Asked out this girl yesterday...

[Taps]

I've had my eye on her for a while. She's cute, goes to the same gym as me, and I always bump into her around town.

Anyway, she said no (has a boyfriend), and I was surprised that the rejection didn't bother me at all. I was just like "cool..see ya around." Didn't spare her a second thought until just now. Even saw her at the gym today, and I didn't feel awkward at all. Gave her a smile and a nod, then proceded to the squat rack.

Are you guys (and ladies) like this too? If someone turns you down, you just write it off and move on? Or do you dwell on it...analyze everything...go over what you could have done differently, etc?

 

[danielson]

i get seriously down in the dumps if its a girl i really like

i;ve noticed the more flippant i am, the more i dont carfe and the higher my sucess rate though. so i just try my hardest to ask in a 'not giving a shit' way

 

[anabolicmd]

I've had my eye on her for a while. She's cute, goes to the same gym as me, and I always bump into her around town.

Anyway, she said no (has a boyfriend), and I was surprised that the rejection didn't bother me at all. I was just like "cool..see ya around." Didn't spare her a second thought until just now. Even saw her at the gym today, and I didn't feel awkward at all. Gave her a smile and a nod, then proceded to the squat rack.

Are you guys (and ladies) like this too? If someone turns you down, you just write it off and move on? Or do you dwell on it...analyze everything...go over what you could have done differently, etc?

You have to take it in stride. I think you acted exactly the right way by being normal and casual about it. Now that she knows you are interested, all you have to do is be friendly and cool and play your position, the pressure is now on the boyfriend to keep her happy.

 

[vinylgroover]

Props to you for giving it a shot......at least you won't die wondering.

I tend to shrug it off if i get turned down. Same thing happened to me a few months back. Had my eye on a girl at the gym......she had her eye on me too, one day i approached her, introduced myself and asked her out, and she to told me she had a boyfriend.

That same night i went out and met a girl in a club.......you just gotta keep moving.

 

[MFMan]

It used to bother me all the time. Now that I haven't had a date in 10 years I am immune rejection.

 

[MFMan]

Another thing I have learned through trial and error. When the opportunity arises you must act on it immediately. Everytime I find some broad I would like to romp with I go back to where I saw her and she either doesn't work there anymore or vanishes.

 

[the nature boy]

I used to just feel a sense of relief. like "whew, got that out of the way".

 

[gtrcivic]

no risk no kiss. thats how i see things.. they say no..their loss. but hate when they still look at you in the gym /club, etc after they say now... whats up with that

 

[Raina]

I think it's better to get turned down then to wander around "what iffing".

 

[RADAR]

I think it's better to get turned down then to wander around "what iffing".

So True!!!!


RADAR

 

[p0ink]

did you mention you are a registered sex offender?

 

[ajtomasi]

Switch Gyms before her boyfriend comes and beats you up

 

[Tiervexx]

I think it's better to get turned down then to wander around "what iffing".

understatment.

 

[Austin316]

well better then beng a fuck up like I was in thsi story, I think Ive posted it before

so last year, spring semester I had this class with this chick, hottest girl in all my classes, had a huge ass crush on her, never talked to her really....then a week after summer starts, gotta go to a meeting for transfering at school and she is there, she immediately waves and smiles at me, Im like "uhh ok" wave back, sit down with my buddy..meeting ends Im getting up to eave, and this girl (never talked to her in my class mind you) coems over and asks me what Im doig for the summer, we get to talking and she walks bout 10 blocks back to our cars togethe ith my buddy walkinga long (she doens't ever aknowledge him) asks me allthe typical "major, whereyou live, etc questions and we don't stop talking till we get to the point where we gotta split up, so whn that happens, im all"well I gotta go this way, it was nice talking to you, bye" she looked at mekinda taken aback andwaslike "yea, same to you" and that was that...I dunno perhaps cuz I had this chick on a pedastal for 3 months, when push came to shove, I was too intimidated, or just too stupid to ask her out

 

[Imakarum_Mirabilis]

1) Good for you. Don't sweat it. If it works, it works. If it doesn't, it doesn't.

2) Even though this should not be the case, I have to give you respect for not trying to press the issue like a lot of asshole guys these days.

