for a little while now which results in me not treating her like I should. It is a pretty shitty situation because she really is a phemnomial girl and it's not easy to let her go but it isn't fair to just keep her around either and not treat her right. I have mixed feelings about the whole situation but I'm pretty excited about being single and also kinda nervous about it too because it's been a long time since I've been single. It sucks because I am hurting her either way which I don't want to do. Has anyone else been in this situation? How did it work out for you?

 

[PatBateman3]

Alright Bros, I looks like me and my girl may be splitting up after about 4years, we live togather and she is a great girl but we have been having some problems for a while now and the relationship just isn't work out as well as it should be and just not progressing. I have just been kinda freaked out about being so committed at only 24 and have had a desire to kinda be on my own and do my own thing for a little while now which results in me not treating her like I should. It is a pretty shitty situation because she really is a phemnomial girl and it's not easy to let her go but it isn't fair to just keep her around either and not treat her right. I have mixed feelings about the whole situation but I'm pretty excited about being single and also kinda nervous about it too because it's been a long time since I've been single. It sucks because I am hurting her either way which I don't want to do. Has anyone else been in this situation? How did it work out for you?

2 years older than you and went through the exact same situation (or still going through it). PM me if you wanna talk, just make sure you know what you want out of everything, as the grass always looks greener on the other side.

 

[jnevin]

That just about summed up my marriage. Two good people that weren't that good together and it just went down hill from there. Single life's ok, girls are nuts. If she's important to you maybe try counseling and put all you can into it. I sometimes wish I had tried harder.

 

[*MissFit*]

always seems easier cutting someone's elses grass then you own.. but ... like they said In the end u gotta wonder if it's worth it

 

[marshallmadman]

Alright Bros, I looks like me and my girl may be splitting up after about 4years, we live togather and she is a great girl but we have been having some problems for a while now and the relationship just isn't work out as well as it should be and just not progressing. I have just been kinda freaked out about being so committed at only 24 and have had a desire to kinda be on my own and do my own thing for a little while now which results in me not treating her like I should. It is a pretty shitty situation because she really is a phemnomial girl and it's not easy to let her go but it isn't fair to just keep her around either and not treat her right. I have mixed feelings about the whole situation but I'm pretty excited about being single and also kinda nervous about it too because it's been a long time since I've been single. It sucks because I am hurting her either way which I don't want to do. Has anyone else been in this situation? How did it work out for you?

Show me a beautiful girl and I'll show you a guy who's sick and tired of her bullshit. Dude, you're 24. There is no way you should be committed to one woman at this point in your life.

 

[Mike LI]

I appreiciate the responses. I have struggled this for quite some time know, between wanting to be single and do my own this for a while, we started dating when we were in college so I have never know what it is like to be single as a adult(out of college) and I don't want to end up regretting never giving myself this time know later on in life. But at the same time she is a woman that I truely respect and could really end up kicking myself later for letting her go ontop of the fact that I don't ever want to cause her to be upset. I guess it is the kind of situation where you kind of lose either way. I'm not really sure how this is going to unfold, we'll see.

 

[theoak01]

ok bro here is this from someone who lives with a decision exactly like this everyday.

we were dating for 3 and a half years,I hadnt been single as a adult,I loved her but wanted the same independance you speak of,I wanted to see if all these other hotties were as fun and appealing as they looked, well I was fucking wrong,I should have never let that girl go,and now Ive lost her and there isnt a god damn thing I can do about it except slowly make myself move on. I was self medicating for a while and withdrawn from everyone and everything except work,I didnt eat right or lift for a few months and it shows,I look like shit now.

so really think here bro,if you think this girl could be someone you could marry dont let her go ,you gotta be 100% before you do anything because regrett is a mother fucker and it will effect you in alot of ways,I got into booze and drugs when Im not that kind of person at all.

pm me if ya need any more advice bro,this situation was me to a T,even down to the treating her bad shit

 

[*MissFit*]

Well i dated the same guy from 16-24.. was engaged at 21.. by 24 i decided it wasn't for me.. it's not a decision that sohuld be taken litely.. i don't regret it.. but i know alot of ppl that do

 

[Marauder79]

Somone once said......

"Love Comes Again" - Dj Tiesto

check it out....

 

[Dekaxx]

You have already made up your mind what you want to do just time to go through with it.

 

[PatBateman3]

ok bro here is this from someone who lives with a decision exactly like this everyday.

we were dating for 3 and a half years,I hadnt been single as a adult,I loved her but wanted the same independance you speak of,I wanted to see if all these other hotties were as fun and appealing as they looked, well I was fucking wrong,I should have never let that girl go,and now Ive lost her and there isnt a god damn thing I can do about it except slowly make myself move on. I was self medicating for a while and withdrawn from everyone and everything except work,I didnt eat right or lift for a few months and it shows,I look like shit now.

so really think here bro,if you think this girl could be someone you could marry dont let her go ,you gotta be 100% before you do anything because regrett is a mother fucker and it will effect you in alot of ways,I got into booze and drugs when Im not that kind of person at all.

pm me if ya need any more advice bro,this situation was me to a T,even down to the treating her bad shit

yep, I had the same situation...didn't get into the booze or shit tho, breaking up actually made me more into a machine...but i am more withdrawn now, hate women more....and I was engaged, albeit halfheartedly, and fucked a lot of things up. the one thing I've learned, there is NO way to change the past...adn that sucks

