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Big Rick Rock
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Do you have any fuck buddies? How do you treat when you are not fucking them? What is the interaction outside of the bedroom?
This is a serious question...
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This is a serious question...
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Got any fuck buddies?.... How do you treat them outside of the bedroom?
- Thread starter Big Rick Rock
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No..But I am in SERIOUS need of one.
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I treat George Spellwin just fine. Why?
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The Shadow
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dayum
We've had one now since Sept. We started out socializing with her in addition to the sex, but none of us really have the time to devote to that so it's dropped off considerably. Actually even the sex has started to cool down too.
Big Rick Rock
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The reason why i ask is because I think I'm starting to fuck up.... I'm just nice to women for no goddam reason. When I'm fucking a chick I can't help but to be really nice them... I listen to their bullshit problems, fake interest and offer very obvious advice. I cook them dinner if they come over at night, I cook them breakfast the next morning if they stay over… I do my best to make them feel like there is a friendship aside from the sex, but I make sure we are clear on the fact that I have no intentions of only seeing one person right now.
I have been finding that these chicks want to spend more and more time with me on the phone… One of them this morning actually suggested a relationship and then got pissed/hurt when I told her that she knew the deal and I wasn’t about to change it… That same chick showed up to the Night Club on Saturday and got upset cause I was talking to some other chick… it is all very weird to me, I want to tell her to back off and be happy with what we have, but at the same time I don’t want her to get mad and stop seeing me… The choochie and head game is just unreal, I don’t want to lose this one.
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I have been finding that these chicks want to spend more and more time with me on the phone… One of them this morning actually suggested a relationship and then got pissed/hurt when I told her that she knew the deal and I wasn’t about to change it… That same chick showed up to the Night Club on Saturday and got upset cause I was talking to some other chick… it is all very weird to me, I want to tell her to back off and be happy with what we have, but at the same time I don’t want her to get mad and stop seeing me… The choochie and head game is just unreal, I don’t want to lose this one.
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WODIN said:
About a year now.
My hair dresser and her BF watch us.
psychedout
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I've only ever had two, but lately they are not an option because I am tied down to the gf.
Its kinda weird too see them in real life with other guys around. I get kinda jealous actually.
I usually just end up flirting with them like there's no tomorow. Kinda like saying "Boys, you all know this girl is property of psychedout in the bedroom" or something like that. Its kinda like a lustful slutty flirting. No emotions involved. We both know where in it because we think each other is hot and wanna get off, and ain't nothing wrong with that.
My last fuckbuddy was so awesome. First time I nailed her was at a hotel party in the bathroom with like 20 people in the room outside all listening to the moaning and groaning. I got high fives from the guys and glares from the girls like you can't imagine.
Its kinda weird too see them in real life with other guys around. I get kinda jealous actually.
I usually just end up flirting with them like there's no tomorow. Kinda like saying "Boys, you all know this girl is property of psychedout in the bedroom" or something like that. Its kinda like a lustful slutty flirting. No emotions involved. We both know where in it because we think each other is hot and wanna get off, and ain't nothing wrong with that.
My last fuckbuddy was so awesome. First time I nailed her was at a hotel party in the bathroom with like 20 people in the room outside all listening to the moaning and groaning. I got high fives from the guys and glares from the girls like you can't imagine.
GoldenDelicious
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back in the day, it was pretty much just like dating 4 girls at once. coffee, movies, walks...man, i was busy as hell! i was sooo tired! it was like leading a quadruple life! and weekends? omg dont talk about weekends, monday tuesday and wednesday were dedicated to smoothing ruffled feathers
in the end i gave it all up, and booted them all. bought myself 4 of those loud hawaiian tourist shirts, and stay home watching movies sipping diet cola wearing these orange clothes. it was so liberating!
im gearing up for another go soon though...ive been out and about socialising, and its going to come to a head with several girls all at once...i can feel it...its going to be great for a week, then im going on r-ala and xanax
seriously though, it really was just like dating lots of girls at once. im not a booty call kinda guy. if any of them called me late, i was like "nup!" on the phone. interrupt my snooze time, i dont bloody think so!
in the end i gave it all up, and booted them all. bought myself 4 of those loud hawaiian tourist shirts, and stay home watching movies sipping diet cola wearing these orange clothes. it was so liberating!
im gearing up for another go soon though...ive been out and about socialising, and its going to come to a head with several girls all at once...i can feel it...its going to be great for a week, then im going on r-ala and xanax
seriously though, it really was just like dating lots of girls at once. im not a booty call kinda guy. if any of them called me late, i was like "nup!" on the phone. interrupt my snooze time, i dont bloody think so!
Just be careful. We all know women are emotional and need to make a connection with men to bump nasties. Even the women that are "cool" and just want to fuck make that attachment. He's the trick...make sure that she has more to loose than you do and make sure she understands that is is only sex. Always be nice and make them cum hard !!!! But don't do the emotional stuff and be open about it. She'll walk if she wants more. Yes I am talking from experience.
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GoldenDelicious said:
I can't date 4 chicks at once. I will get caught for sure. I rather they know from the get that we are not exclusive at all. I don't push other chicks in their face, but they know there are others.
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The Shadow
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^^NO shit...dayum
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NJjuice22 said:
Dayum bro, you make it sound waaaaaaay to easy... I have to put some serious time and effort into finding the right chick for the job and selling her on this kind of arrangement. You make it sound like you have them lined up at the door...
