How to know when to keep going?

[chesty]

I have a question.

Being that I am new to this (dating) how does one know whether or not to go beyond the initial conversation. I know that people a lot of times are just being polite with the things they will say and stuff like that, but how do you differentiate without looking like a horses rear end? (which I don't want to look like, since my ex pretty much did that for me a year ago and I didn't like it then) Even if you have a phone number (which implies it is okay to call) my heart just pounds in my chest thinking about calling. (yeah, big tough Marine, intimidated by a woman, go figure)

It seems to me that this is a lot more complex than it was 20 years ago in high school and I have become even more gun shy than I was then.

 

[PBR]

chesty...if she gives you a number she wants you to call...ive been on some dating sites in the last couple of years and when a conversation is going well on IM, many times I was asked to call...some women like to hear a voice and feel more comfortable with a phone converstaion...thats a little off topic, but getting back to your original question, if the number is legitament, she wants a phone call...some women blow men off with a bad number...so you will know if she was interested, provided the number is good....i would wait a day or so, but dont take too much time- she will think she was just another number in your book...

 

[chesty]

Got ya. This isn't like riding a bike. I would agree with you on hearing the voice and the real vs fake.

 

[PBR]

dating kinda sucks...i go thru highs and lows....sometimes its fun and sometimes it a pain in the ass. Im very picky, and not a "serial dater" so i dont go out much....

 

[chesty]

I am definitely not into dating around and if I go out I am by myself. Just go listen to a band or something. Yes, it does and I have not been on many in my life. I am very picky myself. But shouldn't we be?

 

[PBR]

yes, by all rights should be picky...but some dont like to be alone...its not a problem for me, alot of solitude comes with it and peace...but i do get to a point where i feel its non-motivating and i need to get out. mostly with friends and we just go out with a group of people...im giving the dating sites a rest for awhile...i seem to attract really fat chicks and older women...i get exhausted saying, thank you for stopping by, but.....LOL

 

[chesty]

I know, I played around once looking on those sites and omg 99 out of 100 were beached wales and the rest had some major baggage!

 

[Devastation]

follow your instinkts and feel out the situation. you need to learn how to read people and their subtilities. it gets easier with practice and time

 

[chesty]

I have found that out...the hard point is to keep for going overboard in anyone area, lest the prize runs away!

 

[oresama]

Here is my advice to you bro, get yourself a little tipsy before you call her (now dont tell me youve never drunk before, and yes it may sound weird but ) trust me it works, it is the only thing I have found to help me when I get real nervous (i.e. presentations in front of class etc.) just enough untill you get you through the initial nervousness then once your comfotable you should be fine. Trust me though give it a try -