How many problems would a perfect sex life solve?

[curvymommy]

Anyone here who is married or in a loving committed relationship (read: you bone the same person all the time ) how much does sex have to do with the other problems in your relationship?

My husband thinks that with the right frequecy and quality of super hot sex almost all of your other problems in life are really diminished.

Anyone know about this?

When our sex is really great we aren't at each other's throat (in a bad way, lol) so I know he might be onto something.

 

[miplank]

I agree with your husband. Woman may feel differently though.

 

[curvymommy]

I think I'm gonna try an experiment where we DTD (that's do the deed to you noobs who don't know how dorky moms talk) everyday for a week and see if it solves any problems.

 

[miplank]

I think I'm gonna try an experiment where we DTD (that's do the deed to you noobs who don't know how dorky moms talk) everyday for a week and see if it solves any problems.

I don't think everyday would be necessary. While I myself wouldn't mind that. I think 3-4 is a pretty good number.

I think the quality of the sex is most important. Every guy wants a freak in the sheets, keeping it fresh and spicey. The same old shit 7 days a week every week would get old

 

[curvymommy]

I don't think everyday would be necessary. While I myself wouldn't mind that. I think 3-4 is a pretty good number.

I think the quality of the sex is most important. Every guy wants a freak in the sheets, keeping it fresh and spicey. The same old shit 7 days a week every week would get old

DH, is that you babe? LOL!

 

[miplank]

DH, is that you babe? LOL!

haha! great minds think a like.

 

[digimon7068]

I think I'm gonna try an experiment where we DTD (that's do the deed to you noobs who don't know how dorky moms talk) everyday for a week and see if it solves any problems.

he's right. . .but at 44 yoa (almost). . .everyday for a week might cause a whole new set of problems by about day 5 or 6. . .of course, i s'pose that's what the cialis in my briefcase is for. . .beats the hell out of popsicle sticks and duct tape

 

[swole]

Good sex makes a girl forgive my other flaws, like not putting the seat down. I notice they get more attached if the physical/emotional connection is strong while DTD (lol). For example after spending a good 30 minutes with my face in their peach, I'll come up for a nice long kiss...making sure I let them taste it on my lips. lol I've yet to meet a girl who doesn't like that.

While mind-blowing sex isn't the only key to a successful relationship, it naturally makes every day spent with your partner more enjoyable...even while it's purely innocent like going out to eat or watching a movie. I think it's because good sex means you have a good connection to begin with. It's pretty damn powerful and if you can actually get that on every dirty occasion, you hit the fuggin jackpot.

 

[musclemom]

Anyone here who is married or in a loving committed relationship (read: you bone the same person all the time ) how much does sex have to do with the other problems in your relationship?

My husband thinks that with the right frequecy and quality of super hot sex almost all of your other problems in life are really diminished.

Anyone know about this?

When our sex is really great we aren't at each other's throat (in a bad way, lol) so I know he might be onto something.

Well, my question would be, is it the sex is great and you aren't at each other's throats or are you not at each other's throats and having great sex as a result of feeling more overall positive towards each other? Which one triggers the other?

My husband and I set out an agreement from day one that we moved in together: 1) No Arguing about Sex; 2) No Arguing about Money; 3) No Going to Sleep Angry.

Consequently, since living together we have had less than 5 really severe disagreements (we have NEVER really screamed at each other) and most of those took place in the first year. We both dislike upsetting each other so much for various reasons that fighting is kind of repellent.

I will admit our sex life is impacted by the world around us, stress from work, life in general, health, etc., but how often is not a good barometer for the overall happiness of our relationship.

But then we're old so

 

[Smurfy]

Anyone here who is married or in a loving committed relationship (read: you bone the same person all the time ) how much does sex have to do with the other problems in your relationship?

My husband thinks that with the right frequecy and quality of super hot sex almost all of your other problems in life are really diminished.

Anyone know about this?

