I just hooked up with my half-sister after not seeing her for 20 yrs. She's a NYC police dept. detective, over 200 lbs. (not muscle), wears no make-up, has that long unkempt hair, and has been living with her female roommate in her mom's house for 15 yrs. I'm sitting at the table with her older brother (he lives in Vegas and has been involved in the adult film industry, so he's not exactly a prude), and after a bottle of tequilla is gone I ask her, "So, are you and **** ever gonna have a ceremony?" Her face dropped like her being gay was some kind of secret, and my brother replies, "You know, I'm still waiting for you to admit it!" And just about 2 months ago, her mom asked bro. if he thought she was possibly gay. She never responded to my question and the subject was quickly changed.
It's a shame that she feels the need to hid who she is. It's not like she'd be an outcast in her family. I'd love to see her be open about it. Her family would accept it just fine and FU to the people who can't. I have lez. friends and one couple has a wedding picture. If you make a commitment to someone you love, then why not cellebrate it?