Help Me Get My Girlfriend Back!!

[thisforumrots]

She says "I need time/space" She means "I want you gone"
sounds like you need a blow up doll or some other inanimate object that you can manipulate Women have free will dude and that is one of the things that makes them awesome

 

[jafo]

fuck sakes these threads suck

lol ... I am a loser and my girl is mad about it ..can a real man help me please

 

[HumorMe]

It means she has already started looking for someone else, but is to insecure to be alone. She will drop your ass ASAP after finding and testing out the new guy


You have to be young. We have all been there

Dump her, and bang as many chicks as possible. In the future you will look back, and be glad that you are not together

Bingo

 

[wootoom]

lol ... I am a loser and my girl is mad about it ..can a real man help me please

LOL no fuckin kiddin

 

[slat1]

You can't change someone.
If you love her why would you want to change her?
Sounds like someone is in her ear. Friends? Another guy?
I don't like the situation. To me, its seems as though she is keeping you around to keep up her self esteem until she closes the deal with someone else.
Everyone has gone through a break up like this. Thats what this will be. Its well on its way. We have all recovered and found someone better for us.
Take care of yourself first. Make sure you are living a good, happy life. Women are attracted to that.

 

[Nathan]

Well what do you think about what she said? She still wants to be with me but she needs time to get over her resentment towards me. Im actually seeing her this weekend she wants to hang out in nyc. What do you think is going on? Fellas?

My advice? You know your gf better than any of us. That is WHAT YOU NEED TO WORK WITH. If you like WHO she is and are confident you know who she is, then everything else doesn't matter and the rest should fall away since you TRUST her. If you don't feel ylou know her as well as want, then you should express that to her and tell her that's wherer your insecurities are coming from. But I will tell you this: Saying something responsible and somethng that clearly shows you accept at least part of the blame for your current difficulties willa t least get her listening to you. Go over your thoughts and make sure you're confident you're being a reasonable person. If everything is in check, then you should be able to gauge her role in your relationship much more clearly.

And you NEED to be ablet o admit to yourself if things won't work out. If you don't have the strength to exist on your own two feet no relationship will really be for the right reasons. You either want her around or you don't. Take control but make your side clear and above all, don't tell her what to do. And don't tell her what you think of her actions either - maybe if she asks but stick to what you KNOW (which should mostly be about your role int he relationship). That's my advice.

 

[OMEGA]

fuck sakes these threads suck

4 realz

 

[velvett]

Heres the story.

Me and my gf have been dating for 1 year now. We always had our problems but it was the kind of relationship you new nothing was going to happen, like no matter what we would be there and we would never break up. We were actually going to move in together eventually and get married.

RED FLAG ONE - This is completely unrealitistic - even the best couples can break up and it can have nothing to do with fighting.

About a few weeks ago we starting having some larger problems. We fight alot and we argue. There was still no trouble because we always fixed it in the end. About 1 week ago I got into an argument with her because i didnt like how she was acting and I said something I never should have. I cant go into detail what I said but she got very upset with that and ever since she has been acting weird.

RED FLAG TWO - Something interesting I've learned about relationships - when you love someone (and I don't mean the passonate, horny, great fucking and great make up sex, looks great on my arm and on paper kinda love) and you're angry at them for "whatever" you have the sense to resist from saying something in great anger that you know will be hurtful toward them.

RED FLAG THREE - She's acting "weird" because you've just proven what ever she's been questioning herself in regard to you and the future status of your relationship together.

Everything again started to get better and even she said she felt closer until 2 days ago she called me up and she started saying some things that were pissing me off and i just kept quiet. Out of knowhere she goes you know what this is how its going to be: Im going to smoke, Im going to wear w/e I want, Im going to act how I want, and im going to hang around anyone I want to. She was implying I have no say. She says if you dont agree than dont be with me.

RED FLAG FOUR - You both have to mature a bit more before you marry.

Advice: - In the future express what was pissing you off in a calm rational manner. Her comment to you - she's telling you YOU'RE NOT MY GD FATHER I'll do what I want when I want and you're not gonna stop me.

People need to make mistakes in life - they need to left to make them and others in their lives should to try and express an awarness of the situation so they can grow together in the process opposed to apart.


I didnt agree and I saw her today at an event. She was avoiding me and than she said she wanted to talk. I thought I had her back but than out of knowhere she said she needs some time to get over what I said to her. She said shes very angry about it and she said she still wants to be with me and marry me but she needs to be on a break so she can get over this anger she has towards me. I was hesitant at first and she started crying and I agreed. I told her that Ill do this break but I have a time limit and if she doesnt hurry up im not waiting around anymore.

RED FLAG FIVE - She needs to be with someone else or other people (and no I don't mean a sexcapade) to decide whether or not she wants to be or can be with you for a long period of time. Don't be surprised if she doesn't come back - you may find yourself easily replaced.

Ultimatums - always a bad idea and they will always backfire, whether it's immediately or in the future. (see flag 4)

I am very upset and I dont want her doing w/e she pleases. How do i get her to want me back now and how do I get the power in the relationship again. If I dont have the power we will never make it.

Please help me out guys im desperate here!

She needs to be let go and experience whatever freedom she's clearly going to demand at this time and probably just needs to have right now.

You need to take a step back and ask yourself, "what is my true motivation for needing to control my relationship?" Sometimes we think our actions are our best intentions for others and those "intentions" don't always come across to them as we think they do and sometime those "good intentions" aren't really good and they were really never for the other person at all.

 

[AAP]

If your relationship was football, velvett just flagged you to death.

 

[slat1]

Live life. Experience it. It sounds like you guys are young. Find out what is out there and learn what you really want.