When our sex is really great we aren't at each other's throat (in a bad way, lol) so I know he might be onto something.

actually i think it tends to be the other way around.
when other problems are minimal and/or resolved, it usually results in a very active and healthy sex life.
and likewise, when there are relationship problems, the sex decreases

 

[EnderJE]

actually i think it tends to be the other way around.
When other problems are minimal and/or resolved, it usually results in a very active and healthy sex life.
And likewise, when there are relationship problems, the sex decreases

+ 1

 

[MichaelScott]

lots of sex threads from curvy today, i like it

 

[curvymommy]

lots of sex threads from curvy today, i like it

Yeah, I never even hardly ever visit this forum but it's very nice to see that there are caring people here who are so helpful.

Not that I doubted this but it is a mildly embarrasing problem but I knew if I created an alter to ask the questions everyone would know it was me anyway, lol

How are you Michael Scott?

 

[MichaelScott]

I am well, and you my lady?

 

[captainahole]

Anyone here who is married or in a loving committed relationship (read: you bone the same person all the time ) how much does sex have to do with the other problems in your relationship?

My husband thinks that with the right frequecy and quality of super hot sex almost all of your other problems in life are really diminished.

Anyone know about this?

When our sex is really great we aren't at each other's throat (in a bad way, lol) so I know he might be onto something.

I find it's a huge difference with frequency of sex in our relationship. If sex get's ignore tension seems to be higher(my focus seems to drift in that direction and it becomes a major issue)
. Also with sex more often problems in the relationship are easier to handle, I find you are more apted to talk to each 0other about issues.

 

[EarthRider]

I think I'm gonna try an experiment where we DTD (that's do the deed to you noobs who don't know how dorky moms talk) everyday for a week and see if it solves any problems.

There was a Pastor who gave his church a month challenge, to have sex every day for a month. My wife and I tried it, but only made it like 4-5 days. I love sex, but every day for a month would be tough. If I didn't have to work, and just laid around the house every day I think it could happen.

 

[miplank]

There was a Pastor who gave his church a month challenge, to have sex every day for a month. My wife and I tried it, but only made it like 4-5 days. I love sex, but every day for a month would be tough. If I didn't have to work, and just laid around the house every day I think it could happen.

I wish my pastor would give a sermon like that....

 

[curvymommy]

There was a Pastor who gave his church a month challenge, to have sex every day for a month. My wife and I tried it, but only made it like 4-5 days. I love sex, but every day for a month would be tough. If I didn't have to work, and just laid around the house every day I think it could happen.

LOL! That is awesome! Too funny. God gave us sex so I'm so glad he wants us to DTD a lot.

Hehehe!! Look at me bringing religion into the sex forum. Marriage is awesome (that's right SuperDave, real fun!)

 

[mrplunkey]

There was a Pastor who gave his church a month challenge, to have sex every day for a month. My wife and I tried it, but only made it like 4-5 days. I love sex, but every day for a month would be tough. If I didn't have to work, and just laid around the house every day I think it could happen.

A good friend of mine is a Christian counselor. When get gets a couple that's fundamentally sound (no drug problems, no marital infidelity, etc. etc.), he just tells them to have sex every day. Many times, that alone fixes it. It's reaaaaaally hard for little things to annoy you when you've just had great sex.

 

[musclemom]

A good friend of mine is a Christian counselor. When get gets a couple that's fundamentally sound (no drug problems, no marital infidelity, etc. etc.), he just tells them to have sex every day. Many times, that alone fixes it. It's reaaaaaally hard for little things to annoy you when you've just had great sex.

How can you have good sex if you're banging every day? I'm totally serious. IDK, I've just found that having sex too often (talking within the confines of a long term relationship, not newly dating/married) it loses quality. You may as well masturbate, less work (and I consider masturbation the Chinese food of sexual contact, it sort of mimics the real thing but inherently leaves you unsatisfied and empty).

 

[Bikini Mod]

I don't have ANY problems that sex could rectify.

 

[ricco561]

Anyone here who is married or in a loving committed relationship (read: you bone the same person all the time ) how much does sex have to do with the other problems in your relationship?

My husband thinks that with the right frequecy and quality of super hot sex almost all of your other problems in life are really diminished.

Anyone know about this?

When our sex is really great we aren't at each other's throat (in a bad way, lol) so I know he might be onto something.

If I had the woman in your avatar, I'd be living on love.
All the rest is just details.

