Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below downlow: i met a girl about a month ago and we kinda hit it off. i like this girl more than any girl ive liked in a long time and she likes me that much and more it seems. but she told me that while she was working this dude came up to her (i know the dude actually im cool with him) and she told me how he had pretty eyes and shit and i told her he gets a lot of women and she said "yeah he looks like he would". so i kind of fucked with her and said she likes him and she said she doesnt and kept telling me to change the subject. well today i texted her his phone number. i was figurin if she finds him attractive than i dont really stand much of a chance so ill just give her his number. she texted me back and asked my why i gave her that number and i just told her to call him. so later she called me and was all upset and didnt understand why i gave her his number and told her to call him and that she didnt like him. now she aint talkin to me and i regret it. i just figured i wouldnt be attractive enough anyways and down the line she'll end up cheating on me like every other female would so i tried hookin them up instead. am i fucked now? what shouold i do? i dont wanna lose this girl.
am i fucked?
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Angel said:
yea but i cant explain my feelings shell think im a pussy. girls want alpha males not litte faggy pushovers who have feelings (even though i have a lot of feelings toward her id like to express). i texted her and told her i was sorry for bein an asshole but she never got back to me.
not all girls are that way...if you like her as much as it sounds you will tell her what happened and then i am sure enough she wont think you are a pussy.......telling your feelings does not make you a faggy push over it actually may attract her moremarkshark said:
PBR
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yeah, not a good play. women like men with confidence. by you pawning her off on another dude she looked at it as thought you werent that interested in her...might call her back and tell her why you did what you did...you dont have to suck-up, just tell her you thought she was more interested in him than you. at this point you have nothing to loose...just my.02
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novamanms
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The way I see it, if you can't be real with a girl, there's no point in the first place. But I'm obviously no Casanova.
novamanms said:
it just seems to me females today dont want guys bein real with them. they want them to act like cocky hardasses and speak mtv lingo and listen to usher and then fuck the shit out of them. i think if im gonna be real with her shell think "god this guy actually has emotions. what a fag. time to fuck somebody better looking." this is why i will never get married. i would never trust a wife.
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novamanms
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I agree. But it entirely depends on your priorities. For me, I would rather be true to myself and hopefully luck on running into a girl that digs me for me. For some people, the that's not their first priority.
mrplunkey
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Fuck that...
First: when she started talking about the guy and his eyes, you should have said something like "yeah, even though he sometimes has these huge coldsores on his mouth, his eyes can almost draw you away from them. I wonder if his oral herpes runs in sync with his genetal version, or if they sort of come and go independently of each other."
Second: Never send your girl another guys number.
Third: If you've decided you'll lose the girl, you've probably lost her already. It's 99% mental.
First: when she started talking about the guy and his eyes, you should have said something like "yeah, even though he sometimes has these huge coldsores on his mouth, his eyes can almost draw you away from them. I wonder if his oral herpes runs in sync with his genetal version, or if they sort of come and go independently of each other."
Second: Never send your girl another guys number.
Third: If you've decided you'll lose the girl, you've probably lost her already. It's 99% mental.
Railgun
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Try to have more self confidence bro. Don't assume she'll want something "better" down the line. Sounds like she's already very interested in you (otherwise I don't think she would have gotten mad at the text) and if you are convinced she will move on then you have already created a self-fulfilling prophecy and will start doing things that will push her away (like the phone number). You should create a positive, upbeat atmosphere when you spend time with her and she will be too busy having fun to even remember the other dude.
Maybe you are not fucked but just being taught a lesson. The truth is the truth their are some good looking people in this world. If he is beautuful say it, if he is an ass say it, but best is to move on. Who the fuck says beautiful is better.
Man I have had my moments, my wife is 25 and I am 45 and I swear I will never understand what I did to be so lucky. She blows me away in looks, money everything but she loves me and I do not question I just love her back with everything I've got and prove I am worth it and show I respect it.
That is why my wife comes home every night and she could go anywhere and be with anyone in the world she wants. But she chooses me, that my friend is love!
Don't let her slip by she could be the one. There is some great advice on this thread so listen to them! And stop questioning, hang tough, hold that mug high as I do, and be proud, maybe she see's the real you and that is what she dig's.
Man I have had my moments, my wife is 25 and I am 45 and I swear I will never understand what I did to be so lucky. She blows me away in looks, money everything but she loves me and I do not question I just love her back with everything I've got and prove I am worth it and show I respect it.
That is why my wife comes home every night and she could go anywhere and be with anyone in the world she wants. But she chooses me, that my friend is love!
Don't let her slip by she could be the one. There is some great advice on this thread so listen to them! And stop questioning, hang tough, hold that mug high as I do, and be proud, maybe she see's the real you and that is what she dig's.
chicknlegs
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Seriously dude, you say you don't want to lose her, but you texted her another guys number? C'mon.
The main issue here is now she will think you have low self-esteem.