Typical conversation-

Him: "You wanna [fill in retarded activity here]?"

Her: "Thanks, but I'm with someone already."

Him: "I ain't tryin' to be his friend."

Disgusting shit, so thanks for being a good guy about it.

 

[white boy]

It does'nt seam to bother me if a chick turns me down cos she has a bf, it does'nt mean she would'nt like to go out. eventualy you will get your chance

 

[Naeem]

I would MUCH rather get turned down then do the whole what if shit. Still I still do the whole what if shit though regardless, so I guess I cant really say heh.

The whole I have a b/f issue is kinda gray. Typically if you played your cards right, shell put pressure on her b/f. Its human instinct. The more oppurtunity she has, the higher her demands will go. So you might get a shot sooner or later. But at what cost really?

 

[casualbb]

yeah the trick is to ask them at the point when you don't really have any emotional investment in them, you just think they're hot. Then it's not a letdown when she says no, in fact you feel great for asking.

 

[Machiavellian Muscle]

I have a boyfriend is a nice way of saying I am not interested. Whenever I get this response, I throw it back in their court and say well I have a boyfriend too but I don't think he will mind. Usually a sense of humor knocks her barrier down and she will give me the number, but sometimes you are better off just moving on if they are not interested.

 

[satchboogie]

Anyway, she said no (has a boyfriend),

3 balls 2 strikes. based loaded 2 outs, bottom of the 9th.

clemens with the wind up.......the pitch..........

SWUNG OUT AND MISSED GAME OVER.

take bonds... he strikes out often.
but if you wanna connect you gotta take the swing.

keep rockin dude.

 

[FatRat]

Better to get turned down for a good reason than to never know...

 

[Machiavellian Muscle]

At least you had the balls to move in on her. Keep hunting...

 

[white boy]

I have a boyfriend is a nice way of saying I am not interested.

I don't think so. When I was younger and and my gf's would get hit on I would trip on this alot (i don't trip on it anymore).
If gf got hit on and she would say "I can't, I have boyfriend" and if that did'nt stop the bastards from hitting on gf, I would say to gf
"you need to tell the bastard you are not interested in going out with him" because in my mind, gf telling the bastard that she has a boyfriend (me) was not same as telling him she was not interested in.
What it meant to me when she would say "I can't I have a boyfriend" was that, she is interested, but can't because of me, and it would piss me off because I thought that she she should not be interested and should tell all these bastards that
It does'nt bother me any more because I'll just tell the bastard myself

 

[Fonz]

well better then beng a fuck up like I was in thsi story, I think Ive posted it before

so last year, spring semester I had this class with this chick, hottest girl in all my classes, had a huge ass crush on her, never talked to her really....then a week after summer starts, gotta go to a meeting for transfering at school and she is there, she immediately waves and smiles at me, Im like "uhh ok" wave back, sit down with my buddy..meeting ends Im getting up to eave, and this girl (never talked to her in my class mind you) coems over and asks me what Im doig for the summer, we get to talking and she walks bout 10 blocks back to our cars togethe ith my buddy walkinga long (she doens't ever aknowledge him) asks me allthe typical "major, whereyou live, etc questions and we don't stop talking till we get to the point where we gotta split up, so whn that happens, im all"well I gotta go this way, it was nice talking to you, bye" she looked at mekinda taken aback andwaslike "yea, same to you" and that was that...I dunno perhaps cuz I had this chick on a pedastal for 3 months, when push came to shove, I was too intimidated, or just too stupid to ask her out

Damn.......thats all I can say....damn.

I would go to the gym and put 1000-lb on the leg press and pressed till I vomited at least 4 times in the vomit bucket.

Shit man. Thats horrible.

It must torment you till this day.

Fonz

 

[white boy]

yeah that sucks austin, I'm sure I've done similar shit in the past

 

[juice4me]

Dont feel bad man, a year or so ago, I was in love with this girl but she was dating my friend. Well they broke up and eventually she came around to me and told me she had a crush on me the whole time she was with my buddy, the thing that sucked was the friend was like a brother to me and he took it really hard so there was no way of hooking up with this girl. In life you win some you lose some, but looking at the past and dwelling is a sure fired way to get yourself stuck in a rut.