Anyone have social anxiety?

[seizer]

i feel the same way...it sucks too because im so young. I dunno, maybe its just a preference not to go out and do shit and goin to clubs and whatever. I just feel like my things to do in life is study and workout. Hell, im starting to dislike going to the gym more and more because poeple just label me. I hate it.

 

[PICK3]

Many of you are describing "agoraphobia".

 

[Illuminati]

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[EnderJE]

1) Are you sure you're not just super ugly?
2) "I always feel like somebody's watchin' meeeee............"

 

[SoKlueles]

I think you really need to talk to someone about it, your right, your wasting your youth. I used to have panic attacks when i went out in public. I broke out in sweats and got all nervous and thought i was going to throw up.....i think it has to do with depression and trust me, depression is nothing to take lightly

 

[EnderJE]

I think you really need to talk to someone about it, your right, your wasting your youth. I used to have panic attacks when i went out in public. I broke out in sweats and got all nervous and thought i was going to throw up.....i think it has to do with depression and trust me, depression is nothing to take lightly

You're just saying that to set him up.

 

[SoKlueles]

You're just saying that to set him up.

no way, i had to take klonopin for a while for that crap and one day i was in my car, going to cross a dangerous intersection that to this day needs a redlight, and for a split second i wanted to pull out in front of a car.....i went home, called my dr and he told me to stop taking it. i never had panic attacks since

 

[tbuz67]

There are two kinds of people introverts and extroverts. Introverts tend to prefer to have time to themselves to "recharge their batteries" after being around people for a certain amount of time. Extroverts are the opposite. They need to get around people to "charge their batteries" after too much time alone. Extroverts tend to be "small talk" type of people, while introverts would rather discuss ideas and such. Extroverts are outgoing, while introverts seem to keep to themselves.
Despite this, many introverts seem to have no trouble doing such things as speaking in public and being around people.
Myself, i'm definitely an introvert. Although I like being alone alot, I like being in large crowds, like at a concert. And I enjoy public speaking.
But this may be different that what is being talked about here. What you guys are talking about is defined as "Social Anxiety".
I've suffered from this, too. I would feel that everyone was judging me and if I passed someone and there was no interaction there, like a polite hello or something, I figured that it had to be a problem with me. I would feel like, if this person would say hi, I would gladly say hi back.
But I realized that mostly EVERYONE has this feeling. If someone seems to be watching you, its probably because they are worried that you are watching THEM! There are alot of uncomfortable people out there simply because they are putting others (imagined) opinion over their own!
Hotzie, do you seriously believe that everyone out there is so self-confident that they have nothing at all to be self-conscious about, so their minds are totally free to just judge others? Of all the people you think are judging you, you would be surprised to know that they are seeing you and thinking the same thing about themselves, thinking that YOU are judging them. If a girl won't make eye contact with you, do you beat yourself up about it? Maybe the reality is that she thinks her nose is too big, or that she has bad skin. And she thinks that you are judging her for it.
I had "social anxiety" bad when I was a teen. I saw so many flaws in myself. I hated it and decided that I didn't want to live like that anymore. I decided to start saying hello and make eye contact with people when I talked to them. I decided to ask questions when talking to people. I decided to take an interest in people, and to say things to people that I figured that I was too shy to say before. Like compliments, and opinions.
I was absolutely amazed at the things I was accomplishing. There were girls that I always considered too "stuck up" to talk to me. I found that when I talked to them that they would show some of the same symptoms of shyness that I always had. It was like they were waiting for someone to ask them questions and stuff, because just because they were pretty didn't mean they were surrounded by an entourage. It was like they appreciated someone taking the time to talk to them, instead of treating them as "unapproachable" and just walking past. I found, in turn, people were approaching me to talk to me, when before they wouldn't. I soon found that I had something that I didn't have before: self-confidence. By how? Faking it. At first anyway. But after some practice, it became easier to talk to people. And if some of them didn't seem friendly, then it was their problem, not mine.
I'm not saying that everyone go out and cure themselves of this feeling. But I do know that a lot of people feel this way. I do more than not nowadays. But thats due to something traumatic that happened to me, totally unrelated to people. I just didn't care anymore about this kind of stuff. But that's a different story.

I hope by reading this, you all will see that your not alone in the way you feel, and that your no different from anybody else.

 

[velvett]

Hey guys, don't worry about anyone judging you.
Who cares who says what about the way you dress, cut your hair, what you eat?!!

Please try not to think that way. You are wasting your lives. Go out, make friends, ask girls on a date. Go to a movie alone or take a trip somewhere nice on your own. It does not have to be with some other person all the time.

I like to socialise but I like to take time out from social circles to read, recharge my batteries, make plans about my life. Meditate, enjoy the environment without anyone nagging, talking, screaming.

Silence can be a beautiful thing.

Don't bask in misery. If you don't make an effort now, noone will for you.

^can't say it better and it's worth repeating

 

[from zero]

^can't say it better and it's worth repeating

Aaaaaand go.