elusive biatch

[BOOEY]

So for the past year I've been playing it low-key ... graduated from college and went from party guy to chill guy. When I did go out to the bars/clubs, I put out zero vibe unless I was looking for a quick hook-up - I just basically wanted to concentrate on other areas of my life and not have to worry about chicks. Anyway, I meet this really cool chick last weekend and we hit off from the get-go - completely my type and she is smoking hot (at least a 9/10). So we meet up again this weekend at a club and she's completely blowing me off (she invited me!). We'd talk for 10 or 20 minutes, then she'd bounce and disappear into the crowd for 45 minutes. I asked her friend what her deal was, and she's like "she's playing hard to get"

So I'm getting pissed (im not the type to chase girls, i let them chase me) and when the club closed I asked her to get something to eat, she said she was going out to eat with her girlfriends. (Bitch!). Anyway, we're supposed to hang out soon, I told her to call me, she said she would tomorrow (monday) ...... I don't know, either she's playing games, or she's not interested. I think she def is interested because the signals have been there, but for some reason she's holding back - for what reason, I have no idea. I really don't have time to be worrying about this shit, but at the same time, I really like this girl (first girl I've met in a WHILE that I've liked on this level). Relationship potential is there, but if it's going to take me 3 months just to spend some quality time with her, then fuck it. So my options are to completely blow her off for good, or have to put up with this for God knows how long. So what can I do? Anything to speed up the process without scaring her away?

Sorry for the rant, still hungover from last night, so if that didn't make sense I apologize!!

 

[flex229]

my advice to you: dont play the games...

 

[Railgun]

It sounds to me like she's testing you--trying to see how much shit you'll take from her. I'd let her get away with some of it (for now), but don't take it for very long. Make it clear to her after awhile, and not 3 months, that you're interested but won't wait around and won't be her little lapdog. If she's that hot she's probably used to guys doing whatever she wants, so don't. She will respect you more, plus she will hate it if you start ignoring her.

 

[BOOEY]

It sounds to me like she's testing you--trying to see how much shit you'll take from her. I'd let her get away with some of it (for now), but don't take it for very long. Make it clear to her after awhile, and not 3 months, that you're interested but won't wait around and won't be her little lapdog. If she's that hot she's probably used to guys doing whatever she wants, so don't. She will respect you more, plus she will hate it if you start ignoring her.

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Thing is, it's a catch-22. If I want the girl, I'm going to have to play these games. If I don't play the game, I don't get the girl. There's gotta be some way in between!!

I'll see what she has to say today when she calls - I'm pretty much gonna decide which direction I want to go based on this phone call. I have a feeling she's not gonna want to meet up until this weekend, at a club again - and then it'll be the same vicious cycle over again. I refuse to chase her so she's gonna have to at least meet me half-way if she wants me.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Thing is, it's a catch-22. If I want the girl, I'm going to have to play these games. If I don't play the game, I don't get the girl. There's gotta be some way in between!!

I'll see what she has to say today when she calls - I'm pretty much gonna decide which direction I want to go based on this phone call. I have a feeling she's not gonna want to meet up until this weekend, at a club again - and then it'll be the same vicious cycle over again. I refuse to chase her so she's gonna have to at least meet me half-way if she wants me.

This is how it should be, but she sounds pretty young, reminds me of college girls. True, fishing can be pretty convoluted and that's simply how it is, but there are ways around it if she's worth anything, like you say some way in between. I used to get frustrated with all this stuff too but realized that it defeats the purpose of the mating game. It's all in your attitude though really. Try talking/flirting with other chicas when she's around and see how she reacts. The more fun you're willing to have with it the easier it will be.

 

[BOOEY]

update: the chick didn't call today like she said she was going to. i'm DEFINITELY not going to call her, but what should I do if she calls this week: answer and deny her, answer and play along, don't answer at all? like i said, i'm not the type to chase, nor do i like playing games - is there any chance if i lay the law down this early it will work?

 

[jdevlin1985]

update: the chick didn't call today like she said she was going to. i'm DEFINITELY not going to call her, but what should I do if she calls this week: answer and deny her, answer and play along, don't answer at all? like i said, i'm not the type to chase, nor do i like playing games - is there any chance if i lay the law down this early it will work?

Turn the whole situation around Booey. Crush her appetite to the ground and make her squirm at your feet.

If she calls, like you say, deny her. You will then be on her mind 24/7. It will throw her off guard. And then if she does'nt chase you..? she was'nt the right one for you in the first place.

Good luck and stay true!!!!

 

[Railgun]

A couple of thoughts on this: first, if she does call you this week, definitely don't act like you are mad or upset in any way over what she's doing. In fact, act like you haven't even noticed. If she thinks she's frustrating you, I'm sure she will be quite pleased with herself, since I think she is TRYING to frustrate you. If she doesn't call, I would probably call her once more next week and get a feel for her attitude. Your call on that, but if she's totally dismissive or unresponsive, then tell her you have to get going and never call her again. If she doesn't respond after this, then forget about her bro, she is not worth it and would probably be nothing but trouble if you did start dating her. Just try to keep everything in perspective--there are so many girls to choose from

 

[BOOEY]

Just try to keep everything in perspective--there are so many girls to choose from

Of course bro, I absolutely agree. She has not, nor will she ever get into my head where all I'm thinking about is her - not gonna happen. I won't be one of those guys that's chasing what he thinks is the girl of his dreams, just to realize she's been playing him all along. If she doesn't call, it's her loss, not mine. If more guys had this attitude, less chicks would be playing guys for fools. Right? Right.

 

[tanka]

when this happens guys you must turn the situation around by setting your self up as the prize not her and shes the one missing out here if she cant see the opportunity.this attitude should be there at all times with women . put real value on yourself .if she is lucky she may be able to step into your world .so next time she calls or call her directly say something like, after some opening chat , i thought you were the type of person who would notice an opportunity in front of you and would grab hold of it with both hands ,i guess i must have been wrong.or use the , you dont strike me as the kind of person who would deliberately interupt her own opportunities so im wondering what it is in your enviroment that keeps forcing you to miss out here. stay silent then make the time of next date. remember your cool and un concerned in your attitude towards her. on the few times ive had to conveyed this message to women before dating them they just seemed to so enjoy listening to it , i think its because they love a guy who demonstrates that level of confidence towards them rather than the typical response they tend to receive .good luck .