First Time Sex Problems... Please No Flames

[TruBalla4Real]

OK here's the deal... I am pretty pist/confused? I've been with this girl for three months now. We are both virgins and young (18). I finnally persuade her to have sex with me... I honestly wanted to wait till it was someone i cared about. Anyways, on the way home from shopping I get road head and she's really horny. Now, I obviously want to have sex with her because I know she really wants to but she was worried about pregnancy (as was I) so I got her hot and then asked her.. the answer was obviously yes.

Here's where it gets interesting. I made her orgasm a few times, then had her suck my dick briefly before reaching for the condom. She quit giving me head when I told her to and I put the condom on. This is about the time that I started to grow limper. Then she's obviously tight so I was struggling to get in and during this time I went limp . I'm EXTREMELY PIST ABOUT THIS AND WORRIED! I tried repeatedly to no avail. I only took 2 condoms in and when I ran out we were just lightly messing around and wallah I got a raging boner so we decided to try again (so I went to my car to get more). I got hard and then went for the condom and went limp again and I decided to quit trying. Meanwhile she's extremely horny to I finish her off a few times.

Now my question is why is this? My instinct tells me that I was nervous, and whenver I thought about the act my mind took over my body and fucked me up.... I think if I could have just gotten it in I would have been alright. I'm trying not to let this bother me but it is. She also mentioned that sometimes when she gives me head while I'm laying on my back that I'm not entirely hard. What's the deal here some more experienced people please help me I want to be good in the sac more than anything .

 

[DIVISION]

Ease up young brother

You've got performance anxiety.

Take things easy and let it come, don't force shit.

If you have to, blow your first load in her mouth, get it outta the way and you will have no problem staying hard for your 2nd wind.

It's up to you to control that pussy.....

 

[TRUEsoldier]

As division said, dont stress it to much, and if you havnt blown a load in her mouth , then deffinatly hit that up first!!!!!

and I know I'll get flamed for this, but when you guys start messing around and your ready to fuck, then get your dick wet in her first, get yourself going for a few pumps before you reach for the condom, unless you are that close to blowing, cuz the rubber armour deffinatly doesnt feel the same

good luck bro

 

[Longhorn85]

Let her put the condom on for you, that will probably help you maintain the erection.

 

[gregory]

Subconscious performance anxiety. Just relax (easier said then done) and take your time, also it's normal for the erection firmness to vary during sex. The penis will grow on a 1-10 scale with 1 being limp and 10 being super hard. A minnimum of 7 would be required for sex and somewhere between 8-9 is what most women prefer for "nice" and "comfortable" sex. There are times when i will have a 10 and others i will start out with an 8 and later ballon up to a 10. Remember sex is 100% mental, this is why you can orgasm in your sleep.

 

[FknKnuckleHd]

I think the answer is obvious. Your dick see's that condom and screams NOOOOOOOOOOO!

Like what was said, don't stress out bro its happened to me before. Think about it you're trying to squeeze and role a peice of latex over yourself and still look cooldespite the fact your giving yourself a friction burn. You may want to switch to different type of jimmy wrap.

I so glad I'm married and that she's on the pill cause no longer have to deal with with those damn things.

 

[TruBalla4Real]

Thanks guys. She corrected herself last night on the phone and said I in fact really hard when getting head on my back so that's not a problem.

Ya it's just anxiety I'm going to try to be cool. I have a few enzyte's left (I got a free sample haha) and I'm going to use those before I see her next... just for an extra boost. If I can do it once I'll be alright. Having her put the condom on will also help, I was just told about that.

Is it a good idea to blow one in her mouth first? I'm always the horniest the first time I blow in one night ? As you know this is such a sensitive subject for guys and is really the only thing that can destroy my self-esteem haha.

 

[DIVISION]

Is it a good idea to blow one in her mouth first? I'm always the horniest the first time I blow in one night ?

I said this in the first post, did you not read it?

Blow one in her mouth first and your second will stay longer.......

 

[TruBalla4Real]

Sorry I was just wondering why you said that. It's good advice .

 

[DIVISION]

Sorry I was just wondering why you said that. It's good advice .

Because you'll get the first one outta the way, then you can do what you want. Of course it's good advice, it's from experience.