 

[mrplunkey]

How can you have good sex if you're banging every day? I'm totally serious. IDK, I've just found that having sex too often (talking within the confines of a long term relationship, not newly dating/married) it loses quality. You may as well masturbate, less work (and I consider masturbation the Chinese food of sexual contact, it sort of mimics the real thing but inherently leaves you unsatisfied and empty).

Mix it up!

Variation is the key regardless. While men are innately programmed to "spread our seed" (hence all the jokes about "old pussy" and "new pussy"), mixing things up confuses our old brains so we don't realize its with the same mate.

 

[musclemom]

Mix it up!

Variation is the key regardless. While men are innately programmed to "spread our seed" (hence all the jokes about "old pussy" and "new pussy"), mixing things up confuses our old brains so we don't realize its with the same mate.

Meaning do it in different rooms, different positions and roleplay?

We do the different rooms and different positions already. I fucking refuse to roleplay/play dress up, that shit is just fucking stupid.

Besides, husband isn't interested in fucking every day, either. Our sex life keeps us quite happy, it's the other shit in the world that gets us down.

 

[mrplunkey]

Meaning do it in different rooms, different positions and roleplay?

We do the different rooms and different positions already. I fucking refuse to roleplay/play dress up, that shit is just fucking stupid.

Besides, husband isn't interested in fucking every day, either. Our sex life keeps us quite happy, it's the other shit in the world that gets us down.

Different rooms

Different positions (duh!)

Different combinations of oral/vaginal (but I don't PIITB)

Different build-ups (i.e. shower together, slowly build vs. jump each other)

And then there is always the "ninja" option. Its an open-ended deal that says if either one of us wakes up frisky in the middle of the night, we can "steal" sex with no refusal and no questions asked.

 

[Bikini Mod]

who wants to have the same tired sex all the time?

When there are several young kids in the house and the wife is overwhelmed with taking care of the kids, the house and her man (non-sexually) in a woman's list of priorities sex is waaaaaaaaaaaaay down there. This is where the man has to get creative and has to find ways to court his wife non-sexually during the day. It could be something as simple as leaving a little sticky where only she will find it with a short message about how he loves what a great job she is doing with the kids and him and the house, how lucky he is to have her. Dollars to donuts that wife will be ready willing AND ABLE to show her appreciation for HIM going out of his way to tell her that he appreciates her. He can tell her (sincerely) while she is all frazzled trying to get the kids off to school and she looks a mess, He can stop EVERYTHING and look at her and say sincerely, "You are SUCH a great mother to my children. My god but you are stunning! You glow when you show our children your love."

you know... simple sincere shit like that that doesn't cost a penny...

And the wife can try the whole non-sexual cue to let her man know she would like it if she initiated sex.

Good sex does not have to be all about merry-widows and 9" platformed red leather lace-up thigh high stilettos and bullwhips .... does it?

 

[seaking420]

How can you have good sex if you're banging every day? I'm totally serious. IDK, I've just found that having sex too often (talking within the confines of a long term relationship, not newly dating/married) it loses quality. You may as well masturbate, less work (and I consider masturbation the Chinese food of sexual contact, it sort of mimics the real thing but inherently leaves you unsatisfied and empty).

lmao with the chinese food analogy.....lolol

I agree with the frequency, everyday would be very difficult to maintain very good and intense sex. I would say everyother day or 3-4x's a week....plus most of those times when you have sex you should be buzzed....sex is much better when your stoned or a little buzzed off of some alcohol.

 

[musclemom]

Different rooms

Different positions (duh!)

Different combinations of oral/vaginal (but I don't PIITB)

Different build-ups (i.e. shower together, slowly build vs. jump each other)

And then there is always the "ninja" option. Its an open-ended deal that says if either one of us wakes up frisky in the middle of the night, we can "steal" sex with no refusal and no questions asked.

What's wrong with butt? Granted, I don't consider it a staple on the menu but as an occasional specialty ...

Anyway, I do all that stuff (usually several in one session) I can't imagine NOT doing any of that stuff ...

Jeez, either I have a really healthy sex life, or some people have some really sorry ones ...

