Flirting...

[fyxgel]

When is it too much? I flirt a lot and mostly I think I am just being playful, however a few times as of late it has got me in hot water. I was wondering if and how other people can tell when you are being playful? and when you are serious?

dont flirt unless you are serious, because with us guys we dont know the difference.

well actually sometimes we do, but subconsciously we lie to ourselves and say its something more when it isnt (just to let ourselves have hope)

 

[bodybuildingislife1]

dont flirt unless you are serious, because with us guys we dont know the difference.

well actually sometimes we do, but subconsciously we lie to ourselves and say its something more when it isnt (just to let ourselves have hope)

THAT IS SOOO TRUE!!! DAMN WERE LAME SOMETIMES

 

[RottenWillow]

I think a woman has to flirt cautiously and responsibly. Flirting can be very fun so it's tempting to do a lot of it and/or take it too far. However, we have to acknowledge that we (yes I include myself) flirt for selfish reasons. Exciting, fun, ego boost, etc. We REALLY need to think about what we're doing and strive to behave more responsibly.

A few guidlines:

Dont know a guy at all and dont have any real interest in him?

Dont flirt AT ALL At the very least you'll avoid raising false hopes and worst case scenario avoid a psycho.

You know the guy somewhat, but know you'll never be having sex with him?

Dont touch him at all, anywhere Guys arent socialized to be touchy like we are and any kind of touching at all means something very different to them.

And the biggie, unless you really know a guy well Do not discuss topics directly or indirectly related to sex unless you want to play bumpity bump with the dude in question.


I know very often women complain that men do not understand us, but I think often women dont understand men any better. And grossly oversimplifing men's interests, feelings, and motives is never gonna help you figure them out. You must stop and consider what you call flirting means to him.

 

[Fast Twitch Fiber]

God damnit! Why do you idiotic female creatures flirt with a guy when you're not interested? Women like you have made my life hell! A woman flirts with me, I think she wants me. What else would I think? Then when I get up the nerve to ask her out she says she has a boyfriend or isn't interested. What do you think you're doing by flirting? Flirting with a man is the same thing as telling him that you want his penis inserted in your vagina.

 

[velvett]

I think a woman has to flirt cautiously and responsibly. Flirting can be very fun so it's tempting to do a lot of it and/or take it too far. However, we have to acknowledge that we (yes I include myself) flirt for selfish reasons. Exciting, fun, ego boost, etc. We REALLY need to think about what we're doing and strive to behave more responsibly.

A few guidlines:

Dont know a guy at all and dont have any real interest in him?

Dont flirt AT ALL At the very least you'll avoid raising false hopes and worst case scenario avoid a psycho.

You know the guy somewhat, but know you'll never be having sex with him?

Dont touch him at all, anywhere Guys arent socialized to be touchy like we are and any kind of touching at all means something very different to them.

And the biggie, unless you really know a guy well Do not discuss topics directly or indirectly related to sex unless you want to play bumpity bump with the dude in question.


I know very often women complain that men do not understand us, but I think often women dont understand men any better. And grossly oversimplifing men's interests, feelings, and motives is never gonna help you figure them out. You must stop and consider what you call flirting means to him.

GREAT POST!

 

[rpol]

I think a woman has to flirt cautiously and responsibly. Flirting can be very fun so it's tempting to do a lot of it and/or take it too far. However, we have to acknowledge that we (yes I include myself) flirt for selfish reasons. Exciting, fun, ego boost, etc. We REALLY need to think about what we're doing and strive to behave more responsibly.

A few guidlines:

Dont know a guy at all and dont have any real interest in him?

Dont flirt AT ALL At the very least you'll avoid raising false hopes and worst case scenario avoid a psycho.

You know the guy somewhat, but know you'll never be having sex with him?

Dont touch him at all, anywhere Guys arent socialized to be touchy like we are and any kind of touching at all means something very different to them.

And the biggie, unless you really know a guy well Do not discuss topics directly or indirectly related to sex unless you want to play bumpity bump with the dude in question.


I know very often women complain that men do not understand us, but I think often women dont understand men any better. And grossly oversimplifing men's interests, feelings, and motives is never gonna help you figure them out. You must stop and consider what you call flirting means to him.

Good Post except I'd argue this one,
Dont touch him at all, anywhere Guys arent socialized to be touchy like we are and any kind of touching at all means something very different to them.

Depends I guess on culture, the family and area I am originally from touching while flirting and other shows of simple friendship and affection are normal, but then again dad's family was highland and mom's was Rom. Both very emotional people.

 

[strongsmartsexy]

I dunno about the men aren't socialized to be touchy. Almost our entire family, immediate and distant, is like that. We hug all of our friends and acquaintences when we visit or they visit. And as marriages occured, the tactilization of the inlaws began. It was successful and is spread all the time.

 

[RottenWillow]

rpol and SSS, thoughtful replies both of you. You obviously both actually took the time to really read my post.

But notice that I qualified the dont touch him at all rule by how well you know him. I said if you know the guy somewhat, meaning you dont know him well and do not know what the touch might mean to him.

Rpol, I'm not talking about touching among family and same sex friends/aquaintances. Girls are taught to be pretty comfortable touching one another without any kind of sexual subcontext. And while I know that in other cultures (like in Mexico where I am from originally) guys may be more comfortable with touching each other, I still say that pretty much all over the world guys are likely to assume that when a woman they dont really know touches him it means she's probably sexually attracted to him.

 

[strongsmartsexy]

rpol and SSS, thoughtful replies both of you. You obviously both actually took the time to really read my post.

But notice that I qualified the dont touch him at all rule by how well you know him. I said if you know the guy somewhat, meaning you dont know him well and do not know what the touch might mean to him.

Rpol, I'm not talking about touching among family and same sex friends/aquaintances. Girls are taught to be pretty comfortable touching one another without any kind of sexual subcontext. And while I know that in other cultures (like in Mexico where I am from originally) guys may be more comfortable with touching each other, I still say that pretty much all over the world guys are likely to assume that when a woman they dont really know touches him it means she's probably sexually attracted to him.

I get hugged by almost every woman I know, so I'm glad that they're not all sexually attracted to me. I have most of my male friends somewhat indoctrinated to hugging also. Some of they are not so comfortable, so they're likely to only hug on holidays and special occasions, but it's still better than they were.

 

[F117A Active Stealth]

Dont know a guy at all and dont have any real interest in him?

Dont flirt AT ALL At the very least you'll avoid raising false hopes and worst case scenario avoid a psycho.

You know the guy somewhat, but know you'll never be having sex with him?

Dont touch him at all, anywhere Guys arent socialized to be touchy like we are and any kind of touching at all means something very different to them.

And the biggie, unless you really know a guy well Do not discuss topics directly or indirectly related to sex unless you want to play bumpity bump with the dude in question.


I know very often women complain that men do not understand us, but I think often women dont understand men any better. And grossly oversimplifing men's interests, feelings, and motives is never gonna help you figure them out. You must stop and consider what you call flirting means to him.

Agree with this 110%. Because of these flirty chicks, I always give them my "Terminator Face".

Probably the reason I'm still alone...