GoldenDelicious
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no you see you have to tell them all that there are others. no deception involved. (i despise people who lie and string people along, feelings and self esteem get trashed like that)Big Rick Rock said:
the way it went for me is that im a naturally chatty kind of guy, and having come out of a relationship that upset me, i flat out said "ive just come out of a relationship, and im looking for company. i dont care about sex, i just care about chatting, and passing the time with good company. if you want to hang out, gimme a yell, or ill text you during the week sometime"
most of the people i know kind of burn through their relationships, even casual ones, really fast. they find a girl, hit on her, maybe get her, go too fast, awkwardness or ill feeling creeps in, and bam, its over. i spent a lot of time hanging out, just for a laugh and a chat, a foundation of friendship was built, and sometimes things got romantic. im still on great terms with everybody, though it freaks me out a bit when i go out, and see a bunch of them, who dont know each other, standing in the same general area, all saying hello at once
if you try to deceive or lie, youll come undone, burn through some nice people, do a lot of damage, and get a rep as an asshole...which you will be. i didnt do that. if youre open, honest, upfront, attractive, good company, and fun to be around, things will usually swing to sex because many women are just like the guys i was talking about above - they burn through guys a bit too fast and have long periods where they fall back on their comfort friends...which you will have become.
yeesh i just read that and i sound like a bastard! omg! im just going to shut up now...but yeah, there you go
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NJjuice22 said:
How old are you bro?
In my age group chicks do seem to care...
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NJjuice22 said:
Same here.
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d3track said:
Yup...
I met this one chick, an accountant. She cancelled plans on me twice. She is a smart chick and Waaaaaay too fucking cute... I think she wants me to jump thru hoops of fire to prove I'm worthy.
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JerseyArt said:
Very true, just have to do it right so you come off like a slimeball...
Forge
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I've never had a fuck buddy. I only get that far with women I really like, and it has always turned into something long term for me. If I don't have any feelings for her then I'm just not interested in sex with her.
I don't think I'm wired like most guys, the older I get the more I realize that I'm just different.
I don't think I'm wired like most guys, the older I get the more I realize that I'm just different.
awittyusername
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I have never been able to make fuck buddies work. You won't either BRR. You are too nice a guy. No matter how clear you make it, girls will always get attached.Big Rick Rock said:
In fact, alot of girls play the fuck buddy card to get there get their foot in the door for a relationship. Most girls expect you to cave into a relationship when they are serving up the sex Yes, it starts out as sex. before you know it you are getting hit with guilt from her, etc. Then, you are buying a ring. I have 2 friends that married their fuck buddys. Now, they are bitching bc they never get sex. lol
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awittyusername said:
So what you are telling me is I'm either going to have to give into a relationship or give up this amazing piece of poohn tahng... Fuck it I'll hit it till she decides to leave me, but I'll be damed if I let this chick shove a relationship down my throat!
Forge
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Big Rick Rock said:
And there it is, thats what's different about me. I want to be in a relationship whereas you openly reject even the slightest notion of one. If I was "seeing" a great girl who I really liked then I'd have no problem dating her and being exclusive, but you get upset at even the idea. I've never understood this fear of commitment that most guys have...
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Forge said:
No fear of commitment here. I was married for a couple of years. I would welcome the chance at a relationship if the right woman came along... In the meanwhile I'm having some fun and not giving a fuck.
awittyusername
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Big Rick Rock said:
We need to make BRR last 2 posts stickys in the SWV forum!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(Bc this is how you are supposed to be!)
RaZor Ramon
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I've never had a fuck buddy for more than a month or so. 2 or 3 is more like it. Any longer than that then the woman starts getting emotional attach like 99% of the time. It's just how women are. Usually it would end by then either on my end or her end or both.
wutangnomo
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A fuck buddy is like milk. The expiration date is fairly short so you gotta suck it all up before it quickly goes sour.
BradG
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yeah, what you've got going sounds a lot like dating to me. With fuck buddies it's understood that it's just sex, no relationship, just sex. If you've got a woman who you are screwing and there's talk of a relationship she's not a fuck buddy. You can expect that she's going to either become attached to you and want more or things will cool down and she'll find greener pastures. But even with fuck buddies, I'd imagine that the time period of the sex is not too long probably a few months at a time. Everybody likes variety, unless you find something particularly good and even so, it won't seem as good after some time has passed. If you're going to have fuck buddies the best way is to have several and cycle through them so they don't get boring. OK, that's enough from me.
I think it depends on the age of the woman and her security with herself. Friends with benifits works well as long as the other woman/man understands that this is how it is.
BBR...when you treat women the way you described...you can't expect them not to want more from a guy that cooks them dinner and hangs out with them! SEX IS SEX and when your done they go..
BBR...when you treat women the way you described...you can't expect them not to want more from a guy that cooks them dinner and hangs out with them! SEX IS SEX and when your done they go..
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Gymgurl said:
Great to hear from a lady.... I love the sex but I also like a touch of romance and take pride in making the other person feel good… I want to have the romance and intimacy without the commitment and bullshit a relationship brings… I want to have great somewhat meaningful sex, but not with just one chick right now….
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wutangnomo
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Big Rick Rock said:
lol
Dude that is NOT possible. Sorry but that's like having your cake and eating it too. Better start searching for that ring.
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wutangnomo said:
So... What we all agree on is that I have to go out of my way to be a dick to them... otherwise the'll want more then just my manmeat ?
dammit that sucks.
wutangnomo
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Big Rick Rock said:
Exactly bro. You are too good of a catch since you're treating them well. The better you treat a woman the more you fall into long-term potential material. Start treating them like shit. Call them derogatory names, slap 'em around a bit, and most of all do NOT listen when they talk. lmao
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wutangnomo said:
I only slap them on the ass when we are having sex... I might call them a derogatory name if thats what they are into, this one chick likes it when I call her a "sexy little bitch" during sex... I can't bring myself to doing it outside of the bedroom though.
