First, AAP, i have always wanted to come to one of your pool parties. Any on the horizon?
Second: NO ONE and i mean NO ONE has the right to make a comment about how you dress at work. You are a very classy lady, i have seen your work choices from casual to dressed up and NEVER have you ever looked less than professional. Never a skirt, never any suggestive ANYTHING... you are in no way in the wrong here, and now its time for legal advice to take this past the obvious smoke screen that your employer and his HR people are trying to pull over on you. Its an old and tired counter to your obvious upper hand here: they feel like only effective way to silence you is to plant the seed in your head that YOU are somehow at fault. FUCK THAT. its too obvious for words and it STINKS.
If you somehow perceive that you are at fault, you will not go any further in persuing your RIGHT to a safe and harassment free workplace, or compensation for their inablity or ignorance of the LAW. NO ONE may suggest to you EVER that you are to blame for some neandrafuck suggestion that you should show him your tits. This is not about sex, no asshole thinks that saying shit like that will ever get him any: he is threatened by you and uses the most effective tool little men have and that is attack that which hurts the most. Your physical fitness and confidence is very intimidating to ingnorant men, VERY. You are a stunning and very powerful woman in every way and this felcher thinks that impinges on his 'alpha' status around where you work, that you dont cower to him must make his blood boil.
Back to the 'legal' needs: you MUST see a lawyer to, at the very least, establish the correct and legal paper trail of this and past events, as well as to simply get a solid grip on your rights here. NO employer may EVER suggest that your physical attractiveness gives another employee the right to abuse you. SHIT! THEY AREN'T EVEN ALLOWED TO SAY THAT SHIT OUT LOUD! Saying that you are at fault and deserve abuse for being fit and beautiful is like saying that that Nigger gets what he deserves cause he's a darkie, or that retard in the wheelchair should mind his own, etc, etc... again, FUCK THAT! Racism, gender bias, etc. are ALL wrong, all of them have laws that specificly protect the worker. Can you IMAGINE the uproar if this Clitcock said to a black employee, 'Fetch that for me, Sambo.'?!?!? Same shit, diffent smell.
You have never broken a dress code, which to my understanding DOESNT EVEN EXIST at your company. The laws in most states are perfectly clear on this one: making a comment that your physicality, hot or fat or hunchbacked or wheelchaired or black or one eyed or WHATEVER is all the same and OFF limits. Period. You have some serious issues here on your side, and the fact that your employer made those obseRations in a meeting to discuss sexual harrassment issues is NUTS!!!! They just set themselves up for a fall, and if your lawyer is a shark, they're fucked this way to easter sunday.
get your facts on paper, get the dates and names and wording down now that its fresh, get it to your lawyer or whomever she recomends and stick up for yourself. You are very good people, Friskers, and deserve better than this atiquated crap.
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Frisky said:
Thank you darlin... you know the situation now and well.. needless to say, I'm not 100% happy with the way things were handled.
Not sure where things go from here on out but I feel like I AM TO BLAME for some pervert making sexual comments to me... So yea.. Frisky adjust yourself because you provoked it some way some how.. In so many words thats the message that I recieved... but eh.. we are doing everything we can to fix the problem and make sure it doesn't happen again .. but keep in mind we want you to get fat and ugly so that no one wants to even look at you.
I'm deeply saddened with the meeting, though I love my job and my superiors they are in turn trying to please both employee's, myself and the guy that harassed me at the same time.. things can't quite work that way. Nothing is being done on any other level to reprimand him in anyway... not sure if something should be by law but that makes me feel like my claims were just that.. a claim, my side of the story... yet he agrees that he DID say those things but had reason???
I'm sick to my stomach that after I got up the balls to risk a job that I truely love and go to my superiors, I am treated like I am the cause of the problem. Those who know me, know that I am a very modest professional individual. I may carry myself with confidance but NEVER with arrogance and or dress to provoke this type of behavior in the workplace.
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not a fun Friday
And you can prosecute the company if they try to fire you for filing a legitimate sexual harrassment case. That must suck working in a place being uncomfortable all the time. Try to get people on your side who'll vouche for you. Keep your chin up. 
