do sex dreams about guys other than your SO make you feel guilty?

[RottenWillow]

This morning I was having one about an ex-boyfriend and during the dream my current bf woke me up to get his quicky on. Just the horrible irony of it made me feel particularly guilty.

When I woke up he was just going for the reach around and my first thought was that I was aroused and he'd be able to tell. God, the feeling that he had just caught me cheating on him was so strong it was awful.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

I don't have an SO but if I did I would say HELL NO it is a dream enjoy it.

 

[jenscats5]

No, I don't feel guilty about my dreams...

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

No. But when I have sexual dreams I dream about complete strangers. They are only people "I know" in my dreams. Either that or I never end up seeing their faces in my dreams.

 

[Raina]

It's funny you mention it because my sister and I were just talking about it. She keeps having sex dreams about a guy she doesn't even like who's actively pursuing her despite her turning him down over and over (she's been in a relationship for 18 months). I told her not to feel bad. It's not like she's doing something wrong. Maybe something sparked a memory of your ex and your dreams got all wild.

I'm sure your honey was happy that you were turned on...even if he didn't know the reason. lol

 

[RottenWillow]

I'm sure your honey was happy that you were turned on...even if he didn't know the reason. lol

I'm mortified again just reading that sentance. The guilt at the time shut down the wet 'n wild action in about 1 1/2 seconds.


I have to admit the ex was uber hot, but also pretty dumb and shallow. It kind of annoys me that I still am apparently attracted to him.

I just cant get past the conviction though that if I were really committed to my bf I wouldnt be sleeping next to him and dreaming about some other guy.

 

[jenscats5]

I'm mortified again just reading that sentance. The guilt at the time shut down the wet 'n wild action in about 1 1/2 seconds.


I have to admit the ex was uber hot, but also pretty dumb and shallow. It kind of annoys me that I still am apparently attracted to him.

I just cant get past the conviction though that if I were really committed to my bf I wouldnt be sleeping next to him and dreaming about some other guy.

Dreams are in your subconscious mind.....you have NO control over that part of your brain...

And just because you're dreaming about sex with another guy, doesn't actually mean that's what the dream is really about....It could mean something else...

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Dreams are in your subconscious mind.....you have NO control over that part of your brain...

And just because you're dreaming about sex with another guy, doesn't actually mean that's what the dream is really about....It could mean something else...

Word! Must spread the karma before hitting Jen again.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Please don't feel guilty about this. I have had dreams about ex's of mine that I am in no way, shape or form attracted to. I have had dreams about an ex who was ABUSIVE to me. Does that mean I would rather be with him? Hell no.

We dream for some reason. A sex dream does not always mean sex or attraction. It can stand for NOTHING. Sometimes our minds just work in ways we cannot understand.

Could it mean that you miss the uber-hot sex with the ex? I am not talking about missing THE EX, just the kind of sex you had with him. Is sex different with the new guy? Better? Worse?

Maybe it was a dream to remind you how much you have grown as a person...that you don't want a "trophy-BF" anymore. That you require MORE than just sex.

Are you feeling restrained or inhibited in your life right now? Relationships (family, BF, friends), work, school? Maybe this dream was a "release" from that restraint.

Don't feel guilty. You cannot control this. It is a healthy expression. And you can be DAMN sure he has had dreams about other girls - and that is normal too.

 

[Puddles]

Dreams are dreams, that is all. I remember having a sexual dream about a friend of my husbands but in real life I am not even remotely attracted to him.

If I have a dream about someone I know and do find attractive, I do not feel guilty about it. Nothing wrong with having these dreams. Nothing wrong with having awake fantasies either, they are just fantasies, not something you actually do. Just like kids use their immaginations, it's healthy for us as grown women to use our imaginations.

The time to feel guilty about something is when you actually cheat.

I had a poll on SuperiorMuscle about who do you dream about and it was broken down by men and women having dreams and if they dream about their s/o's or other people and about 80% of the men dream about someone else whereas about 80% of the women dream about their s/o's. Interesting, huh?