 

[The Angry Mule]

ok bro here is this from someone who lives with a decision exactly like this everyday.

we were dating for 3 and a half years,I hadnt been single as a adult,I loved her but wanted the same independance you speak of,I wanted to see if all these other hotties were as fun and appealing as they looked, well I was fucking wrong,I should have never let that girl go,and now Ive lost her and there isnt a god damn thing I can do about it except slowly make myself move on. I was self medicating for a while and withdrawn from everyone and everything except work,I didnt eat right or lift for a few months and it shows,I look like shit now.

so really think here bro,if you think this girl could be someone you could marry dont let her go ,you gotta be 100% before you do anything because regrett is a mother fucker and it will effect you in alot of ways,I got into booze and drugs when Im not that kind of person at all.

pm me if ya need any more advice bro,this situation was me to a T,even down to the treating her bad shit

So true bro,as they say you dont know what you got till its gone

 

[Forge]

So true bro,as they say you dont know what you got till its gone

Yeah, but at the same time sometimes a thing can seem better in retrospect than it actually was. Nostalgia can be blinding, most people tend to remember the good and forget about the bad.

 

[velvett]

She's gonna marry the next guy she finds that can replace you.
And you'll have a great time enjoying single life.

You'll get married just before or after her first divorce.

 

[artrius]

She's gonna marry the next guy she finds that can replace you.
And you'll have a great time enjoying single life.

You'll get married just before or after her first divorce.

That was harsh... I like you already

 

[theoak01]

Yeah, but at the same time sometimes a thing can seem better in retrospect than it actually was. Nostalgia can be blinding, most people tend to remember the good and forget about the bad.

ya bro but with me and buddy who posted we created the bad in our heads mainly and turned it into a self fufilling prophecy or why we should leave,which was to find out how the other women in the world were,and I for one hate myself daily for it,but Ill survive, not all people can rebound from being to the absolute bottom like I did.

during the past 3-4 months Ive had a gun in my mouth twice and done more drugs and drank then I ever thought possible, some guys end it on the first gun encounter and cant bounce back

 

[Forge]

ya bro but with me and buddy who posted we created the bad in our heads mainly and turned it into a self fufilling prophecy or why we should leave,which was to find out how the other women in the world were,and I for one hate myself daily for it,but Ill survive, not all people can rebound from being to the absolute bottom like I did.

during the past 3-4 months Ive had a gun in my mouth twice and done more drugs and drank then I ever thought possible, some guys end it on the first gun encounter and cant bounce back

WOAH!!! Damn Oak, put the gun away, women problems aren't worth suicide bor! Broken hearts and loneliness suck but life goes on. There's too much to do in life even without women.

 

[theoak01]

I know this now bro,Im clean and sober and moving on pretty well,the gun came out when I was in a cloud of drugs and booze and saw no way out, I just dont want anyone else to end up in that spot because not everyone who ends up there see's the light

 

[allabs]

i been there with my X still love her to death the best thing for her wasnt me ,I know that cause im a dick . The things i thought mattered ie money, cars, houses,(shoes she didnt mind nor did i damm 4 in pumps) didnt mean shit.Shes married now and still calls me once in a while let me tell you it kills knowing she was mine.Now shes happy, in love which makes me feel better knowing shes happy, thats how i figured out that i really loved her, 2 little 2 late .Think it through first till u cant think any more .As far and booze and guns go dont ever do it bro stick around youll meet someone new and all will get better.Just like the giant oak stand big and strong...

 

[Mike LI]

i been there with my X still love her to death the best thing for her wasnt me ,I know that cause im a dick . The things i thought mattered ie money, cars, houses,(shoes she didnt mind nor did i damm 4 in pumps) didnt mean shit.Shes married now and still calls me once in a while let me tell you it kills knowing she was mine.Now shes happy, in love which makes me feel better knowing shes happy, thats how i figured out that i really loved her, 2 little 2 late .Think it through first till u cant think any more .As far and booze and guns go dont ever do it bro stick around youll meet someone new and all will get better.Just like the giant oak stand big and strong...

Thank you for everyones sincere responses. We are tring to be honest with each other and see if things can be worked out. As it was said earlier in the thread I'd hate to lose her without really trying to keep it togather. At least if things don't work out I can move on knowing that we honestly tried and that I never wronged her in anyway so my conscience will be clear. Any more experiences or opinions are welcomed since this is far from resolved.

 

[velvett]

Thank you for everyones sincere responses. We are tring to be honest with each other and see if things can be worked out. As it was said earlier in the thread I'd hate to lose her without really trying to keep it togather. At least if things don't work out I can move on knowing that we honestly tried and that I never wronged her in anyway so my conscience will be clear. Any more experiences or opinions are welcomed since this is far from resolved.

I hope you can work it out and stay together - you sound like a sincere guy.

 

[fbodyguy02]

If you two have been together this long and she fulfills atleast 75% of your criteria for being your future wife..stick it out.

It is difficult at times (especialy if you have been dating for so long) to think about settling down forever with one woman, but eventually you will be looking to get married, and she MAY be the one. If you are just thinking about being single to get some variety in your sexlife, try porn.

I've been together with the same woman for 5 years now, and we have our ups and downs. It's natural to feel the way you do, but when I think aobu tlife without her... I can't even imagine that.

Your heart will steer you inthe right direction.

PM me if you wanna talk about it. I wish you two the best.