I'd make an effort to take control now before you are never able to get it back... ring her and tell her you are taking her out somewhere - don't ask - show backbone.
The main issue here is now she will think you have low self-esteem.
I'd make an effort to take control now before you are never able to get it back... ring her and tell her you are taking her out somewhere - don't ask - show backbone.
chicknlegs said:
problem is im 3 hours away from her up at school. i pretty much quit callin her even though it hurts like hell not too. she still calls me pretty much everyday but i feel like i fucked up already that she now knows im a little pussy so that alreayd drove her away. i figure the only way i have a chance now is to ignore her and when i do pick up the phone always act busy or go out to a bar or club where its really loud when i pick up so she gets nervuous and wonders what im doin there. i dont know. i suck with girls. i just hate that i have the looks but not the confidence. im sure there are lots of people in the same boat as me. oh well i just started my tren and winny so at least something will uplift me for a few weeks.
markshark said:
If you don't see the worth in yourself others will not either.
You should find a way to work on that.
That's a big reason young women (and I'm afraid some not so young) fall for that cocky asshole - beside he's confident - even if it's fake he gives off that vide of worthiness and poeple fall for that. (this works in the reverse too - ie; "bitchy self-centered chick")
Takes a big person to see pass what is on the surface but beyond that, beyond personal relationships, to know your value as person, who you are and what you can contribute to this world is the best thing you can figure out about you.
Once you do that - the world is your oyster.
velvett said:
thing is im good at bein that cocky asshole when i first meet girls and am able to pull girls that most people i know dont, but im not really like that as a person. i have low self-esteem, and the thing im worried about is her really getting to know me and finding out im not really the cocky hardass she saw on the first few dates and when she first met me.
markshark said:
Actually, the women I know prefer Alpha guys WITH feelings. Mostly I can't stand BS. Pretending you don't have feelings is BS. Be your freaking self.
You wanna just get laid? Be cocky. You'll get a chick who you can't stand to be around later, but who cares, you got laid. You really like this girl and want to persue a relationship and get laid too? Be yourself.
Ramcononer
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Yea your fucked. Stop doin stupid shit like trying to get her jealous...work on your trust issues...gain some confidence and youll be alright. Be real with her...I know alot of girls that go with guys that arent the typical "hot" guys or whatever but they connect on a better level...try to be her friend and keep it real.
update: we stopped talkin anymore. but its cool because i decided to just be the alpha male shit...so im actually fuckin a hot ass 20 year old, a 42 year old, and 2 girls here at school. fuck gettin in a relationship, id rather be alone and get laid. im still workin on the confidence but its comin around.
Ramcononer
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Thats what I like to hear!....well the more broads you bang the better your confidence or some shit like that!
markshark said:
I dont want to sound like a jerk but its probably a good thing this girl steers clear of you for now. You dont sound like you got your shit together in the mental department the way you describe yourself.
If you dont like yourself nobody else will either. You need to get to the point where you know who you are and I hope this girl likes you for that. If not, it wasnt meant to be, find somebody who does.
well if you tell her how you feel about her and she likes you like that youll get the girl if you tell her how you feel and she says something like i dont want to ruin our friendship then you know, and if she says that it doesnt mean youll never get her but at the moment she hasnt realized how she feels...
if you dont say anything at all youll never no if you and her could have been an item.
when and if you tell her how you feel dont hold back this is your shot, and be confident no what you want and go for it.. good luck and i hope you get the girl
talk to ya later
if you dont say anything at all youll never no if you and her could have been an item.
when and if you tell her how you feel dont hold back this is your shot, and be confident no what you want and go for it.. good luck and i hope you get the girl
talk to ya later
Sassy69
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In the bigger picture - you're young. You'll pass thru levels of maturity & different things become more important at different points in life. Unless you meet someone that is just really an amazing person, then I dont see the point in getting hung up on meeting "Ms Right" right now, but by the same token, this "I'll never get married, I'd never trust a wife" -- don't make assumptions about things that you may view differently as you go thru life. An attitude like that can leave you jaded and forever only partially satisfied with how you are living life. Never feel like you are lesss than anyone else or anyone else has a right to be viewed as better than you as long as you know you are being the best person you can be. And just take life as it comes.
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heatherrae
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Just apologize and make light of the situation and say, "I'm sorry, I thought that you liked him. I didnt mean to offend you." If she still likes you, the conversation will warm up. If not, leave it alone.
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heatherrae
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Yeah, it's just one girl. Live and learn and move on. You will see someone who will turn your head in no time.
bigtasty25
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she was obviously not worth your time bro..better to know now how she is then to find out later on she's not interested. You don't want a girl like that in your life that is mysteriously lusting after someone else...this is the kinda thing that'll happen. If she could comment like that on a guy in the first place, that shows right there she is onto someone else (danger sign), so this was just bound to happen. My advice is to just go after all the great women out there..trust me, theyre rare, but when you find one, it's worth the search =0)