 

[Bikini Mod]

What's wrong with butt? Granted, I don't consider it a staple on the menu but as an occasional specialty ...

Anyway, I do all that stuff (usually several in one session) I can't imagine NOT doing any of that stuff ...

Jeez, either I have a really healthy sex life, or some people have some really sorry ones ...

You kill me MM...

game/set/match = MM

 

[BBR100]

How can you have good sex if you're banging every day? I'm totally serious. IDK, I've just found that having sex too often (talking within the confines of a long term relationship, not newly dating/married) it loses quality. You may as well masturbate, less work (and I consider masturbation the Chinese food of sexual contact, it sort of mimics the real thing but inherently leaves you unsatisfied and empty).

Too much of anything is not a good thing.

I'm getting sick of Chinese but I bet I have it again tonight.

 

[mrplunkey]

What's wrong with butt? Granted, I don't consider it a staple on the menu but as an occasional specialty ...

Seems like a lot of trouble for not much additional fun. Once you've PIITB, what are you gonna do next? Back to mouth? Vaginal? No, I don't think so. So basically the moment you do it, you know how the story has to end -- now that's not very fun, is it?

Anyway, I do all that stuff (usually several in one session) I can't imagine NOT doing any of that stuff ...

+1 on that. Good bless you and women who share your attitude.

Jeez, either I have a really healthy sex life, or some people have some really sorry ones ...

No idea what to tell you there. I'm guessing frequency may just be function of the couple. I know for a fact if I miss more than about a day (i.e. 36-48 hours), it becomes almost all I can think about. It'll wake me up in the mornings (hence the "ninja" rule) and it'll keep me up at night.

 

[musclemom]

No idea what to tell you there. I'm guessing frequency may just be function of the couple. I know for a fact if I miss more than about a day (i.e. 36-48 hours), it becomes almost all I can think about. It'll wake me up in the mornings (hence the "ninja" rule) and it'll keep me up at night.

Husband and I have discussed this too and we believe it's a function of the couple (age plays a large part, too, I think). We've gone weeks and it sort of slipped by the sidelines but nobody was feeling unloved. Of course, you go TOOOO long and then it gets damned awkward because you sort of forget how to start ...

 

[Bikini Mod]

Husband and I have discussed this too and we believe it's a function of the couple (age plays a large part, too, I think). We've gone weeks and it sort of slipped by the sidelines but nobody was feeling unloved. Of course, you go TOOOO long and then it gets damned awkward because you sort of forget how to start ...

Goodness MM... you certainly know how to make me howl... In a non-sexual way, that is.

 

[musclemom]

Goodness MM... you certainly know how to make me howl... In a non-sexual way, that is.

Laugh woman! I'm fucking serious. You look at this guy you've known in every possibly way for the past 14 years and you just sort of shrug in an embarrassed way and go "I dunno, what the fuck are we supposed to do ... YOU start ..." turns into a fucking Abbott and Costello routine. You get to the point where you go "WE HAVE TO DO IT, RIGHT NOW!" And he's like, okay, well how do we start ... and you're like "Oh shut the fuck up and take off your pants ..."

 

[velvett]

You know I had a response to this but then I hit the word peach in Swole's response and I can't remember what it was I wanted to say.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Laugh woman! I'm fucking serious. You look at this guy you've known in every possibly way for the past 14 years and you just sort of shrug in an embarrassed way and go "I dunno, what the fuck are we supposed to do ... YOU start ..." turns into a fucking Abbott and Costello routine. You get to the point where you go "WE HAVE TO DO IT, RIGHT NOW!" And he's like, okay, well how do we start ... and you're like "Oh shut the fuck up and take off your pants ..."

OMG... I've only been with mine for two years and I know EXACTLY what you are talking about.

 

[EarthRider]

if im not horny, then just make me a sandwich. I am always a satisfied young man, my wife knows this trick.

 

[chris350]

jesus my sex life is sorry 1-2 times per week just sucks

 

[StoneOfFire]

sex will not solve any issues unless the issue is sex
but i think that having awesome sex frequently but not too frequently
will get your partner to be more willing to work out the rest of the problems

kinda makes me sad to think about this..