Do women enjoy sex?

[pepelaz]

I know it is a stupid question, but really, do they?

I remember few years ago one girl shocked me telling that most women have sex only to keep their boyriends happy. She was just 18, so I thought she just never had good sex. And the strangest thing is that although I wanted her mad before that (and was about to get it), I lost all interest after she said that.

Ok, a year later, I've heard the same thing from a 35-year old "social butterfly" - she had more man every year than I ever had women, but she still thought that "masturbating with shower is more pleasure than any man can give". I thought she said that because she never loved anyone she had sex with.

Well, this time I've hear the same thing from MY GIRLFRIEND!!! Actually, I asked her, and she said that she likes everything that goes before sex, but sex is just to please the partner, and she does not enjoy it at all. Ok, I admit I was not a very good lover - always stressed and busy, maybe a bit egoistic, and I did not have sex for long time before I met her - but she had many man before me! And she says she loved at least one of them, and she says she loves me.

Now I'm totally shocked and confused - although she is probably the best girl I met, I do not want to have sex with her anymore. And is what she said normal? Or is there a problem that we can fix?

Pepe

 

[Bikini Mod]

I can't speak for MOST women, but sadly I think because of the way women are socialized to believe that sex is dirty, only for procreation,blah, blah, blah (double edged sword - this mentality was instilled in women in the hopes that it would keep them "chaste" - yea well, kinda back-fired, didn't it?) THEY DON'T LIKE SEX. I believe partly because they are uncomfortable with their own bodies.

Me - I LOVE SEX... I have had good sex, "eh" sex, sex where I thought "I took my clothing off for this?", and sex where I swear the earth moved, the heavens were afire and I actually saw and TOUCHED GOD.

I have found that the best sex is when I have a genuine affection and respect for my partner and he returns same to me. Not talking love necessarily.

I actually feel very badly for women who can not get these ideas of self-loathing out of their heads. I don't have experience with HOW you can fix such a problem, but since it is a matter of "mind over matter" I don't see why anyone couldn't "unlearn" any notion that they have been socialized to believe to be true.

 

[TC2]

I think its what BM said and the simple fact the a lot of men have know clue on how to please a women.

That and there two pump chumps.

 

[rnch]

according to mymarried buds...........

gals enjoy sex until theyget married!

 

[TC2]

Re: according to mymarried buds...........

gals enjoy sex until theyget married!

God damn that shit pisses me off along with when they Immediately start to put on weight.

And women wonder why men cheat.

 

[TEXgrl]

i love sex, but i can say that when i was younger, and with someone who was less "skilled" i would agree that the buildup was much better than the ending. nowadays, after being married for 10 years, i can honestly say that i enjoy the hell out of the entire process, beginning to end.

i also agree wholeheartedly with bikinimom, women/girls are conditioned at times to believe that sex is dirty, and only sluts like it. the same with masturbation.

 

[andezzz999]

My wife and I have been married 14 years and the sex is getting beter and beter. She will tell you the same. In fact I think when women mature past mid to late 20's they start to enjoy it more and more. Maybe the ladies can comment.

You also have to know what pleases a woman. Guys, it's easy for you to do your thing but women have to be into it physically but more so mentally to really reach the big "O". Women, help me out here....

Sex is a journey not a destination and some guys are afraid to take out the map and get some direction.

 

[pepelaz]

Well, I started thinking that the source of the problem is that she thinks that sex is bad (maybe dirty). It amazes me when she gets angry when I stare at her naked - I've seen every part of her many times, but shy is still shy. Actually, I thought she was playing, but after all I read here I think it may be a sign.

Well, looks like the things are not so bad and everything can be "fixed". But there is another issue - it is very difficult to make her tell me what she likes and what she does not - most of the time I have to shoot in the dark.

Thanks for help

Pepe

 

[witkowsd]

Every morning a friend and I get together and have the most unbelievable x-rated sex you can imagine - we do everything and anything - there is nothing we say no to. It is now going on our 4th year - and it never gets boring and tiresome - and I have to say for two 50 yr olds there isn't any fantasy we haven't tried - the rougher the better - so do "women like sex" for me - definately yes - but maybe it has to be forbidden to be this good!

 

[ajtomasi]

Well, I started thinking that the source of the problem is that she thinks that sex is bad (maybe dirty). It amazes me when she gets angry when I stare at her naked - I've seen every part of her many times, but shy is still shy. Actually, I thought she was playing, but after all I read here I think it may be a sign.

Well, looks like the things are not so bad and everything can be "fixed". But there is another issue - it is very difficult to make her tell me what she likes and what she does not - most of the time I have to shoot in the dark.

Thanks for help

Pepe

It's might be that you're going to have to "show" her what she likes. Get a book like "Joy of Sex" or something and do as much stuff as you can.