Help Me Get My Girlfriend Back!!

[JayC9]

She's using that time out to change her attitude, meet new people, reinvent herself and readjust her feelings to cope with the prospect of being without you, whilst during that time putting pressure on you to think about her and the relationship so you're figuring out ways to stay with her.

She's going to blind side you. You either call her bluff now or she'll be in the comfort zone soon and you'll have lost control.

 

[awittyusername]

Take it from Witty. He preaches. We've ALL been there.

True.

Bro, we are not saying we are any better than you...We have all been there, and made the same mistakes when where younger

Good luck you fucking pussy!@!!!!@

 

[Lumberg]

I dont want her doing w/e she pleases.

That right there is messed up.

The guys giving you the advice that you should dump her are all wrong.

Get your soon-to-be ex to sign up on here so we can all tell her to dump you.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Heres the story.

Me and my gf have been dating for 1 year now. We always had our problems but it was the kind of relationship you new nothing was going to happen, like no matter what we would be there and we would never break up. We were actually going to move in together eventually and get married.
Please help me out guys im desperate here!

Change your ways, or say goodby. She has to act herself. If you can't accept that, even if you do get hitched, it's gonna end badly.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

she isnt "acting weird". shes simply acting like anyone would when they are reconsidering their relationship...which is what shes doing.

she doesnt need a break "to get over this anger shes feeling" towards you, she needs some time to reconsider being with you...which she will do by letting her short term emotions subside, and interacting with new people to see how she feels about replacing you with them. if they dont make her feel as good as you did, she will return. if they make her feel as good or better, she will not.

you dont need "the power in the relationship". you need a clue, so that you understand that power gaps in relationships are ticking bombs, make for shitty relationships, and that a girlfriend/wife is not a pet.

in short, your relationship is over, and its a good thing, since youre not emotionally/socially mature enough to be part of a lasting, positive relationship. the idea that you should find a partner that is what you want, rather than finding someone and changing them to suit you (no smoking, clothing styles etc) isnt subtle. what youre doing is a really, really dumb way to go about finding a mate.

so. get used to the idea that your girl is going to be seeing someone else soon. sure, you might be able to flux her emotional state a bit in the short term and perhaps spark something up again, but chances are that she will make a calculated decision to see other people and leave you on your ass. (which is strangely apt, since, well...you were acting like an ass in the first place) and so were i you, i would start developing romantic interests (formatively, of course...no need to jump the gun) in your life to bolster your self esteem/social position/satisfy your libido when your relationship inevitably implodes.

and if you think that post was harsh...dont analyze your girls thought processes when she moves on.

cheers

 

[fivefold]

she isnt "acting weird". shes simply acting like anyone would when they are reconsidering their relationship...which is what shes doing.

she doesnt need a break "to get over this anger shes feeling" towards you, she needs some time to reconsider being with you...which she will do by letting her short term emotions subside, and interacting with new people to see how she feels about replacing you with them. if they dont make her feel as good as you did, she will return. if they make her feel as good or better, she will not.

you dont need "the power in the relationship". you need a clue, so that you understand that power gaps in relationships are ticking bombs, make for shitty relationships, and that a girlfriend/wife is not a pet.

in short, your relationship is over, and its a good thing, since youre not emotionally/socially mature enough to be part of a lasting, positive relationship. the idea that you should find a partner that is what you want, rather than finding someone and changing them to suit you (no smoking, clothing styles etc) isnt subtle. what youre doing is a really, really dumb way to go about finding a mate.

so. get used to the idea that your girl is going to be seeing someone else soon. sure, you might be able to flux her emotional state a bit in the short term and perhaps spark something up again, but chances are that she will make a calculated decision to see other people and leave you on your ass. (which is strangely apt, since, well...you were acting like an ass in the first place) and so were i you, i would start developing romantic interests (formatively, of course...no need to jump the gun) in your life to bolster your self esteem/social position/satisfy your libido when your relationship inevitably implodes.

and if you think that post was harsh...dont analyze your girls thought processes when she moves on.

cheers

Well put and incredibly accurate....

 

[Paulos]

If you want her to stick around you should probably start beating her, to let her know you mean business about the "her not doing whatever she wants" thing.

 

[pintoca]

zenx, listen to the rodent, he is giving sound advice.

Moving together will, if anything, make things worse if they were not good before.

You think you like somebody until you live together, then you really see all the "little things" that annoy you.

You have to think in terms of common goals, at the end, how long you can be in a relationship comes down to that: Do you share common goals, if not, one or the other will alweays have that feeling of "I'm wasting my time here, need to bounce"

 

[HiDnGoD]

My wife and I have been together for 16+ years. . .married for 13+ years. . .we butt heads like twice a year and we pretty much never fought before we were married. . .if you're already fighting all the time, that's a warning sign. Take the time off and really think about why and whether you want to be with this girl.

So true. I've been with my wife 26 years & it's the same. Rarely fight. If one of us wants something enough to be adamant, then the other will acquiesce because it isn't worth fighting over. & if one of us does something stupid, we apologize before it gets any farther.

 

[Nathan]

If you want her to stick around you should probably start beating her, to let her know you mean business about the "her not doing whatever she wants" thing.

I can't emphasize this enough. lol.

S'up Paulos?